Things That Helped Me To Survive Tough Times

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That helps a lot to me for my intention to reach out to many people through the voice,

Through the tools and techniques that I bring in trying to summarize what was helping me through my life.

So with that like today's topic is about things that helped me to survive in tough times.

So it's not a new thing,

I'm not the only one who had a tough times or challenging times growing up or your adulthood or teenage years like you know any times like you know we all can recollect those memories but there is always some force that gets us through the times like you know there are some practices that you would have implemented and made yourself feel good better for yourself.

So with that intention some we all got the light or the power within us that's the most important thing like you know these tools that I share maybe you already know it you're already practicing it maybe you're not aware that you're gifted with these tools and if some of the things are standing out for you do bring it up make a note in your journal so you practice them so you will feel like you know oh let me try this next time like you know that I wish like you know anyone to have rough times but like these are inevitable it could be a smaller stress times or a bigger thing as well like you know.

So here are a few things that I'll be sharing with you.

So a couple of things that do come in like you know these strengths no matter what the situations are what circumstances they are our childhood plays a bigger part like you know so there are some teeny tiny bits like you know but that I have ingrained is one thing that my parents always consistently said is like you know believe in yourself as long as you have done everything you could to be in in control of the situation that's the only thing that you need to address into like you know and if you are feeling that you have haven't completed something or you could do more to it that's a scope to learn more and to do more like you know so with that think about like you know what was your biggest relief or a word or a code that has always stayed with you like you know that will help you to ingrain yourself onto knowing that you are a survivor you are a fighter not to give up in every tough times like you know it's easier like you know to build those friends when you're in a good moment or a happy moment it is really like the real challenge real moment of questioning is who is staying with you when you are going through a rough time that is what I have realized in the last couple of years especially like you know who stuck by my like you know understanding me or supporting me my family members it could be or my closest friends it could be like you know and that gave me an immense strength to move forward and some things that I have ingrained like you know when I turned 29 gave birth to my second child as my illnesses my chronic illnesses started plunging over my body that I couldn't even walk move like you know literally can't even couldn't even change a nappy without making itself to be a bigger chore in my day at the time was the gratitude that came in that gratitude is still my strongest anchor in all the tough times that I have been through or the traumatic events that have really shaken up me from the core of who I am today is that gratitude feeling it knowing it like you know trying to just focus on what is that one moment that I'm grateful for what is that one feel that I'm really grateful for like you know when you just stop by and you question like you know when you're feeling bad about yourself or a situation ask what are the some of the things that you're really grateful for right now because sometimes the magnitude of lack is so big that we really can't see what we have so it's always about zooming in and seeing what are the things that you have it already maybe we've forgotten that moment or maybe we didn't recognize the gift that you're already having it and it helps you to remember how much good there is in life and that gives you a reason not to feel sorry for yourself not to feel sad about it or get into that dark hole as well and that is the most important thing here is something that I also do is write something so create a list or a chart where you say that 10 things that you're super grateful for or super proud about yourself because in these low moments in these tough times they become your anchor they become your strength in your life like you know before you even reach out to someone they are in built strength you are having like you know and something bigger is always holding us to be there to see that part of us yeah it does help us to cope with the difficulties challenges and reminding like you know despite of any problem what is the bigger part here someone will say like you know hey I'm struggling with a job loss right now like you know or like you know I don't have enough finances to pay my bills it could be like you know but also think about like you know what are you wanting to create is this an opportunity that you really want to speak about it take that risk that you're always plunging not to do it is this a creation that you want to and parallelly like looking for jobs is ideal but also parallelly look into it creating something that is going to be meaningful to you like you know and think about if it's the finances like what do you have that you are not going to use it is there something that you can trade in like is there something that you can move things through as well and that's the most important thing like you know reshuffling your thoughts and recollecting the happy memories as talking about reshuffling like you know recollecting the happy memories is the best thing like you know in those tough times um my my favorite way is to take an old photo album and go through back in the days when we used to print the photo pictures more than the digital version I absolutely love it because it's like a teleportation into a different portal and you are seeing the blessings you had those smiles those connections location it could be the family member it could be like you know the warmth reminding you of some situation that you have felt forgotten you are wondering like you know simply to bring that vibe back with you when you do that your heart feels full and you start being more thankful to yourself and you start noticing more beauty inside you and around you as well and the other thing is to appreciate the smaller things like everything starts with a small smaller micro level and you start really appreciating and being meaningful to life yeah in that moment when you shift this patterns the thoughts you will notice that you know there is nothing absolute to worry about and it just reminds us in those moments those fractional moments is how it is so validating and important to be even like you know to be happy with yourself that's the most important thing so these are some things that you do do by yourself build that strength but there are some instances that has happened where I couldn't pull myself with these tools even I'm being very honest here I couldn't but the other things that saved me was coffee date with my friends I would organize like you know meet and chat like you know sometimes not about the issue that I was going through something completely out and random things that would uplift me that would keep me away from overthinking about the same things like you know and then when I come back home or when I come back to my own space I would be re-looking into was I even right in thinking did I feel that way is there anything else that I missed to be thinking about it because your soul tribe these soul friends are the ones who will lift you up having meaningful people who will have a long conversation deep-hearted conversations are the people you always reach to out closer in your life either go for a walk and just connect to them at like a level so I do have friends like you know in different areas of my life one for who understands my spiritual work where I can have totally totally be myself meaningful conversations whereas I would have other friends who would be just like you know more social connection and I would have other friends where I would be friends with them because my kids enjoy their company or their kids company as well so I do have a different types of community around build me that I feel so grateful that like I just need to anchor to know what I need right now like you know at times having everyone you may feel lonely or you may feel like you know I don't feel comfortable opening up but think about you are setting or giving a little break in the thought pattern or the feel that you're having in that moment and you never know actually don't judge them by their past or previous experiences how they were to you but think about like you know we are all growing they might have shifted they might have changed themselves so feel if you feel like you know this might be worth it go for it and surrender to that moment and just let your heart expand so the other way is like you know building up your practice of finding not only the gratitude but a joy in the small things like you know joy in like bubbles blowing bubbles or having like a chocolate ice cream or like you know a random call to like a friend that you recently met like you know going for a walk and talking to complete stranger there like you know on your walk so these just lift you up like you know we are all craving for human connection so definitely like you know these are going to be our light bulb moments in our life yeah and again like you know just nothing nothing else like beats up what a gratitude can do to us like you know I usually practice my gratitude first thing in the morning and the last thing in the night as well as a closure three things that I'm grateful for three things that I'm recollecting and three things that I was excited from the whole day like you know so that's a sets a tone like and when you go to bed you are more stronger than you can imagine yourself for those who would be thinking like you know oh she's so lucky or she has her tribe she found her tribe like you know believe me like there are days when I don't even want to meet them like you know it's too personal to process or I'm not ready yet to have a conversation the best thing is my pages my journals are my best friends I journal I write my worries I write my stresses I write my emotions I just as I'm writing I realize that I have actually vented or expressed or poured the emotion onto these pages and that healing me and sometimes I do find my answers that I have been looking searching for within me through these words that I have just written it down like you know so definitely that helps as well like you know it need not be any format you need not have any structure but it's all about like you are writing you are expressing and you are giving an opportunity just to be there that's the most important thing like you know and writing simple things like you know I'm feeling so crappy today because this person made me feel like that like you know and after that when you check into that moment of experience you are not having the same thing because you have moved away from it you let it go you forgive and you're just holding on to a tiny memory of it but you're not holding on to the whole impact that you're having it yeah give it right like you know next time you feel about it like you know or type it up in your phone or in your laptop as well and notice how you feel but something there is something magic about the way we hold the pen or pencil and write it in a book like you know nothing beats that up yeah so truly like you know life is not always easy but we can always take the actions and be grateful for and turn around like you know turning around is the most important thing tough times could be inevitable they will come and go it it's what matters most is how we handle them when they do happen and so that's the most important thing I really want you to understand and be uplifted with these tools that you can bring it up to and it need not be always tough as well like you know we can change that our game the way we want to and you got the power control you got it when you want to switch on and off about it I have heard some people saying hey life is just a curse or life is just a curse or such a like you know tough thing I really don't want to feel this way like you know but then you do something different to what we have been doing so far give it a chance maybe you I hear some people saying hey I tried everything you've mentioned here nothing changed but next time with intentionally knowingly give a chance for your soul to grow and just feel that one more time and see are you having a miraculous moments or are you having a growth moments and what is that you are feeling right now and you may wonder at times is that even possible like you know is that all that simple I'm telling you it's not simple it's doable is what I would reiterate for you and that is what is more important like you know it could be someone having life-threatening things it could be something like you know a trauma of a breakup or a grief like you know a loss of something so things will be shifted like you know we can shift it once we know understand feel it and sense it and move rather than suppressing it the biggest mechanism we were told always is to move on not to anchor feel and then move forward and this is where these things come in like you know when we are in a tougher times yeah even though like you know we still will feel difficulties bad experiences but it is about how you will be seeing things around how you will still have the quickest smile possible like you know and that is the most important hope you need to have in yourself to look deep allow yourself to look deeper as well here so a couple of things to just remind you guys like you know staying focused staying positive into the present moment setting small like you know things that you can bring joy into your life having soul tribe coffee dates with your friends or walk dates as well and definitely exercise or eating healthy or getting enough sleep will all add on to the value of it and having some mechanisms like meditations journaling yoga as well and think about what are you really controlling and is there anything that you can let go give permission for you to let go for the things that you just can't control as well and having that most beautiful moment gratitude moment in and out in your life is the practical way to connect and also finding your own hobbies so never underestimate the power of hobby that brings a little deviation or a joy into your life and journaling as well and with that always always be kind to yourself be patient with the process of this healing with this tough time with this challenging moment and they're all temporary just like those happy moments were temporary these are temporary too and you can move out and move and move deep into yourself so you are stronger than any challenges that come and go here so be grateful be uplifted and be connected to your soul as always and thank you for listening to me and hope this was valuable hope you got some nuggets that were helpful for you in your path and do let me write to me which were the ones that you really enjoyed and what has helped you in this podcast i love to hear and i love to connect and i wish you all a very good life and a joyful uplifted life with that thank you so much guys Namaste.