Hi,
I'm Rebecca.
I guide people to declutter their physical and emotional spaces,
Making room for clarity,
Calm,
And a deeper connection to what matters most.
This is a topic that's especially close to my heart,
Friendships,
Because for many of us,
Especially those who are highly sensitive,
Friendship can be one of the most tender,
Complicated parts of life.
If you've ever felt like you care too much,
If friendships sometimes leave you feeling raw instead of restored,
Or if you're quietly grieving a connection that no longer fits,
You're not alone.
This is a soft space to land,
A gentle reflection on why friendship can feel so hard sometimes,
And how we can navigate it with compassion,
Boundaries,
And gratitude.
So take a breath with me.
Let's begin.
There have been seasons where I felt untethered.
Friendships I once leaned on began to feel off.
And because I'm sensitive and an empath,
I didn't just notice the shift,
I felt it.
In my breath,
My body,
My nervous system.
I thought maybe I was the problem.
I'm too much,
I'm too emotional,
I'm too intense.
But I've learned we're not broken.
We're built for depth.
And sometimes the people we've walked with don't walk with us forever.
That doesn't mean it wasn't real.
It just means it's time to recalibrate.
As highly sensitive people,
We show up fully.
We hold deep,
Expansive space for others.
But over time,
Some of us realize not every relationship is reciprocal.
Some become one-sided,
And that slow erosion of balance leads us feeling depleted.
You may have felt it too,
What I call the emotional hangover,
Even after joyful interactions.
Because when we absorb everything without replenishment,
It catches up with us.
It's okay to need more rest.
It's okay to outgrow certain dynamics.
It's okay to want to feel met.
There's a term I use in my work as well,
Legacy friendships.
These are the relationships from old chapters,
The ones we've outgrown,
But still carry out of loyalty or guilt.
Letting go of a friendship doesn't mean the love wasn't real.
It just means your needs,
Your values,
Or pace has changed.
I approach decluttering in the same way,
With gratitude at the center.
Thank you for what we shared.
Thank you for who I was when we met.
Thank you for all the lessons you have taught me.
And now I release you with love.
I choose to pause the relationship and hold space for their growth and my own growth.
This practice softens grief and helps us clear space for new,
More aligned connections.
If you're wondering what a green light feels like in a relationship,
Here's a gentle reminder.
You feel safe being your full self.
You don't have to shrink to be accepted.
Your nervous system settles.
You breathe easier.
You leave feeling filled,
Not empty.
And when that happens,
It's not just chance.
It's your sensitivity saying,
Yes,
This is a space I can soften into.
This is a space where I feel safe.
But even before we find those green lights,
We can create them within.
Belonging doesn't start with a group chat or a coffee invite.
It starts with you.
The quiet moments when you honor your needs.
The times you choose rest over performative connection.
The days you say,
I am enough even without the invite.
Your self-compassion becomes the container that holds you between relationships.
And from there,
The right ones come.
If it feels right,
Take a breath here.
You might place a hand on your heart and gently ask yourself,
What kind of connection am I craving right now?
Is there a friendship I've outgrown?
What would it feel like to be met fully?
Whatever arises,
Greet it with curiosity.
There's no need to rush.
Thank you for sharing this space with me.
Friendships,
Like seasons,
Change.
Some bloom again,
Others fade with grace.
You get to choose what stays and how.
May you release with love.
May you rest in your own company.
And may you feel the quiet joy of being met by others,
But also by meeting your own needs.
Thank you.
