Time & Energy Management (Recorded Live May 2022)

Okay.

All right.

So let's chat about time and energy management.

Awesome.

So we have folks here for different reasons,

Talking about overwhelmed.

How many of us feel like we look at a task list and we look at all the things we have to do and we think,

How am I ever going to get this all done?

Overwhelmed is the word that's showing up.

I'm overwhelmed,

I'm drained,

I'm tired.

That's why I bring energy into it because a lot of times when we're overwhelmed,

We are tired.

And we're so tired,

We think,

How am I going to get all of this done?

I'm just so exhausted.

I can't do all of the things.

And I'm not here to tell you that.

I'm not here to give you tips and tools so that you do all of the things.

I'm here to show you that you don't have to do all of the things.

Let me rephrase that.

You will do all of the things.

You will do them efficiently and you will do them with energy.

That's the key.

You cannot get them all done in one day,

But you're going to get what you need to get done and you're going to do it with ease and you're going to do it with really good energy.

And there are going to be times where there is a task that you're putting off that you just kind of need to push through and do.

And when you push through and do something,

Even if it's a 15 minute or one hour task,

It's going to give you more energy.

So understanding that concept is really going to be very beneficial.

It's not that because I don't feel like doing something,

I shouldn't do it.

It's understanding what are the things I need to do and where is my energy best put in this moment.

And that really takes a lot of self-awareness and understanding.

And as I said in the very beginning,

It takes a lot of trial and error.

You have to figure out what works for you.

So I'll share the tools that I use,

But the results,

You can use the same exact tools.

Your results might look completely different because your life is not my life.

None of us are exactly the same.

We might have similarities,

But you can still use the same tools to get a completely different result.

That's what's really,

Really beautiful.

Working on my to-do list for summer break.

I just started live on my schedule to look at our summer schedule because I have to work it out with work and scheduling.

How to prioritize because it's been a lengthy list.

Yes.

Hi,

Nikki.

Looking for ways to mama be time.

Budgeting and paying expenses savings.

Beautiful.

Again,

You will be able to use these tools for whatever you're looking to do.

So I like to use a whiteboard.

So for those of you who have been on my life,

I like whiteboard.

It is because I'm a kinesthetic person.

So you will notice I teach with my hands.

So for me,

Writing really helps to keep me up track.

So time and energy management.

So we talked about what are some,

So we talked,

I'm going to ask you,

But we kind of said it.

He said,

We feel overwhelmed.

We said,

We're drained.

Tired.

And there's too much to do.

And we don't know where to start.

So this is,

This is the energy a that we're starting from.

So we want to take this energy and we want to acknowledge it.

Now let's acknowledge and accept because are you beating yourself up?

Because you're like,

I should,

Are you shooting yourself?

I should be getting all this done.

Why don't I have the energy to do this?

Why do I see other people on social media or other people being able to do these things?

But I'm too tired.

Are you noticing that about yourself that you're,

You're disappointed that you're so overwhelmed and that you're so exhausted.

So you're disappointed.

I want to be able to do it all.

I'm failing.

I know someone had put in,

You're taking care of family and putting others first.

Am I,

Am I disappointing other people because I can't show up because I've got too much to do.

Is that a part of what's going on as well?

So understanding and accepting and saying,

This is where I am.

Okay.

I don't want to be here anymore.

So therefore I'm going to come to this class.

I'm going to learn some tips.

So let's first acknowledge where we are and say,

This is where I am.

I feel overwhelmed.

I feel like there's too much to do.

I don't know where to start.

I'm tired.

How am I going to get all this done and say,

Okay,

This is where I am.

Let's take a step to move forward and do something different.

Let's take a step to do something differently.

I don't know if it'll post on my profile today.

It usually takes a couple of days for insight timer when I do a recording.

So as soon as it is,

I will put it in the group though.

I promise I have the other one from last week as well.

So I probably do both at the same time.

So tell you about being all these things and saying,

All right,

How do I do this differently?

How do I,

If we don't want to be overwhelmed,

What are some things we want to feel?

So we'll bring a little manifestation,

A little attraction.

So if I don't want to feel overwhelmed,

So I feel overwhelmed,

Instead of being overwhelmed,

I want to feel at ease.

I want to feel at ease.

I want to feel ease.

I'm drained and I'm tired.

I want to have energy.

Too much to do.

Don't know where to start.

I didn't intend this,

But I like where this is going.

I want to feel efficient.

And then the last one was disappointed.

Let's keep with the ease.

This will be fun.

I'm going to feel excitement.

So we're going to shift all those things that we were feeling.

So rather than overwhelm it,

I want to focus on how can I feel more ease in my life?

How can I feel more ease?

And just simply start by asking the question,

How can I have more energy?

How can I have more energy in my day?

What do I need to do to bring more energy into my life?

Do I need to sleep more?

Do I need to drink more water?

Do I need to eat more fruits and vegetables?

It's not necessarily always do I need to exercise more?

I said to my husband this morning,

We do our workouts together in the morning.

I have been doing so for about two years.

We used to run together all the time.

So it's really,

Really fun.

Since we moved into our new house almost two years ago,

We have a bigger space so we can work out together in our own home.

We didn't have the space to work out together.

So for years we didn't.

So it's very nice.

We've been doing that.

But I've been the last couple of days adding on some extra cardio because they just said I just have energy I need to burn.

And I know by burning that energy and getting that kind of,

I can actually feel more ease and effort and actually bring more energy into my life.

So I can kind of do both at the same time.

Also noticing I need more electrolytes.

When I drink my electrolytes,

When it's hot and humid,

I'm in Pennsylvania,

We've had hot and humid days,

It hasn't lately.

But when I'm sweating and I'm hot and I'm humid and I'm out in the sun,

Water doesn't do it.

So I was like,

Let me try it.

I've found this electrolyte.

It's like,

Let me try this and see how this feels.

I felt a world of a difference.

I'm starting to incorporate that more.

That's where this trial and error comes in.

How can I find more energy and how can I build more energy into my day?

How can I be more efficient?

Now you don't have to answer these questions.

You're not answering these right away.

You're just thinking.

You're letting the ideas percolate.

You're asking the question,

Not how can I not feel overwhelmed?

Because you're going to think of all the traction.

You're going to think of more ways to feel overwhelmed.

So that's why we're shifting the question.

How can I feel more peace?

And essentially just keep asking the question and the answers will come to you or you'll get little ideas or little hits.

How can I work more efficiently?

If you're working from home and you've got a whole new schedule,

How can I work more efficiently?

And then how can I have more excitement,

More fun,

More joy?

I don't want to be disappointing people.

So how can I create more excitement and joy and fun?

So we're going to shift.

We're still asking the questions you were asking before.

I'm so tired and drained.

I don't want to be tired and drained anymore.

I don't want to be overwhelmed.

But we're shifting it so that you're thinking and you're allowing thoughts that provide solutions rather than growing the problem.

So these are solution-oriented questions.

Amy says,

I need to stop watching the news.

So rather than saying,

I need to stop watching the news,

What should you do instead?

Because if you're going to stop watching the news and you're used to watching it,

What are you going to do instead?

I'm going to,

Instead of watching the news,

I'm going to read a book.

Is that a safe option?

Is there something else you could,

Instead of watching the news,

I'm going to go out and go for a walk.

I'm going to play a game with my kids.

I don't know.

I'm going to sit down and write.

I'm going to do a blog.

I'm going to meditate instead.

So rather than stopping something,

Make sure,

Habit building,

Make sure you're replacing it with something as well.

I stopped watching the news many years ago and it is a well worthwhile blessing.

I still know what's going on in the world,

But it is not the central focus of my life.

So let's be more solution-oriented focused.

So our four E's,

I probably should have taken a picture of that.

I'm going to write that down really quick because that one just kind of popped in my head and I love that little inspirational ideas in my head.

So we talked about,

We talked about ease,

Efficiency,

Energy.

That's out of order,

But that's okay.

And excitement.

I like that.

That's fun.

Okay.

Anyway,

Thank you.

Thank you for bearing with me.

You're welcome,

Amy.

Yeah.

Social media is what actually I'm working on a habit replacement of when I was following social media and starting to pay attention and recognize why when I'm on social media and I'll notice I'll pick up.

So I started paying attention to when I was doing it,

Just mindlessly scrolling.

I'd like,

This doesn't feel good.

I don't want to do it.

So I started noticing that.

And now I'm noticing when I'm simply picking up my phone and starting to go towards social media and saying,

Oh,

Is that really what I want to do?

And now this morning I was like,

So I don't want to do that anymore.

What do I want to replace it with?

And I'm in the process of figuring out what I could replace it with or maybe where I could put my phone.

So actually one thing I thought of this morning was putting my phone typically is in the kitchen or usually it's with me.

I use it to meditate.

I use it for insight timer.

But I thought,

Oh,

What if I charge my phone in the office?

I'm not in the office unless I'm working.

So that's especially beneficial on the weekends or in the evenings when it's family time.

So if it's not in the kitchen where I'm cooking and we're eating,

I'm not tempted to look at it.

And then when I am working,

Shifting it back and maybe putting it in the kitchen at that time.

So it is in the opposite side of the house.

So yeah,

That was really great.

It is just try to be aware when you're doing things.

Oh,

I'm automatically,

Cause you've got to have it automatically going to watch you.

It's what I want to replace that.

Yes.

So we've,

We've started shifting the question.

So we shifted the question,

Shifted the question to be solution oriented.

Now what's next?

So we've shifted the question.

What do we want to do next?

What I'm going to give you is the tip that I use on a regular basis.

So we shifted the question.

Now you want to look at your,

I want to put down,

I'm going to put this in one.

So your tasks versus priorities.

So someone had mentioned,

I'm trying to figure out what I'm going to do over the summer.

And I'm so overwhelmed.

There's so many things I want to do.

So yeah,

It's June.

How many times have we been like,

Oh,

You're overly ambitious.

You really do this at the beginning of the year as well.

I'm going to set this really great resolution,

But yet we're a little too ambitious and we go too big.

And then all of a sudden it's,

You know,

The end of summer.

And we're like,

I didn't do half of what I said I was going to do.

Well,

What was I thinking?

I wasn't going to get all that done or could I have gotten all that done?

Had I broke it down into smaller steps?

So we're going to do our tasks versus our priorities.

Every single week,

I write down what needs to be done.

Like the big things that need to be done that week,

What needs to be done for work for personal?

Do I need to pay a bill?

Does,

Do I need to check on something?

And I have a paper planner that I write this down in and I look at it every single day.

So I write down all,

I start with my tasks and this is everything that's on your mind.

Everything on your mind,

Dump it out,

Put it on paper.

That's key number one,

Get it out,

Put it on paper and realize you're just writing it down.

You don't have to do anything with it.

Just get it out of your mind and get it onto paper.

That's key number one.

And then what you're going to do is you're going to list them.

You can number them,

You can write them out.

It doesn't matter what needs to be done first.

So you can rank them by priority.

So do the kids have a field trip paper that has to be signed and it's due on Monday?

Well,

That's top priority.

That needs to be done tonight so that it's ready for tomorrow.

So there's things that have deadlines.

I have to pay this bill and it's due this week.

I'm going to pay this bill.

So rank them by priority.

And then what you're also going to rank them by is,

I'm thinking of how I want to word this because this is kind of where the energy comes in.

So it might not be something that's top priority,

But you want to rank it by something that is bothering you,

Something that's kind of been weighing you down.

So what's,

I'm trying to think,

What's causing the biggest weight on your shoulders?

I'm going to say what's bothering you the most.

So sometimes we have something that's a priority and we say,

I need to get this done,

But oh my God,

This thing that is driving me crazy.

It's not,

It doesn't need to be done now,

But I can't stop thinking about it.

It's the thing you can't stop thinking about and you don't want to do it.

It's maybe not do right away,

But if I do it and get it done,

I'm going to feel so much better.

These are the things that are going to clear your energy so that you can get back to what's a priority.

So for me,

I might have certain workouts that follow me day by day,

Week by week.

And I'm like,

I don't feel like doing this.

And then I realized,

Oh my God,

Just get up,

Do the thing.

And you're going to feel this weight lifted off your shoulders.

And all of a sudden we're going to go back to that energy.

You're going to go back to that.

You're going to have energy because this thing that's bothering you is actually weighing you down.

It's slowing you down and it's causing you to be more drained,

More tired,

More exhausted.

Cause that's mental,

That's mental energy you're using.

So get rid of the mental energy and get rid of the things that are top priority.

Those come first.

I actually like to say this comes first,

Unless there's something that like has to be done in this moment.

But if there's something that's bothering you,

That's weighing you down,

Do that,

Get that out of the way,

Get that off your plate so that it's done and have that sense of accomplishment.

That's then going to snowball or create a domino effect.

Like we talked about last week when we talked about habits,

That's going to snowball into you being able to do more because now you have more energy to do things.

So for me,

Yesterday,

We talked about cleaning weeks ago was vacuuming.

I'm like,

Oh my God,

I need to vacuum.

Oh my gosh,

I just need to get it done.

And I forced myself.

So this is where I said in the very beginning where sometimes you need to use some willpower and just stop complaining,

Stop letting your ego get in the way and just do the darn thing that's bothering you because it's gonna lift a weight off your shoulders.

It's going to be huge.

It's going to be beneficial and you're going to have more energy for other things,

For those other things that are a priority.

What about when they're difficult person,

Do them.

Just do it and get it over with.

If it is draining your energy,

If it is taking up a ton of mental space,

You just have to do it.

You have to bite the bullet and you have to get the thing done,

Especially if it's uncomfortable.

If it's uncomfortable and you're scared and you're worried about it,

You have to do it.

Those difficult conversations are not easy,

Especially if it's a personal one.

But if it's continuing to weigh you down,

These other things are not going to get done because your mental energy is here.

Or you're going to go to do these priorities,

But you're not going to be fully present because you're going to be like having this in the back of your mind.

You just have to reach your teeth and get it done.

Just do it because the more you sit on it,

The harder it's going to get.

I guess I'll avoid this because I don't want them to affect me getting other things done.

Yeah,

And it's actually not going to,

If you're having those difficult conversations or doing those things that are weighing you down,

It's not going to keep you from doing other things.

It's actually going to keep you from energy because you're going to be like,

Oh,

I got it done.

And you're going to feel lighter and you're like,

All right,

What's next?

What do I want to do next?

You know?

Yeah,

You're welcome.

Difficult conversations aren't easy,

But it doesn't mean we avoid them.

It actually means we should do them because you're going to grow.

You're going to have a difficult conversation.

It might not go the way you want.

You could spend time before that conversation,

Depends on how long you've been thinking about it.

Like if you just need to do it,

Just go and do it.

You can spend some time getting into the right head space.

So this is like,

If there's something that's bothering you and you need to get it done,

Just go do it.

Sometimes you need to take three minutes to kind of get into alignment,

Take some deep breaths.

Let's go and just jump right in,

You know,

And you just got to do it and you're going to feel lighter and better afterwards.

So this is what I kind of focus on and I run things by priority every single day.

And to be honest,

Some days it's,

I need to be on time.

I need to be on time for where I need to be today.

I need to focus and I will lay my calendar out.

So I've got my calendar and it's listed by hour starting at 5am all the way till 9pm.

And I will list things out.

Like I have my appointments,

I have my intentional time,

My exercise,

Drop kids off at school.

Go to work or if it's a work from home day,

I kind of list what I need to do.

And I'll actually take my tests and I'll actually put them in my hourly calendar.

So yesterday I had to go to the bank,

I did pick up groceries and I took the kids to the park because we had the day off yesterday.

And that's what I did.

I'm like,

Alright,

We can go to the bank and then we're going to go to the park.

And then after the park,

We're going to pick up the groceries and then we're going to come home.

And then I want to make dinner.

It was kind of a crazy night.

And but I will put those,

I will take those tasks.

So take your tasks and then you're going to put them in your calendar.

And make a commitment and say,

I'm going to do this at this time.

So I'm someone who I like structure,

But with flexibility.

This is where,

Who are you and how do you operate?

What how does,

What works best for you?

I always like to think I'd like,

I always thought I was someone who liked to fly by the seat of my pants and just have fun.

But I realized that wasn't very efficient for me.

So I need a sense of structure.

But I also need to have some flexibility in there.

So sometimes I put stuff on my calendar and I do the same thing.

I get over ambitious and I'm like,

I'm not going to get all of that done.

And over time I've gotten better and I understand more of how to manage my energy.

So again,

This is trial and error.

This is you experimenting with who you are and just being more aware of yourself.

So I can understand,

I understand myself to know I can get really good work done between these hours.

I invest early in the morning.

I like to take a break in the afternoon.

And then I kind of have to sit down and say,

Get back into it and spend another hour or two in the afternoon doing what needs to be done.

Those are on days where I'm working from home and the kids are in school.

Over the summer,

This is all going to shift and change.

And I will shift and change with it.

I put things on my calendar because even if I put it in the morning and it doesn't get done,

I can say,

Oh,

I'll just do it in the afternoon.

And then sometimes it does get shifted to the next day,

Especially if I realize it doesn't have to be done today,

But I really want to get it done.

So if it doesn't,

It doesn't,

That's okay.

Or I can say this has to get done today.

No ifs,

Ands,

Or buts about it.

It has to get done.

I'm going to miss that deadline.

Yeah.

Thank you.

Oh,

I'm so glad this is resonating with you guys.

Plain,

Simple,

Really relevant,

Good advice.

You're so welcome.

Awesome.

Well,

I'm glad this is helpful.

But yes,

Put it on your calendar and make a commitment to yourself,

But also provide yourself grace and flexibility.

So are you someone who really thrives in structure?

Then this is probably going to be really good for you,

But also be aware that if you're over doing it,

You're going to lead to burnout.

So that's where the energy comes in.

So once we do our tasks versus our priorities,

We want to understand our energy.

And when we understand,

Because we don't want to come to burnout,

We don't want to say,

I'm going to do all these things.

And then you go,

Go,

Go,

Go,

And then you completely burn out.

So you want to be aware of your energy and where you're at in your life and how you're feeling.

Do you have experiences where you understand that if I do X,

Y,

And Z,

I'm going to be exhausted afterwards.

And I know this by myself because I've learned it over the last couple of summers.

When I take the kids to the park,

Even if we're only there for two or three hours,

Which does feel like a long time,

But it's an amusement park.

So we could be there for a while.

We're just kind of walking around,

But I always come home from that experience tired.

So in the very beginning,

I'm like,

Oh,

I'll come home and I'll get some work done.

That ain't happening.

I'm too tired.

But like I said,

I tested myself with the electrolytes and I was like,

I'm just going to bring these and pour this into my water and have those.

And I noticed,

Wow,

I didn't come home completely drained.

I actually had some energy.

I might not do any mental work.

So if there's anything where I need to like sit and think and write or be creative,

I'm going to do that in the morning before we go.

I'm going to get that all done before we head out the door.

So typically around two to 3 p.

M.

,

I'm done.

Like I'm exhausted,

Especially if I didn't take a break.

So I usually need about like an hour or so in the middle of the afternoon.

And it all depends on what I'm doing in my day.

But I've learned that if I try to push and not stop at all,

That's not good for my energy.

And I'm not working efficiently and I'm not working with ease.

I'm pushing and it's too hard.

So I notice that if I just take this little break in the middle of the day,

I typically can come back in the afternoon and give myself a really solid hour of getting some extra things done.

And I typically try to save that to be the stuff I don't have to think about.

So maybe it's a house tour,

Laundry,

Vacuuming.

I'm not really doing anything super creative because that's not where my brain is and that's not where my mental energy can go.

So you have to be aware of your energy and the things that you're doing and how they affect your energy.

And this comes with time and patience and awareness.

So you need time.

It takes time to understand.

Patience because you're not going to get it the first time.

And awareness.

So you've got to just constantly be aware of yourself and your energy.

Are you a woman and you're at a certain point in your cycle?

Pay attention to that.

Do you have higher energy or lower energy at certain times?

Every single day I pay attention to where I am on my cycle.

I also pay attention to the moon cycle to understand,

Oh,

It's a full moon.

There's probably going to be a lot of energy from other people.

Or I'm at this part of my cycle,

So my energy is about to dip.

I'm going to see a quick spike and then I'm going to dip again.

This is from tracking it for over two years.

This is where this comes from.

Two years of tracking and paying attention.

Patience.

It doesn't happen overnight.

This takes time and patience and awareness.

And if you hold those three and you're willing to put in the work to do that,

You will see the result and you'll become better at not only managing your time but managing your energy.

And when you're managing your energy and you understand where you are and you're accepting of your energy,

You're better able to manage your time.

Because you can say,

I'm never going to get all that done in that amount of time.

So instead I'm going to spread it out.

Or I'm going to save this task for this day because I know there's not going to be much going on.

So hopefully this is all making sense and helping you out.

Do you guys have any thoughts or questions as we're going through or is anything really resonating with you?

Because this stuff is really fun for me to talk about.

Because it's really us living a super intentional life.

And understanding that we don't have to work as society pushes us to work.

To work from 8 to 4,

To go all day long,

Especially if you're in the United States,

That we're doing too much and we push ourselves and we expect too much of ourselves because others expect so much of us.

But when you learn how to manage your energy and your time,

You actually will be more productive.

This is going to result in an increase in productivity because if you're focusing on the tasks that are most important and are going to alleviate that weight off your shoulders,

You're going to realize how much more energy you do have.

You're like,

Wait a minute.

So you're telling me if I do the thing that's bothering me and just get it done,

I'm going to have more energy to do all these other things that are like,

Ugh,

I don't feel like doing that today.

Well,

Just go do it and get it done.

Yeah.

Any tips for tracking your cycle?

Yeah.

Just pay attention and track it.

Day one,

Day two,

Day three,

Day four.

In my planner,

I have a little box that says cycle and I literally just say day one,

Day two,

Day three,

Day four,

Day five.

And I start to realize like,

Oh,

I'm coming up.

I also do seed cycling,

Which helps regulate my hormones.

And so it's just,

It has to become a part of your daily routine.

And you can even do it weekly.

So that's just,

I like to look at it.

I look at it daily,

But I really look at it weekly.

So at the beginning of every week,

I'll look and I'll say,

Oh,

This week I'm on days 10 to 16.

All right,

This is going to be a pretty,

I'm going to have some energy.

So let me work on making sure I'm grounding myself and also using this energy to be creative and to allow myself to be creative in that moment because that's what works for me.

So it's just tracking and paying attention or there's apps out there.

I think I see some folks posting some stuff.

There's some apps,

Just understanding of,

Oh,

This week I'm going to be a little extra tired.

I'm going to need some more downtime and less creative time.

So really understanding that and just paying attention and being aware of it.

Yeah.

Without too much time.

No.

So I'm going to do it daily every week.

I write what part of my cycle I'm in,

What days I'm in,

And then I write it in every day just so I have the habit and I write it in for the week,

But I just have it in the back of my mind of this is where I'm at this week or I'm a couple of days away from it.

So I might start getting a little moody.

So what can I do to make sure I'm up regulating my hormones and regulating my emotions?

Extra workouts have been helping.

I am not going to lie.

Having that extra energy helps me stay more grounded so that I'm a more calm parent,

Not completely calm,

But I'm better.

Yeah.

So I'm going to scroll up in the comments here.

Scheduling self-care activities in the day.

Yes.

I also find I can only get things done before a certain hour.

Yeah.

So then,

You know,

All the big things need to get done before that time.

I've been ignoring these conversations because I know they have the capacity to take up so much of my energy,

But I understand what you mean about getting it done.

Yep.

Yeah.

You just got to get started.

And then also if it is something that's going to be long-term thing,

I did what I needed to do.

I'm going to move on from it and I'm going to move on to the next thing.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Oh,

Thank you for that recommended book,

Katrina.

That's awesome.

Optimized woman talking about the rhythms of your cycle.

That's cool.

Just go do it.

It doesn't really work with ADHD.

I don't know much about ADHD,

So I cannot talk from that space.

So if that is the case and you're working differently,

That's not where I'm coming from.

So that I can't acknowledge and talk about,

But yeah,

Understand that.

Yeah,

That's beautiful.

That's beautiful advice,

Juliette.

Tell ourselves we could do five minutes is more helpful.

Yeah,

That's awesome.

And you can do that too.

That's a great tip.

Whether you've got ADHD or not.

Say,

I'm just going to sit down 15 minutes and do this.

This is what I'm going to focus on for 15 minutes.

I'm going to set a timer,

Five minutes,

Whatever it is.

I do that as well and just say,

I'm going to sit down for a few minutes.

So I can't talk from an ADHD perspective.

So I love that you went ahead and shared that.

But there are times where we're procrastinating.

So I think when I talk about just doing it and getting it over with,

It's those things that are weighing us down that we're procrastinating on.

And when we procrastinate,

They weigh us down and we just don't get it done.

Those are the things I'm saying,

Just get up and do it.

Maybe set a timer.

You just go do it.

I did that with getting my TSA free check.

I put it off,

I put it off,

I put it off.

And finally I was like,

Bye.

And I'll just go do it.

I went,

I spent an entire morning sitting,

Waiting to get it all done.

But you know what?

I didn't care.

I felt so much better once it was all said and done.

And that weight was lifted off my shoulders.

It was like three hours out of my day.

It's kind of a long time,

But it's like,

You know what?

I need to get this done.

Let me just get up and do it.

And I did it.

Yeah.

Oh yeah,

Mel Robbins five second technique.

I do that to get out of bed sometimes in the morning.

It's really hard.

It gets up earlier than me and it's like,

So I tend to lay,

But sometimes I can fall asleep for too long.

Yeah.

Five,

Four,

Three,

Two,

One.

Just get,

Just go.

Five,

Four,

Three,

Two,

One.

Yeah.

Thinking I'm not doing right.

No,

There is not a right or wrong and there are no right or wrong decisions.

There's just you living your life and learning from your experience.

And every time you learn from your experience,

You do better the next time.

Yeah.

Oh,

The book sparked.

My husband's reading that book right now.

Yeah.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

Juliette.

I completely understand.

And that's where that's what you're living with.

And you need to focus on people who are teaching that that's not where I'm teaching from,

From that space.

But I appreciate you bringing that up and sharing that with me and with all of us.

And then there's a whole bunch of resources that came out of it.

That's why I love this community because you guys support each other.

As I said in the beginning,

I teach from my experience from what has worked for me.

So a lot has what that has worked for me is not going to be perfect for you.

And when I teach,

I always like to say,

Take what works for you and throw away the rest.

So if there's something that I'm teaching and sharing that doesn't work for you,

Then don't do it.

That's how I work with other teachers and books and coaches.

I take what works for me.

And if it doesn't work for me,

I throw it away because I understand they're teaching from their experience.

And that's what worked for them.

And just because it worked for them doesn't mean it's necessarily going to work for me.

But if I can piece things together from different people,

From different teachings,

From different information,

Then I can bring together what works for me.

You guys can do the same as well.

That's how we should learn.

We shouldn't say this person said to do X,

Y,

And Z.

That's all I'm going to do.

We should take from different people and different teachers and then do what works for us and create our own thing because we're all different.

Nobody is exactly the same.

Yeah,

Habit stacking is another really great thing of what do I want to do?

What am I already doing that I can then stack on another habit and then continue to let that grow and build?

But you have to be intentional.

So I want to put that on here because if you're saying,

I want to read more books,

I want to have more time,

I want to have more energy,

That's super general.

But let's be intentional.

And that's why I really focus on what are the tasks,

What are the priorities,

What needs to be done today?

That's being intentional.

Whether you get to it or not,

You'll learn every single day from your life experience.

And if you're saying,

I didn't get to it today,

Well,

Why didn't I?

Well,

Maybe I overplanned and I thought I was going to get more done or maybe something happened and there were a bunch of fires I needed to put out today.

So there's a bunch of fires you need to put out.

Well,

Guess what?

That's life and life happens.

So the things on your list may not have gotten done or if there were a bunch of fires you needed to put out,

But you knew what your priorities were and you're like,

Well,

As long as I get A and B done,

Then I'm good.

Or as long as I got A done,

I'm good.

Or those fires took priority.

So it's being intentional,

But also being flexible.

Because this is life.

We have control over ourselves.

We don't have control over our external environment.

And we don't have control over other people,

How they're going to react,

What they're going to do,

What their energy is.

We don't have control over somebody else's energy.

All we have control over is ours.

And I've been focusing a lot lately on when I'm in certain experiences or certain situations of saying,

How can I focus on my grounded center?

And I actually will put my hand here and just say,

If there's a lot going on around me,

There's a lot of chaos or there's just a lot just breathing and saying my focus in this moment is finding my calm and my ease,

Not forcing somebody else to come down or forcing somebody else to do something.

Where can I be in this moment?

And that's being intentional,

But being flexible,

Saying this is life and life is going to constantly be changing.

And our job is to be able to be proactive and think on our feet.

And if we're ahead of the game and we're not just reacting to everything,

We're being proactive,

We're being intentional,

We're also being flexible because we need to know what's happening and what's going on.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Habit stacking,

Tips for focusing,

Repeat anchor words.

Yeah.

Posting words somewhere,

Keep your space clean,

Breakdown tasks.

These are all beautiful,

Beautiful tips.

Thank you,

Juliette.

I appreciate that.

Yes.

Deadlines.

That's the same thing as being intentional.

I'm going to get this done by such and such a date and I'm going to break it down.

Yeah.

Yeah.

There's all really,

Really great,

Beautiful tips,

But it really does come down to time,

Patience,

And awareness.

If you're not aware of where you are and how you feel,

And you're not patient with yourself and giving yourself praise and saying,

This is life,

I am learning and I am living every single day.

And every time I do something,

I'm learning from that experience.

And I'm learning that,

A,

It worked for me or B,

It didn't.

So if it didn't,

I'm going to try something different the next time.

Or I'm going to try something and maybe didn't work the first time,

But let me give it another shot.

Let me try again tomorrow.

I really liked how doing this felt.

So let me do it again and again.

How do we create habits?

We create habits by doing something over and over and over again.

And eventually our brain learns how to do it.

So it stops using the conscious brain to do it.

It stores it so that we have more energy to learn something new.

That's why habits are really,

Really beautiful.

So habits,

Creating really good health habits will allow you to have your time and energy management down even more and to be able to really focus that energy.

So shifting the question.

So shifting that question from,

I don't want to be overwhelmed to how can I feel more at ease?

Shifting the question to be solution oriented.

Knowing your tasks versus your priorities.

Yeah,

There's a whole lot I want to do,

But there's actually like one or two things that I need to do today that need to get done today or that I want to focus on getting done today or that's weighing me down.

So I'm just going to do it and get it over with and I'm going to feel 10 times better later.

And then it's being aware of your energy,

That time,

Patience and awareness.

Focusing on being intentional but flexible.

Understanding intentionality around you,

But being flexible with other people on the external environment because this is where you don't have control.

So you have control here over yourself.

So we could say you probably can't even see this yourself,

But flexible with the external and internal really.

Flexible with the external environment and intentional with the internal environment.

So let me be intentional about myself and whatever happens around me happens around me,

But I'm going to be intentional about me.

I'm going to focus on me and what I need.

Yeah.

Oh,

You're so welcome.

Thank you guys so much.

I started journaling 10 days ago and found it so hard to start,

But now it's feeling like it will become second nature.

Absolutely.

That's how I felt about meditation.

I meditated off and on for about a year,

Took about six to eight months off and then made the commitment.

I got intentional and made a commitment and said,

I'm going to meditate for 30 days.

No questions asked.

And I did it and it very quickly became a habit and it's something that has stuck with me.

So I've meditated consistently for,

I guess since 2018 on a pretty consistent basis.

And it's been really,

Really helpful.

So you might be able to create a habit in 10 to 30 days.

It might take you a whole year to create that habit.

I talked a lot about habits last week as well,

Because it talked about breaking that habits and things that I'm working on myself.

So time and energy management,

It literally takes time.

And when you're aware of your energy and you focus on you,

You spend too much time saying,

I need to do this for other people.

And maybe there are tasks.

So maybe you work for somebody else.

I do.

And there are things I need to do for work,

But just need to get done.

So when am I going to do that?

When my energy is at its best.

When is my energy at its best?

I know I work best,

Excuse me,

First thing in the morning.

Why do I teach early in the morning on Saturdays?

This is where my energy is the best I could attempt.

And I have done an attempt to teach in the evening.

It's not great.

It's not pretty.

I don't give you the best of me.

I can show up and be here,

But you're not going to get the best energy from me.

I've also learned after I teach these lessons,

What do I then need to go do next?

What do I do?

I need to go break.

I typically need about a 30 minute break.

I go,

I eat,

I hang out,

And then I kind of do some other things that need to happen because I need to find some grounding after I sat up here and teach for an hour.

Yeah.

So this is a really beautiful conversation.

If you guys would like to continue it,

Of course,

We have a group.

It's called Manifest Your Life.

I love our little group.

And I learned today,

I found my four E's when I'm talking about time and energy management that we want to focus on ease,

Efficiency,

Energy,

And excitement.

So thank you for being present for that download today.

That was a really cool thing that happened.

And thank you for the resources,

For being a part of the conversation.

Insight Timer as a community,

You all are just so wonderful and so amazing.

You support each other.

Somebody asked a question and next thing I know,

There's all of these resources that pop up in the chat.

So the fact that you can support each other is beyond amazing for me.

I love to see it.

I love being able to say,

Well,

I did this live and I created this community and someone else got a resource.

Someone else got something that they could go to,

Another teacher,

Another book,

Another lesson,

Another track on Insight Timer that will help them in their journey.

So thank you as always for showing up,

For sharing,

For being a part of the conversation,

For helping me grow as a teacher and for helping me become a better teacher here on Insight Timer and then in general and a better coach.

So you allow me to grow and I believe all of the teachings I've done here at Insight Timer,

Everything I've talked about,

The community,

All of the things that you shared,

Being up here helps me learn more and I get to become better by simply showing up and having all of you and your support and your community,

Your community support to be here.

So thank you guys so much for that.

Please join us in our group.

It's called Manifest Your Life.

I will be scheduling some more lives over the next coming weeks and like I said,

My schedule will be changing.

So I'll probably still be doing Saturdays,

But my schedule is shifting because I'll be home with the kids this summer and working in the evenings.

So things are going to be shifting around and I'm like,

Oh,

How do I want to play and have fun with Insight Timer and kind of having my mornings with the kids?

We don't really do things until like 10,

11 o'clock in the afternoon because things don't really open until then.

So what can I do and how can I show up to be here for all of you and maybe do a little bit more teaching?

So I'm kind of in the phase of figuring out what comes next for me and I just thank you all for being a part of the conversation and being a part of my journey as a teacher and a coach,

Especially here on Insight Timer.

So thank you guys so much.

Any questions you can private message me on Insight Timer.

You can pop into the group and ask a question.

I'm happy to share any of my resources,

Anything that I can think about and you are more than welcome to share some of your resources.

So pop into the group,

Manifest your life and share your resources from today and share your learning and what you got out of it and I will let you know when the next live is and what the topic will be.

So thank you all so much.

You are so very welcome and I will see you all in the group and hopefully see you on our next live,

Possibly next weekend.

All right,

Thank you guys so much.

Have a beautiful rest of the weekend.