EFT For Loss Of Beloved Pet

Hello,

This is Rev.

Dr.

Deedee Moore.

All of my recordings are infused with love and gratitude,

And they end with me saying blessings to you.

This recording is a blended somatic practice for those who have recently suffered the loss of a beloved pet.

I'll speak briefly before moving into the practice,

Where I'll guide you to support your nervous system through the shock and grief.

Our goal here today isn't to process or necessarily release the emotions,

But rather to come alongside the difficult experience in a manner that is supportive through creating capacity to hold the emotions.

Grief and loss is always an individual and unique experience.

My prayer is that this practice offers a degree of comfort,

And please know you have my deepest condolences.

In my opinion as a society,

We tend to fall short when it comes to supporting others who have lost a pet.

There's typically no service where friends and relatives come to offer support and hugs.

There's typically no meal train or flower scent.

Yet ironically,

Losing a pet can often be harder than losing a human.

Our pets give us such unconditional love and are such a constant companion.

Many of us can feel like losing a pet is even losing the love of our life.

Wherever you are on the grief spectrum,

Know that all of your feelings are understandable and that you can handle them.

Okay,

Let's begin.

Go ahead and get comfy,

Either seated or laying down.

Having some water to drink is always a great idea.

This helps the energy flow supportive to your nervous system.

Then just put your hands on your heart and or your stomach.

Wherever you might sense that you're holding much of your emotions around this loss.

And just notice it.

Maybe even try to describe it.

Does it have a weight or color or size or shape?

Just send the message through your hands that I got you.

Send a message to that feeling in your body.

I got you.

I'm with you.

Then repeat after me either to yourself or out loud.

This is a time of suffering.

Suffering happens to us.

It's part of being human.

May I be gentle and compassionate to myself.

This is a time of suffering.

Suffering happens to us and it's part of being human.

May I be gentle and compassionate to myself.

So just offering yourself that compassion.

Offering it to where you're feeling it in your body.

It might not be your stomach or your chest.

It might be your head.

It might be your arms.

Just wherever you're holding it in your body.

Offering yourself compassion and acknowledging and validating that this is a moment of suffering.

Then we're going to move into doing some EFT tapping.

We start with tapping on the side of your hand,

Also known as the karate chop point.

So you're taking the fingertips from one hand and using those fingertips to tap on the whole opposite hand on the side.

So it's like between the bottom of your pinky and your wrist.

So the whole fleshy side of that hand.

Just tapping at an even steady pace.

Just repeat after me and when you do repeat after me feel free and I encourage you to change any words or add words to make it more personal to you.

For example when I mention pet you can insert your pet's name.

Even though I have all of these emotions because I've lost my pet I acknowledge and validate how I feel.

Even though I feel these emotions of shock,

Grief there might even be anger,

Guilt whatever feelings I'm feeling are my feelings and I deserve all of my feelings.

Top of your head you're just tapping kind of willy nilly around the crown of your head.

You're not trying to hit one specific point.

Take a deep slow breath.

All the shock and grief because I've lost my pet.

I acknowledge it.

Eyebrow you're just tapping right on top of your eyebrow.

You can do both.

You can alternate.

It's super flexible.

Right here right now I offer myself love and support during my time of grieving.

Side of your eye on the bony part right in front of the temple all of my feelings are understandable.

Super comfortable and I also acknowledge super uncomfortable.

Under your eye it's so uncomfortable.

Under your nose part of me might still be in shock.

Chin so right underneath your bottom lip.

I don't want this to be happening right now.

It really hurts.

Collarbone just right underneath the collarbone like if you had on a man's tie it would be to the left or to the right of the knot right under the bone.

Take a breath.

This is just how I feel.

Top of your head.

Take another breath.

I notice where it is in my body.

Eyebrow I observe all of the thoughts that are going along with these emotions.

Side of your eye this is hard.

Under your eye this hurts.

Under your nose I don't have to try to change my feelings or push them away.

Chin part of me might even think letting go of the grief is further letting go of my beloved pet.

Collarbone this is just how I feel.

Just go ahead and tap on both sides of the collarbone.

We're just going to linger here for a few seconds.

This is just how I feel.

If tears are coming let them come.

That's part of our built in divine design to process grief and handle stress.

Then just put one hand flat on top of the other over your heart and take a deep breath and just imagine compassion going into your heart like I'm really sorry I'm going through this.

Just offering yourself that compassion that acknowledgement.

Go ahead and just keep your hands on your heart.

Breathing in and out easily as if you're breathing in and out directly from your heart.

Just offering yourself more and more love and compassion.

This is a time of suffering.

Suffering happens to us as humans.

May I be gentle and compassionate to myself.

Take a moment to just be curious what that looks like for you.

May I be gentle and compassionate to myself.

That could be taking one or more days off of work.

It could be asking for support.

It could be putting on your comfy jammies two hours earlier today.

Holding a warm cup of tea.

Maybe looking at pictures of your beloved pet.

It can be anything.

We're not super accustomed to being gentle and compassionate to ourselves so just take a moment more and be curious about what that might look like for you.

And then go ahead and give yourself a hug.

Yes,

Self hugs release oxytocin and offer us comfort.

It's also a way of creating an energetic container.

So just give yourself a nice hug.

Maybe stroking your arms.

Maybe a really tight squeeze.

Maybe gently.

Really giving yourself that understanding,

Acknowledgement,

Validation for how hard this is.

Knowing that there's no timeline on grief.

Whatever it looks like for you is okay.

It's more than okay.

It's understandable.

It's human.

And then stay close to those that do understand what you're going through.

Often we'll go through losses like this and we don't have the understanding we need but we need to give it to ourselves.

Nobody knows exactly how you feel except for you.

And so you're the one that can give yourself the largest degree of understanding and compassion.

Again,

My condolences and you have all of my compassion during this hard time.

Blessings to you.