A warm welcome and thank you for joining me today.
If you've ever noticed how harsh your inner critic can be,
How very quick it is to criticize or judge you,
I want you to know that you are not alone.
As sensitive people we often care very deeply about doing things right,
Not harming or hurting somebody else,
And then that can turn just absolutely into such impossible high standards,
And when we can't meet them,
We turn against ourselves on the inside.
This tapping session is here to help you acknowledge that self-criticism with compassion,
And to start gently softening it.
Sometimes we've had a difficult childhood where lots of these inner voices were created.
First they came from a parent,
Or perhaps from a teacher,
Or somebody else in our environment,
And as life goes on they become a part of us and they feel like they come from inside,
And we can gently start softening that today.
Begin by taking a slow,
Deep breath in through your nose,
And slowly exhale through your mouth.
When you're ready,
Begin tapping gently with me on the points,
And if you don't know exactly where they are,
I have created another audio to teach you exactly where these points are.
For now,
I will just name them,
And you can follow along as best you can,
And just welcome your inner critic if it wants to tell you that you're not doing this right.
Starting on the side of the hand,
And tap gently there and say,
Even though there's a really harsh voice inside of me sometimes,
Telling me off,
Telling me I'm so terrible,
I soothe and comfort myself.
And then start tapping on top of the head,
This harsh voice inside of me,
Eyebrow point,
Always telling me I'm not enough,
I'm not doing it right.
Side of the eye,
Always pointing out what I did wrong.
Under the eye,
Sometimes it just feels relentless.
Under the nose,
This constant pressure to get everything right and perfect.
On the chin point,
I can never seem to live up to this critic's standards.
On the collarbone,
It's absolutely exhausting to carry this voice inside.
Under the arm,
And I feel so weighed down by all this constant judgement.
Just pause there,
Take another nice deep breath in and out.
And now let's go back to the top of the head and we're going to start releasing some of this pain,
All these high standards.
Tap on top of the head and say,
These impossibly high standards.
Eyebrow point,
I can never quite measure up,
It's just impossible.
Side of the eye,
And I feel like I'm failing.
Under the eye,
I criticise myself before anyone else can.
Under the nose,
I keep pushing and pushing and working harder.
On the chin,
I can't seem to rest without any guilt.
On the collarbone,
Part of me believes I have to be this hard on myself.
Under the arm,
Otherwise,
And then you can complete that sentence for yourself,
What is it?
I might fall apart,
I might not do it right.
Good,
And let's take a pause,
Just rest your arms,
Take a nice deep breath in and out.
And let's start opening a little crack of compassion now,
So going back to the top of the head,
And tap,
What if I don't have to be quite so harsh with myself?
On the eyebrow point,
This voice developed to try and protect me,
Actually.
On the side of the eye,
And that was its original intention,
But right now,
It's hurting more than it helps.
Under the eye,
I can see and experience the pain that it is causing me.
Under the nose,
Maybe there's a different way.
Chin,
Maybe I don't have to fight so hard with myself.
On the collarbone,
Maybe I can start listening with gentleness instead of criticism.
Under the arm,
Maybe I can start being open to the possibility of kindness with myself.
And again,
Rest your arms,
Take a nice deep breath in and out.
And let's really start inviting self-kindness and support for yourself by going back to the top of the head and start tapping there.
I choose to start softening this inner voice.
Eyebrow point,
I don't have to be perfect to be worthy.
Side of the eye,
I can still care about everyone and everything without crushing myself like this.
Under the eye,
I would love to start supporting myself instead of tearing myself down.
Under the nose,
I'm learning to be on my own side in my own corner.
Chin point,
I'd love to start offering myself more understanding.
Collarbone,
I'm human and that might be enough.
Under the arm,
I'd choose to start treating myself with more compassion.
And then back on top of the head,
I too deserve my own kindness.
Just like I'm able to be kind with everybody else.
Take a last nice deep breath in and out.
And then tune in inside,
Notice how your body is feeling compared to when we began.
The inner critic may not disappear overnight and probably certainly not completely or permanently after this little bit of tapping because we've often had this habit for years and years and years.
However,
Each time you meet this inner critic with tapping and with compassion,
It will slow down and soften a little more.
So keep tapping.
Thank yourself for showing up today.
You deserve to be spoken to with kindness,
With compassion.
You deserve gentleness just like the gentleness you distribute all over the world.
And you also deserve peace.
Thank you for tapping with me.
And I hope you can bring this gentleness and kindness to yourself the rest of the day.
