The Days Are Long, The Years Are Short... And Then You Are Gone!

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In this one I wanted to speak to you about a quote that someone recently shared with me.

I don't remember now who it was.

I don't remember where I got it from.

I get all these random things from everywhere and I kind of just congeal it in my head.

All of a sudden I'm like,

I don't know where it came from.

So if you gave it to me,

Thank you.

The quote goes something like,

The days are long but the years are short.

I think I kind of researched it a bit after and it comes from the motherhood genre or it comes from women who are mothers.

Because when you're a mother every day seems extremely long where you're like,

Oh my god this is so difficult.

But then a few years pass by and you realize,

Oh my god my baby is already five years old and I can't believe where the time passed by.

You've probably heard this many times.

I hear it all the time from my girlfriends who are mothers and they were always saying,

I hate the days themselves because they're so long and I'm doing so much and there's so much to do and there's never enough time.

It just takes forever for everything to happen.

They're so torturous.

But then a few years pass by and I'm like,

Oh my god I wish I had been more present through whatever happened because my baby is already so old.

I didn't actually enjoy any moments with them.

I was always too busy working,

Too busy getting through the day in order to even enjoy what I was doing with them.

Whatever time I was spending with them.

I don't think this adage or this lesson is only for mothers in general.

I really do think that,

I'm sure a lot of you already have this kind of inclination or this thought process in your head.

But for me I constantly am thinking about time.

I'm sure maybe you are as well.

But literally time is something that I'm always constantly thinking about because I realize every single day,

Even though the moments themselves,

Each moment you're sitting here and it feels extremely long or you're sitting there and sometimes you're bored and the day is like,

Ah it's just not passing by.

When is it going to be time to sleep so I can go and I can do something else?

Or when is this hour going to pass?

If you're standing in line it just takes forever and you're like,

Ah time will just pass by quicker.

And so each moment I would say feels so long sometimes.

You're sitting there like,

Tick,

Tick,

Tick.

I wish time would hurry up a bit.

But then you look back upon the year,

Even if you look at 2020,

It was very tumultuous and chaotic year.

But for me I'm looking at the year and it's already the end of September almost.

It is the end of September.

And October,

November,

December.

So three months left for 2020.

And even though it was a very chaotic year,

It still feels right now like it went by really quick.

Like even September feels to me like it went by so quick.

It was just now my birthday and September is already ending.

It's already been a month.

How come?

How come time passed by so quickly?

And so these kind of like time quirks or time paradigms,

Time space paradigms where I'm literally sitting there and it just confuses me and I'm looking at it like how does time pass by so quickly and yet so slowly?

Like how are the moments themselves so long or the days themselves so long,

Whereas the years pass by in a blink,

Like just like that in a flash of a second and you're like,

Whoa,

I'm 37 already.

How did that happen?

Right.

And,

You know,

I'm sure I'll be doing a video when I'm 65 or something and I'll be telling you guys or telling you people,

You know,

I did a video about this when I was 37 and it feels like it was just a day ago that I did that video and I'm already 65.

You know,

Hopefully I'll still be doing videos at that point.

So I just I wanted to do this video not so that we can start feeling sad about it or,

You know,

Start groaning and mourning about time or things like that.

That's not obviously useful,

But I wanted to kind of do this video because I like the idea of kind of keeping this in mind.

The time in the moments themselves might seem very long,

But it's actually passing by very quickly.

And so if you are on that someday aisle where you're thinking,

Someday I'll do that.

Let that someday be today or this month or this year,

Because that someday that you're like,

Well,

Someday I'll do it.

It's not going to come.

It just won't come because before you know it,

You're dead.

It's a very drastic way to say it,

But literally that's how it is.

I'm looking at my parents right now.

And really,

I'm really grateful to have them right now in my life.

In general,

I'm very grateful to have them.

But I'm really grateful to have them right now in my life because they're in their.

My dad's in his 60s,

My mom's in her late,

Oh no,

Actually both of them are in their 60s,

And they're kind of at that point of time where they know that time for them is extremely limited.

They might have 20 years left,

Maybe 30 years,

Maybe only five years.

Who knows?

At that point,

You're already like,

Oh,

I don't know.

I mean,

Even right now,

I could have five days left or 15 years left.

Who knows?

But really,

At that point,

When you're older,

In your 60s,

You're already at that point thinking,

OK,

It could end at any moment for me.

And so for them constantly,

One of the biggest things that they're always talking about is regret.

The main thing they're always talking about is how much time they spent actually working,

Working,

Working and not enjoying themselves.

Yeah,

Because they imagine that they'd be able to enjoy themselves once they're retired,

But they didn't realize how old and weak they would feel that they wouldn't actually even be able to enjoy their retirement.

And my father is actually in that situation right now where he's worked extremely hard all of his life,

Extremely hard.

He worked like a dog.

He worked very,

Very hard.

I know that because I've seen him work really hard.

And so he's finally retired now,

But he can't enjoy his retirement because he is completely exhausted,

Completely drained.

He has no energy.

He just doesn't have the space or the time to even think about it.

He literally just sits there and stares off the space because he doesn't have energy to do anything.

He doesn't have the physical capacity to do anything either.

And so these dreams that he had of,

Oh,

One day I'll be retired and then I'm going to do nothing happened that way.

And a lot of us are in the same boat,

I'm sure,

Where you're sitting there thinking,

Well,

You know,

I didn't really enjoy my 20s that much because I was busy working.

I didn't really enjoy my 30s that much because I was busy working,

But maybe in my 40s,

Maybe my 50s.

No.

Right.

If you keep on thinking that way,

Eventually your 50s are going to arrive,

60s are going to arrive and you're going to be dead and you haven't enjoyed a single second of your life because you're busy working,

Waiting for that moment in the future that you're going to be like,

Well,

In the future when I'm 65 and retired,

Then I can start enjoying myself.

No,

That's not going to happen.

I've seen way too many retired people around my parents and themselves who have made that judgment.

And then they died right after their retirement,

Like a couple of them,

Actually a couple of my parents friends,

They just had their demise and they were busy working all their lives and then they retired and five or six years or five or 10 years after their retirement,

They died because they just hadn't taken care of themselves at all.

And so their physical health deteriorated very fast and then they expired.

And instead of actually being like,

All right,

Cool,

Now I'm free,

Now I can enjoy myself,

They didn't actually even get to enjoy themselves.

They worked out their life for nothing because they didn't get to enjoy that money.

That money is going to go to someone else,

Maybe to their wife for a bit,

But their wife is also not that healthy.

Maybe they'll go to their kids,

But who knows?

Right.

And so what's the point?

What is the point?

You work all your life for what?

You're postponing your life for what?

You're postponing all those moments of enjoyment for what?

Exactly for what are you postponing them?

What is it?

What are you waiting for?

That's one of the reasons why I've kind of really made my life in a way or created my life in a way where I really focus on the work life balance,

Because I want to make sure that even right now,

If I'm standing here right now and I get struck by lightning,

Although there are no clouds around,

But if I die for some weird reason right now,

There are no regrets.

I have no regrets.

I always tell people that I could die right now and I have no regrets.

I've done everything that I want to do with my life,

Everything.

I've lived my life in exactly the way that I wanted to live it.

And it feels so good to be able to say that because regrets are one of those biggest things that I feel like they're a mind killer.

I can see my parents and the regrets they have.

I can see a lot of my friends and the rest they have and a lot of people around me and the regrets they have.

And it's just stifling.

It's suffocating.

It's degrading and deteriorating.

You don't want to do that to yourself.

So even though the days might be long,

The years are very short.

And before you know it,

You're going to be dead.

Again,

It's a very drastic way to look at it,

But really this is how I look at my life.

And so whenever I'm doing something,

I always think to myself,

If I was dead tomorrow,

Would I care about this right now?

Is it really important for me to worry about this?

And a lot of times,

My parents are crying or complaining or whining about something.

And I really think to myself,

You guys really should not be worrying about this stuff.

I mean,

Really,

Do you want to spend the last 20,

10,

15,

5,

Whatever years of your life worrying about something so inane and something so mundane and boring and useless?

Really?

Something so nonsensical that doesn't really matter?

You want to worry about that?

You have limited time on this planet,

Particularly if you're in your 60s.

So really spend your time doing exactly what you want to do and just eliminate all of the nonsense.

That's how I would do it.

And that's how I do it right now.

Because even if I'm only 37,

Only,

I could die tomorrow.

And so everyone on this planet has no idea when we're going to die.

People pretend like,

Oh yeah,

The average age is 75 or whatever.

No,

It's not average.

It's average,

Which means some people actually die at 30,

Some people die at 100.

So really,

Who knows when you're going to die?

And so what are you going to do?

Are you going to live in that someday aisle?

Someday I'll do that.

Or are you going to live here and then now and realize,

OK,

I really have always wanted to do this.

I really have always wanted to do this.

I'm going to do it right now.

Because who knows if I can do it when I retire?

Who knows if I can do it when I am 50 or 40 or 45 or whenever we're planning to do it?

Do it right now if you can.

And if you can't,

Just forget about it.

Don't keep that regret in your heart.

Just leave it.

And just let it go and live in the moment.

Try to enjoy your life as much as possible here right now,

Because the days are long,

But the years are short.

And before you know it,

You're dead.

It's terrible.

I'm a terrible person when I say these things.

But really,

I am saying this not because I am against you or anything.

I'm not trying to degrade you.

It's important to know this so that you can really start living your life in the present moment.

If you have questions,

Please comment below.

Again,

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