Hello,
This is Reverend Dr.
Deedee Moore.
All of my recordings are infused with gratitude and love and they end with me offering blessings to you.
This recording is an EFT tapping exercise for parents of children who are adults and who are also struggling with mental health issues.
Maybe your adult child has a chronic illness or maybe they're incarcerated,
Going through a breakup,
Parenting challenges,
Financial struggles,
Just making bad choices,
Or just suffering in some kind of way.
So let's begin with just getting in touch with our feelings.
You know,
We have our own lives and so we often kind of go into autopilot,
Just maintaining our day-to-day activities,
Energy,
Health,
Sanity,
And we see that we kind of habitually stuff the feelings.
We don't have time for them,
We don't know what to do with them,
They're uncomfortable.
I think the biggest takeaway from the practice of EFT is to learn that stuffing our feelings is going to inevitably create a revving of our stress response which can contribute to dis-ease.
So in whatever comfortable position feels most available to you,
I invite you to put one hand on your heart and one hand on your upper belly.
Maybe close your eyes if that feels okay.
And when you think of your adult child or children,
Just notice how it feels in your body.
And maybe identify some of the emotions.
Is there sadness?
Is there guilt?
Is there anger?
Frustration?
Disappointment?
Fear?
Anxiety?
Helplessness?
Heartbreak?
Maybe all of the above.
This topic is a personal topic for me and it's definitely all of the above for me.
So without going into the stories and the pictures in our head and the rumination of the last conversation,
Just be with how those emotions are landing in your body.
Maybe you feel a heaviness in your chest,
Clenching of your jaw,
Maybe you have a headache from all of the analyzing,
All of the desperate analyzing to figure it out and fix them.
That sense of urgency to help,
Always confused if the help is really helping.
So just take a couple of moments remembering to breathe and just being with the feelings,
Understanding that you can handle these feelings,
You're honoring these feelings.
And then we're going to move on to the next one.
Move into the tapping.
The first point is side of hand,
Also known as karate chop.
So you're taking the fingertips from one hand and you're tapping those fingertips onto the whole fleshy side of the other hand between the bottom of the pinky and the wrist.
Don't worry about getting the points exactly right.
You're just tapping continuously,
Stay at one point until I call out the next and repeat after me.
So tapping at a steady pace on the side of your hand.
And also,
Just a note that whenever I say anything,
You can,
When you repeat after me,
You can always personalize it.
So instead of adult child,
You can say their name.
If I mentioned an emotion,
You can always change it.
Okay,
So still tapping on the side of your hand,
Even though I feel this helplessness and heartbreak because my child is struggling.
It's safe to honor how I feel about this.
Even though I feel this helplessness and heartbreak because my child is struggling.
This is just how I feel.
I don't have to push it away.
I don't have to fix it.
I don't have to figure it out.
I can just feel what I feel.
Even though my adult child is struggling and I feel this helplessness and heartbreak,
I notice where it's hanging out of my body.
I notice the racing thoughts.
And my intention is to really be here for me right now.
Top of your head,
You're just kind of tapping willy-nilly around the crown of your head.
You don't need to try to hit one specific point.
I remind myself everything I do for me directly affects my child.
The biggest gift I can give my child is my health and my happiness.
Eyebrow right on top of your eyebrow towards the center.
You can do both sides.
You can just do one side.
You can alternate.
It doesn't matter.
I acknowledge and validate this helplessness and heartbreak.
Side of your eye on the bone right in front of the temple.
I feel so helpless.
I feel heartbroken.
Top of your cheekbone.
I'm just so sad about this.
And that's so understandable.
Under your nose.
I'm so confused by their choices and situations.
Chin.
Part of me does feel guilty.
Maybe something I did or didn't do contributes to their dysfunction.
And it's okay for me to take accountability for that.
Collarbone,
Right underneath the collarbone.
But at the end of the day,
Like I know so well and maybe I've been told,
My child's an adult now.
And he or she is responsible for their dysfunction.
For his or her life.
Top of your head,
Take a deep breath.
Maybe notice the energy flowing.
It's not something you have to focus on.
Emotions are energy.
And when we really acknowledge and validate how we feel,
The energy begins to flow,
Doesn't become stagnant or stuck.
Eyebrow.
I acknowledge and validate how I feel about this.
Side of your eye.
I'm taking this time to really acknowledge that my child is struggling.
Perhaps even suffering would be a better description.
This is really happening.
Maybe there is an end in sight.
Or maybe it's been going on for years and it's hard to see the end.
Under your nose.
This is really hard for me.
Chin.
This is really uncomfortable for me.
Collarbone.
All the disappointment.
Top of your head,
Take a breath.
All the jealousy.
Seeing other adult children,
Maybe on social media or in the phone.
Family or within friends.
And they don't seem to be struggling.
Or maybe some do.
But your child's suffering seems unique to you.
Eyebrow.
All the different emotions that come with this.
Side of your eye.
The helplessness and heartbreak.
Under your eye.
The anger and frustration.
Under your nose.
The worries and fears.
Chin.
I really acknowledge and validate how hard this is for me.
Collarbone.
I'm here to love and support myself.
We're going to go around one more time.
Top of your head,
Take a breath.
I offer myself so much compassion.
I give myself permission to take care of me.
Side of your eye.
However I'm dealing with my adult child.
Maybe I've gone no contact or maybe I help too much.
However I'm handling it is okay.
I'm not going to judge myself.
However I'm handling it,
It's okay.
Under your eye.
I feel whatever I feel.
I'm human.
Under your nose.
I'm willing to love and accept myself exactly where I'm at.
Chin.
I'm open to the possibility.
Even if this saying is a little annoying sometimes,
They really are on their own journey.
I'm willing to accept this.
Collarbone.
I acknowledge and validate all of my emotions.
I understand.
These emotions are energy.
And I give this energy permission to flow.
And then just put one hand on top of the other over your heart.
And imagine breathing love into your heart.
Love from you to you.
Hoping to create capacity to hold the day-to-day stress of having an adult child who is struggling.
Truly being there for you.
Filling your cup.
Offering yourself love.
Compassion.
May I be kind to myself.
Blessings to you.
Thank you for joining me.
