Affirmations To Assist Healing Religious Trauma

And this is the place to find yourself,

Be yourself,

And then let others do the same.

Those that are watching,

Y'all,

I am in San Juan,

Puerto Rico,

And I decided to bring my equipment to record,

Do some work.

So this is like a work vacation.

Just sometimes you just need an opportunity to get away.

So anyway,

We're going to keep this party going.

And today we are talking about the power of words,

Using affirmations to help and assist heal your trauma.

So here we go.

Let's dig into it.

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Be yourself,

And let others do the same.

♪ ♪ And let others do the same.

Find yourself,

Be yourself.

♪ ♪ And let others do the same.

Find yourself,

Be yourself.

♪ ♪ And let others do the same.

Find yourself,

Be yourself.

♪ ♪ And let others do the same.

♪ All right,

Guys.

So we're going to talk about the power of words and affirmation and the usage of words to help navigate you through this space of trauma.

For me,

The trauma that I would say I've experienced has been on so many layers,

So many layers,

So many levels.

The one of those levels I have already talked about is divorce.

And those that have never experienced a divorce,

It is one of the most painful things I've ever walked through,

Reshifting,

Reimagining what my life would be based on an event that I didn't plan for,

Wasn't expecting,

But here I am.

And sometimes those negative feelings can be overwhelming and can get the best of you.

On top of experiencing what I now know is called or coined a religious trauma,

Some people may say spiritual awakening.

Some people may say dark night of the soul,

But it's definitely a shift in how I connect with God and things that I believe and how I relate and experience Jesus in a different way.

So different than what my upbringing was.

And so now that I'm in this new space of what's real to me,

Knowing my words and seeing my words in action have been really huge for me.

So I figured as I was pondering what to talk about in this podcast,

Especially because we are,

Again,

Pivoting to change names,

Show names,

And really do content centered around more religious trauma and what it is,

I figured I would use this moment to talk about affirmation and those that follow me,

You know that I strive to do a daily affirmation,

Not just for myself,

But to release to those that are following my story,

Whether it's in TikTok,

Instagram,

Facebook,

YouTube,

I probably need to do better about posting on YouTube at Instagram,

But it is in motion,

Like for real.

So let's get into it.

I wanna really kind of use a scripture reference to really ground this conversation on why I use affirmation,

And as well as tie it into some things that I have researched and learned along the way.

And that scripture,

I haven't looked it up,

But I might wanna do that right now.

I actually have a computer in front of me.

So let me just look up the scripture real quick so that we can all know where this is coming from.

And this is a Bible verse that comes out of Proverbs 12 and 18 and it says,

Death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruits.

I'll say that again,

Proverbs 12 and 18,

Death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Then there's also another reference here that says from Proverbs 18,

21,

A dental tongue is a tree of life,

But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.

So with that being said,

I have found that there is really power in what you say.

And when I look at what I've experienced in my own life,

A lot of negative thoughts and emotions arise from this type of experience.

Talk of self-hate,

Sometimes talks of suicide and taking your life or taking my own life rather.

And I'm not saying this as a pity party,

I'm saying it because these are really emotions that come up.

These are things that I have dealt with in this change in life altogether.

Negative thoughts,

Negative words.

At one point,

It felt like it consumed me,

Consumed me to the point of low key,

Almost depressed and maybe not wanting to label it depression,

But through therapy,

I was actually talking to my therapist at one point and he was going to put me on medication because he felt as though I was really depressed and grieving my marriage.

And I was like,

Yeah,

We're not doing that.

We're not doing that.

So I opted out of medication because I'm not really big on taking pills and stuff like that.

But I found that changing my perception was going to be key in changing my outlook on what I was experiencing.

So with going back to this particular verse,

There's death and life in the power of the tongue.

I started to say affirmations,

To speak and declare what I wanted and who I perceived myself to be and to shift my sight on what I thought was happening to me.

So for example,

Instead of complaining,

I would turn around and say,

This too is going to pass.

And I know that's probably kind of churchy,

But I would say things like that,

Like this too shall pass,

Or this is working for my good.

Or if I felt as though somebody said something wrong,

Working to change that idea of,

Oh,

They're doing it for doing it against me,

Changing my verbiage to speak to the place in me that says,

You know what?

They didn't mean anything by it.

Or,

You know what?

I don't have to take it like that.

Or,

You know what?

I don't have to let that get to me.

Versus digging this rabbit hole of,

Oh my goodness,

I can't believe they said that,

Or OMG,

How dare they say that?

I know that's the same thing,

But you get what I mean.

Like really,

All right,

Sorry about that,

Y'all.

I meant to turn my phone off,

And I know my coaches would be like,

Titus,

Turn that phone off.

So just for me to stop myself from going down this rabbit hole of negative thinking and negative talk and telling myself this story of what somebody is trying to do to me,

I have made it a habit of speaking the opposite of that negative emotion to get my energy or my spirit or my emotions to shift.

And I have found that it helps.

It helps to speak those positive affirmations.

It helps to declare or put it in the atmosphere what you're desiring.

Another thing that I have found is it keeps you in a positive mood more often.

And not only keeps you in a positive mood,

But it kind of deters you from wanting to be around negative people because you understand the power of words.

So now you distance yourself from people that don't know the power of their words.

And I have found often that when I'm in those environments with those that are continuing to speak negative words,

I find myself putting a positive to cancel out the negative that is around me or shifting my thoughts in my head from the negative that I'm receiving on the outside.

So I constantly put myself in a position to feel better in a positive state versus a negative state.

I have found that when I use affirmations,

It also helped me to stay focused mentally to focus on the positive in a way that my day just goes better.

And it shifts me,

Or I see the shift rather,

In how I feel and in my thoughts.

I'm able to focus on the task at hand.

I'm able to get things done in a more effective way when I am talking or affirming myself.

Next thing,

It helps me to affirm others and to see the good in them.

And if not the good,

It helps me to have compassion of those that have negative talk.

Because genuinely,

You start to feel like,

Wow,

They really don't know the power of their words.

Or if they only knew,

If they could speak a certain way,

They might feel,

Experience things differently.

I have noticed that when I speak these affirmations or positive words,

Good things do happen.

Or miraculous things happen.

I remember one time I put it out on Facebook,

I was having a period of just declaring,

Money come to me effortlessly.

And anytime I would have a feeling of not having enough,

I will speak,

Money come to me effortlessly.

Money come to me effortlessly.

Money come to me effortlessly.

And true story,

Money would just start to appear.

I would get a phone call,

Or somebody that wanted to do business,

Or a check will pop up in the mail.

And it would just happen.

So that's how I know that these affirmations work.

By way of testimony of my own life,

And the things that I am continuing to speak.

Even speak to those that I would have thought meant to bring me harm,

Speaking blessings over them.

To change that focus off of what they did.

To,

You know what,

This is for my good.

All things are happening for my good.

Nothing is happening to me.

It's happening for me,

For me to see,

Experience what that is.

Even if that person is not of any good to me,

In this space that I have a relationship with them,

I can put that relationship where it belongs,

With no heat and no judgment,

With nothing lost and all is forgiven.

At the same time,

Being confident and putting up the boundary in love.

And knowing that with the words that I'm speaking,

Speaking life into that relationship,

There's a greater healing that is coming with me,

Within me and through me on those waves of affirmation and declaration and speaking,

Just speaking life.

Now in this process of me speaking more life,

I did do some research and I actually posted it not too long ago about the power of words.

And those that don't know about the power of words,

I think this will be beneficial for you to know in your way of being.

Studies have shown that for every one negative word,

You need low minimum,

Three positive words.

Some people would say five or seven words to cancel out the one negative.

So just imagine that if you are continuing to speak negative words,

How many more positive words do you need to cancel out all the negative?

So this is why it's really crucial for me.

I wake up in the morning and I have become more intentional about saying,

It's gonna be a good day.

It's gonna be a great day or it already is a great day.

Good things are happening for me.

To continuously put out those words so if anything negative happens,

I'm counseling out that one negative word.

Have you ever noticed that though?

That you could be doing so good in life,

Everything is happening all of a sudden,

That one negative thing happens and then now your day is ruined.

And I want to get to the point to where I'm speaking so positive that the one,

Even though it might subtract from my bucket,

It doesn't empty my bucket.

And I believe that a lot of people are walking around with empty buckets because they don't understand the power of their words and because they don't understand the power of their words,

We as a people don't collect and understand the power of all our words,

Which is why we need more words of affirmation.

We need more light.

We need more love.

We need more of these words hitting the atmosphere and hitting schools and buildings because there's such a negative connotation that is bigger at times.

And just knowing that that one negative counsels out positives should be eye opening to want to talk more in an affirming way.

So I believe that in this realm of,

Or this topic of talking about trauma,

I have spoke to the areas to where I've felt lack in not loving myself,

Or should I say just that self hate or feeling unworthy,

Especially going through a divorce,

Like not feeling like you're capable of love or capable of being with a partner,

Wife,

Significant other,

Whatever you want to call that.

And part of those affirmations of what I've been speaking to really affirm those places that I don't really believe has ever been affirmed in my lifetime is speaking and declaring that I am enough.

I am enough.

Even when it comes to having friends or not getting phone calls or whatever that looks like in those seasons,

Speaking and saying I am enough.

And I think this to me also helps with putting on facades for people or trying to be something that I'm not.

Speaking and declaring that what I have is enough or what I have is a value.

These are affirmations and words that I'm using to shift the climate in my own thinking or what I think about myself.

I'm learning to be more confident about it.

I'm only 4'11",

Right?

And I've always looked at being tall.

If I was tall,

I would be a model.

But now I'm like,

My 4'11 is enough.

I am enough.

And whether I get married or not to somebody that's taller,

Whatever that looks like,

I am enough.

So speaking to those levels of insecurity that I'm all man,

I have what it takes.

I'm good enough.

I'm worthy of love.

I'm worthy.

What am I trying to say?

I'm acceptable.

I'm not broken.

I'm healed.

I'm whole.

I am more than a conqueror.

All those things tie back into life that is in your tongue,

In my tongue,

In our tongue.

So I just wanted to,

Again,

Just hop on here,

Y'all,

And just really talk about the power of affirmation and how to use that in your trauma state.

Does it feel good?

No,

When you're walking through trauma,

When you're trying to figure out what you believe and what you don't believe,

Having that affirmation to say,

I'm on the right path.

I know what I need to know right now.

I know what I need to know right now.

I know what I need to know right now.

So that way,

When you're studying new things,

It doesn't confuse you or you don't feel overwhelmed with,

Oh,

I need to know this right away.

No,

I need to know.

I know what I need to know right now.

I know what I need to know right now.

And as things unfold,

I'll know what I need to do next.

As things unfold,

I will know what I need to do next.

Like keeping these affirmations out in the atmosphere so that as you move,

That one negative is not taking you to the ground.

So y'all,

That is this podcast that I wanted to share with you in San Juan,

Puerto Rico.

It's called Find Yourself,

Be Yourself.

It's a podcast where you can find yourself,

Be yourself,

And let others do the same.

Find yourself,

Be yourself,

And let others do the same.

Find yourself,

Be yourself,

And let others do the same.

Find yourself,

Be yourself.

Be yourself,

And let others do the same.