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Soft Encounters | Part One: Cassy

by Ruben Bach

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In this recording, Ruben is responding to Cassy, who shared a beautiful message in the online classroom of the IT course 'Navigating Intense Moments In Life'. Ruben's response might be helpful for others to listen to. Listening to others who also enjoy the effortless practice of 'Short Moments of Softness and Clarity' is very helpful. It is with great joy that Ruben is now sharing a series of responses between his 'students' (fellow travelers) and him for those who feel like deepening their effortless practice. This recording includes a guided meditation. Part of Cassy's message to Ruben: Thank you, Ruben! Your first episode moved and gripped me. I've been stuck for so long in chronic illness-enforced isolation. I have severe ME/CFS and a highly sensitized nervous system from too much trauma. Your meditative voice, wisdom, and long pauses allowed me to remember what I already knew - how precious the is-ness of being is. The rest of this text message can be found in the online course.

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Transcript

Cassie,

Thank you so much for your beautiful response.

It really touched my heart deeply while reading it and receiving it.

Made me silent and it does that right now as well.

I feel like dropping into stillness.

Your message about your chronic disease and your way of dealing with this.

All the challenges that come across.

Just a deep sigh is coming right now.

At some point you're sharing about lying on your bed in your Melbourne apartment,

Feeling sad that you cannot be in the world.

Hmm.

What to say?

Yeah.

I've been speaking with Irene,

A woman from Finland.

And she had to stay in her bed for about 23 hours a day for many years.

We came to speak to each other through the Living Dying Project.

She had contacted them to ask for some support.

To share about her situation and some of her fears about dying.

What I noticed within her was this wisdom.

She was able to tap into this beautiful space,

Connecting with her Guru Rinpoche.

We spoke for many hours a week,

Three mostly,

For almost a year.

And each time we met,

There was this beautiful clarity.

Somehow,

Because of truly exploring death and dying,

We both gained more trust in life.

And actually,

Those moments where we spoke were just so warm and loving.

And there was a lot of humor as well.

What I learned from that mostly is that sharing with each other is such a powerful way to drop into this more spacious,

Locationless space.

Yeah.

We were silent as well,

While speaking with each other.

And at the end of Irene,

Her life,

She was really at peace,

At ease.

Ready to go.

Ready to leave her body.

Hmm.

And I think this exploration of death and dying is very helpful,

Also when one is feeling physically okay.

What I also learned from speaking with Irene is that I could never really understand how she must have felt.

I also shared this with her.

It's very hard to imagine how it would be to no longer be able to just go out into the world.

So when reading your message,

I deeply felt,

Hmm,

Compassion.

And also knowing that I cannot really totally feel how you are feeling.

I can guess a little bit and feel into it.

I'm very grateful for your message.

And it's very beautiful to read that my guidance during these sessions was helpful for you.

For now I feel I can just be here for you.

Although only via this audio message,

Which you cannot answer via audio.

Yeah.

I do hope that you feel what I'm trying to communicate.

Hmm.

Maybe it's nice for you and I,

And maybe others that are listening right now,

To take a deep breath and to notice again in this timeless moment that life in its essence is very silent,

Unchanging.

And somehow when we become more silent,

It seems to be possible to drop even deeper.

Deeper and deeper.

Letting go.

Putting things down.

And automatically another deep breath arises.

Showing me that somehow my whole perception of life can soften.

Softer and softer.

Cassie.

Yeah.

Hope you can feel this right now.

The feeling of being Cassie.

Being less in the front.

As if dissolving a little bit.

Less Cassie.

Less Ribbon.

More spaciousness.

Softness.

Love.

No more opinions.

Less thinking.

Hmm.

And the feeling of being Cassie again,

And Ribbon,

Might arise.

Sometimes quite quickly.

We both have this beautiful opportunity right now to no longer emphasize.

Thinking.

Drop more into the heart.

I find it very helpful at times to let all thoughts slowly go down through the head.

From above.

Down.

Slowly into the heart.

While thinking or worrying.

Hmm.

Slowly from above.

All those thoughts and feelings.

Sensations.

Into the heart.

This heart that welcomes all.

Truly welcomes it all.

This heart that is so spacious,

Warm and loving.

Non-personal.

Hmm.

So spacious.

And when all thoughts,

Emotions and feelings,

Slowly from above,

Are invited into the heart,

You might be able to notice that life feels spacious,

Silent,

Soft,

Warm.

And if some more thinking seems to be there,

Just invite it down.

From above,

Slowly down into this beautiful,

Spacious,

Loving,

Non-personal heart.

The essence.

Source.

Hmm.

Softening.

Moment to moment.

And knowing that this is possible,

Moment to moment.

Also,

When you feel worried,

Or anxious,

Or sad,

Know that this heart,

The source of it all,

You,

Your essence,

Is welcoming everything.

Is able to hold it all.

So after listening to this message again,

You might notice during your day that it's possible to do this little practice maybe.

Or to just soften.

And if somehow confusion keeps arising,

Or worries,

Or sadness,

Know that it's possible to return again to this message,

Or other messages.

And know,

Kesi,

You're very welcome also to contact me.

You're truly welcome.

And I also hope that you can find somebody to share this space with,

Like Irene and I did together.

This was so healing for both of us.

I cannot make these recordings too long,

Although I could keep on going.

I feel it's very beautiful to be in this space with you,

Kesi,

Right now.

Hmm.

Wishing you a very beautiful day and love to hear again from you.

I will also respond to your other message you sent me.

Thank you so much,

Kesi.

Much love to you.

Meet your Teacher

Ruben BachDieren, Netherlands

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Recent Reviews

Dee

January 22, 2025

Such extraordinary real, honest, profound words. Thank you deeply Ruben. Like Cassy, I'm in Australia and live with severe ME/CFS and am housebound except for medical appointments. Since Covid made me so sick and disabled 2 years ago, it has been incredibly difficult and distressing to be so isolated from the world. I don't know how I'd have survived without Insight Timer. I found your recordings recently and am incredibly grateful for the depth of your wisdom and generosity. It's a very rare combination of empathy, compassion, fearlessness, and egolessness, I think. I have connected with Cassy thanks to seeing her comments. (You might be interested to know that a Dutch man who was a professional ballet dancer also has this illness and writes about his housebound life - his name is Anil Van der Zee). Irena I'm sure greatly valued all those hours of conversation with you ❤️ Dee 🙏

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