Good morning,
Everyone.
Good evening,
Good afternoon,
Wherever you are,
And welcome to this week's Weekly Energy Boost.
My name is Ellie Sheva,
And I am blessed to be joined again by our guest from last week,
Who is now our guest for this week,
Batya Solomon.
Welcome again,
Batya.
Thank you,
Thank you.
Pleasure to be here,
Always.
It's lovely to have you.
Excited for another juicy episode of the Weekly Energy Boost.
Every week on the Weekly Energy Boost,
We talk about the seven-day spiritual weather forecast according to the wisdom of Kabbalah.
So we talk about the potential opportunities or potential pitfalls and translate those teachings into lessons and tools and wisdom you can use any day of your life,
Any week of the year.
And we're focusing this week on the title of the episode is The Gift of You.
And we're really focusing this week on the layers of us,
Right?
We have this external layer that we present to the world that can often be deceiving.
I think if we're honest,
We do judge books by their covers.
That's why people put so much time and energy into the covers of the books they publish.
They wouldn't if it wasn't important to us.
Yesterday,
I forget who it was,
Somebody was telling me,
They look at the shelf and they look at the covers and they decide which one speaks to them.
So they're not even bothering with the.
.
.
Now,
That may be a good way to choose a book.
It's probably not a good way to choose a partner or whether in relationship,
In love,
In business,
In any sort of connection.
But really,
We also wanna talk about the impression or how we can be authentically ourselves and not be deluded by the external,
Both what we project and what we receive from others.
Because as we spoke about last week,
I think the illusion or the trap of the physical reality is a big one.
It's really easy to fall to,
Last week we spoke about the illusion of the need of approval,
What other people think of me,
Perceive of me and give me in return for what I give can often be more important than my long-term health,
Happiness and blessings.
This week,
It's really more of the judgment call that we can both make and prevent in terms of how we present the real package that's within us and how busy.
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I know and I'm sure you also know,
When our kids are young and we control what they wear,
We can feel good about the image they present to the world.
And as they get older,
They start to control that image or take over the,
I don't wanna wear that,
Et cetera and so forth.
I can remember myself thinking,
I don't want people to think this or that about my kids,
Whether they're wearing wrinkled clothes and they think we don't launder or we do launder but don't iron versus even other worse things that I didn't want them to think about me as a result of what my kids are wearing.
And I don't think we've ever had the opportunity on Weekly Energy Boost to talk about image,
The image we project,
Having that affinity,
That alignment between what's on the inside and what's on the outside and also the way that we take or.
.
.
It sounds like I'm talking about undressing other people.
That's not really what I mean to say but when you meet somebody,
Do you write them off by what they're wearing or how they look or how they present themselves or do you give them the chance and do you look deeper?
Because this week,
I think we're gonna be given more opportunities to judge and having the opportunity to judge means the past is not when you judge,
The past is when you resist the opportunity to judge and you allow whatever it is to unfold.
Let's be honest,
We all judge.
So that's what I'm saying.
We all judge our books by our covers initially but then we have an opportunity to be conscious and then decide,
I'm gonna get past the cover and see what's inside.
However,
We're raised in this society to just many times just stay with the cover and don't even look in the book.
It's funny,
I just read something that says that most people subconsciously judge other people by their shoes.
So if you wanna make a great impression on people,
Make sure that if you have to spend.
.
.
If you're on a limited budget and you're not sure what to spend your money on,
Spend it on a good pair of shoes,
You could start off with that.
That's a good message for me this week as I.
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.
Well,
It makes a lot of sense in a way because what are shoes?
Shoes are mawhut,
We use Kabbalistic terminology,
Meaning our connection to this physical realm.
It's the foundation in which we stand.
How much time do we really,
Really invest in our shoes because.
.
.
To me,
So this is ironic that you bring that up,
Pisces,
Every sign of the Zodiac has a body part that gives them.
.
.
Challenges.
Challenges.
For Pisces,
It's our feet.
So for me,
Shoes are a really big deal and I don't get shoes often and I don't take the purchase of shoes lightly because my toesies are so sensitive and I tend to.
.
.
That's funny,
You see.
Get hurt easily,
So my shoes need to be good,
Strong.
You know what's funny?
You should.
.
.
Please judge me by my shoes is what I'm saying.
No,
But you know what's really funny?
I got the first astrological reading I got in the center many years ago and the astrologer told me,
Kabbalistic astrology,
The only one who's ever told me,
She said,
Well,
I have something in Pisces in my chart and she said,
You have issues with your feet,
Which is true and I never made that connection,
But I too have those challenges with shoes.
I don't wear high heels,
It's not worth it.
Me neither.
AKA,
Listen to the previous week's podcast.
I don't care what people think about me,
If I wear heels or not,
I would much rather be comfortable.
I was a teenager,
I did wear heels,
It was a torture and why?
Because I wanted other people's approval,
I wanted to look good.
Teenagers go through that,
I think more than anybody in the young adulthood.
Hopefully we'll grow out of it if we haven't yet.
It's a goal to put on your bucket list to grow out of that,
Meaning approval.
What other people think.
Yeah,
So shoes are really important.
I'll tell you something,
When I wear a good pair of quality shoes,
Expensive shoes,
I feel good.
When I feel good,
I emanate self-confidence and I emanate abundance.
It really is a big deal.
It's not something that is just do it for show.
If I wore a pair of heels,
I would be suffering and that would be for show,
But if I wear a good pair of quality shoes that are fashionable,
To my taste,
That I like,
I feel good in it,
That it makes all the difference.
It's not being selfish if you're thinking,
Oh,
That seems like such a selfish,
Self-absorbed thing to do.
Not at all,
Because if my feet feel good and I feel good,
I have so much more energy to be creative with,
To share,
To add value to other people's lives.
If I'm suffering physically in my shoes or in my clothes or they're too tight or whatever,
Because that's the fashion or that's what I think other people,
I want to impress them,
Then I really am sabotaging myself because then I can't really be there to be a channel for other people to add value and create a win-win situation.
I read something beautiful many,
Many years ago that I use as my compass in this conversation.
That is,
When you buy flowers or you pick flowers,
You don't come home and throw them on the table or leave them in the newsprint that you wrapped them in or bought them in.
You find a nice vase to put them in or vase.
To me- Depends how expensive it is.
Exactly.
To me,
What that says is that the container,
It deserves to be something that brings out the best of what's inside it.
Absolutely.
That is my gauge.
By the way,
I'm with Batya 100%.
I will never wear something that's uncomfortable.
There is nothing more difficult for me than pretending I'm okay when I'm feeling constricted by something.
At the same time,
Having that mindfulness of knowing that what I wear or what I clothe myself with,
And that can be a lot of different things.
I don't think it's only about clothing,
Although we're definitely putting a focus and emphasis on that today,
Is that it should be worthy of what is inside it.
When I think of clothing,
I think of layers of energy.
Let's think about this.
Our true essence is immaterial.
Who we really are,
Our soul nature,
Is truly immaterial.
In order to,
Beyond the scope of this particular episode,
But in order to do our soul correction,
We incarnate into this planet and we lease temporarily an earth suit.
Our bodies are really our virtual reality suits that we're all walking around in.
Unfortunately,
When I over identify with the suit,
And when we do that,
We're actually not utilizing our earth suits to their maximum capacity.
There should be a separation between who I am and the suit I'm wearing.
But the one interesting quality about our earth suits is that they reflect our subconscious minds.
Our body is our subconscious mind.
We wear our bodies.
We are not our bodies.
Let's get that straight from the beginning.
Who we are is we're infinite beings.
We're wearing the first layer of clothing is our bodies,
Is our earth suits,
Our virtual reality suits that blocks out 99% of the true reality of limitless abundance and love and all great things that are beyond your wildest imagination.
Now we're in these earth suits that,
As we're trapped in the illusion of the five senses,
It's reflected in our earth suits.
Then in order to go outside,
We conceal our earth suits and we put on another layer of energy called clothing in order to reveal ourselves to the outside world.
I think beyond that,
We have energy that we wear.
Right.
The clothing are layers of energy.
We are wrapped in layers of energy is my point.
I'm saying to support your point,
You can have a person who looks stunning,
Perfect,
Dressed to a T,
To the nine,
Sorry.
Both expressions are correct.
Both expressions are correct.
Okay.
To the nines,
I like that better.
It makes me feel older.
They look terrible because their energy and their look aren't in alignment.
Have you ever met someone who initially didn't look that great,
But as you got to know them,
They got better looking?
Then the opposite,
You meet someone who's really stunningly gorgeous and as you get to know them,
They get less and less attractive for this very reason.
Exactly.
That's why we want to,
This week,
Take the opportunity to have that honest reflection,
Not only with ourselves,
Meaning why do I insist?
A lot of people have a look.
That's true.
Right.
Now,
According to what Batya shared before,
That look is often dictated by our energy.
Meaning,
Our subconscious mind is creating that look.
A person can be,
Again,
In a suit and tie and be dressed impeccably and look like,
I don't want to sound insulting to anybody,
But can look unkempt,
Let's say,
Even though their clothing is of a high quality and looks great.
Meaning,
We want to resolve the dissonance that might be taking place between the inside and the outside as well.
Well,
It says in the scripture,
It says the ark,
So you have the closet and you have inside the closet where the tablets were kept,
Or the box,
Let's say,
Inside the closet,
With the tablets that Moses brought down from Mount Sinai,
That they were,
And the way it was constructed is it had gold on the outside and the instructions were also to have gold on the inside.
The question is,
Why would you spend the time and the money to put gold on the inside of something that nobody's going to see?
They're all going to see the outside,
So certainly you want to impress everyone with the outside,
But why put the gold on the inside?
The idea here is for us is that we want to not only dress to impress ourselves and other people,
But we want to come from a.
.
.
Even more than that,
It's that when we try to present ourselves to others different from who we are,
It doesn't work.
Again,
I love this expression.
It's not going to end well.
No,
You say all the time.
Because there is a dissonance.
There is a dissonance.
The idea,
The goal is to strive.
.
.
I'm dressing well for me as well as I'm dressing well for other people,
Because when I dress well for me,
I feel good.
When I dress to my style,
Let's say,
I'm known as someone who likes to dress in a classic style.
We once had this woman,
Very,
Very wonderful person.
Stylist.
Yes,
And she.
.
.
We were talking,
And she was talking to different teachers about proving our dress and whatever.
We identified that my style is classic.
I like the classic style.
When I'm wearing a classic style,
I feel good.
If I'm wearing a different style that's not me,
I have a friend of mine,
And we go shopping,
She likes the grunge look.
Every time we go shopping,
She thinks,
Oh,
You should dress younger,
Because everybody,
The younger generation is wearing the grunge look.
A lot of convince me every once in a while.
I come back and I'm going,
You know what?
It doesn't resonate with me.
I just don't.
.
.
Maybe that's in style,
But it's not in style for me.
I prefer a classic style.
That just fits my personality.
I feel good.
I feel I'm in the flow.
The more you're in the flow,
The more that you're honest with yourself,
The more that you're loyal to your actual tastes of who you are and what you are on the inside.
The more you let that shine on the outside,
The more at peace you are,
The more things flow for you.
Life is better for you.
Now,
It sounds like a little mundane.
I'm talking about clothing?
Yeah,
Because everything has energy.
Everything has consciousness.
When we are lying to ourselves,
Or for whatever reason,
We discount ourselves and do what we think other people want us to do,
Or dress the way other people want us to dress,
Every time we do that,
We're actually.
.
.
What's the word?
Contracting or building spiritual plaque,
Which makes it harder and harder to feel at peace inside as well as outside.
Clothing is really no joking matter.
It really isn't.
It's insignificant or,
Oh,
Superficial.
Oh,
No.
We have to think about what you wear and how does it make you feel.
Forget about what the styles are.
How does it make you feel?
Because however it's going to make you feel is how you're going to emanate that energy.
We're energy beings,
And we really feel other people's energy.
That's communicated through our clothing.
It's also.
.
.
Batya brings up an important point,
And she often says,
Energy doesn't lie.
Yes.
One of my favorite sayings.
What does that mean?
It's almost like seeing a kid in a costume.
What do we love about seeing little kids wearing the police officer costume?
They're not here to enforce any laws.
It's just the cutest thing.
You just can't help yourself.
We do that also.
We also put on costumes that we can't back up with our energy.
I think- There's a dissonance.
There's a dissonance.
Again,
It might sound like we're talking about clothing.
Clothing is just an example of what we use,
Another tool we use to show up in life.
It can be our hairstyle.
It can be how we take care of our skin.
That to me,
That whole conversation that Kabbalah brings up about taking care of ourselves physically is,
I think,
There's a lot of buzzwords now,
People talking about self-care,
Self-care.
Going back to the vase metaphor,
It's really in order for us to truly express with integrity and authenticity the unique light of our soul,
Our external selves need to be.
.
.
I don't want to use the word taken care of.
It's like they need to be treated with the same respect and reverence that we would our spiritual selves.
That speaks to our self-esteem.
This brings up a lot of painful memories for me.
As a teenager,
I remember dressing in such an.
.
.
I don't want to say indecent,
But I sacrificed my self-esteem to wear things that I didn't feel comfortable with.
It breaks my heart truly when I see young people today.
I see these girls that are dressing way too provocatively and they're doing it for what?
They want attention,
They want approval.
You can see that they're even uncomfortable in what they're wearing,
But they've been taught to disconnect something inside them that really lowers the self-esteem.
The self-esteem takes a real big beating.
Kabbalistically we talk about clothing and modesty.
I think modesty has really gotten a bad rap.
I actually,
In the fashion world,
It is in high fashion now.
Is it really?
Modesty.
That if you look at the red carpet,
There's much more.
.
.
Something I was reading- Concealment?
There's much more concealment.
This is what I wanted to bring up.
There's much more the high necks,
The full sleeves,
The long dresses without the slits that come to the hip kind of thing that people are going back to vintage cuts where modesty,
You know,
100 years ago and back,
Modesty was a virtue.
Right.
Modesty is still a virtue.
Yes.
Bachi took the words from my mouth.
Modesty is still a virtue.
I was one of those young people when I came to study at the Kabbalah Center.
Oh my God,
It hurts.
When I heard the idea,
Bachi touched on it a little bit,
I want to flesh it out a bit,
The idea that concealing is actually revealing.
When I heard that concept,
And I really asked somebody to explain it to me because it went against everything I thought I was supposed to be doing,
Which I think the motive that we want to get rid of this week,
Don't do anything because you think you're supposed to be doing it.
One of the teachers explained to me that if you want to bring out and to strengthen and to emphasize equality,
Any kind,
Physical,
Metaphysical,
Emotional,
Whatever it is,
You conceal it.
It's a paradox.
It's a paradox,
Right.
So if you want to accentuate your wisdom,
Don't stand on a podium and preach to the world all the wisdom that you know.
If you want to,
I don't know,
Grow your income,
Don't brag about it.
Right.
I mean,
There are obvious ones about concealing that which you want to grow.
Concealing is more of a container.
It's like a treasure chest.
If you have something that's valuable,
You don't want to go around displaying it to the world.
You really want to hold it precious to yourself.
And that certainly applies to our bodies.
Again,
It hurts me.
I see,
Especially women,
I think,
We've been groomed unfortunately over the years to like,
If you've got it flaunted kind of thing and you know,
If you've got it,
Hold it dear and precious to you.
It makes you more alluring,
Actually.
It's the opposite.
It makes you more alluring.
I remember two sisters.
I went to a wedding,
I think it was.
Anyway,
So there were two sisters.
One was spiritual and one was not spiritual.
And you can tell- This sounds like a tale,
A fairy tale.
No,
But it was true.
It really happened.
So one sister studied Kabbalah,
The other one didn't.
And the one sister that didn't wore a very revealing outfit.
They were both of equal beauty,
Let's say,
If you wanted to give it a standard,
A measurement.
But one wore a very revealing outfit.
And so there was no,
Let's say,
Nothing left to the imagination.
Just let's leave it like that.
And the other one wore a very classic,
Not even classic,
But she wore a very modest outfit.
But her figure- It highlighted her figure.
It highlighted her figure.
When the other one was like,
Here,
I'm on the street,
Take me kind of thing.
And it really,
When you put the two sisters together,
You can really see the contrast there.
One,
Immediately without trying,
She devalued herself by exposing herself too much.
They say the emptiest person in the room is the loudest.
So that was my point.
If you walk into a room full of people,
The ones who pique your interest are not the ones who don't shut up.
They're the ones that they're reserved.
This is not a podcast that we're telling you now,
Shut up and sit in a corner by yourself.
And get dressed to the- And wear a,
What do you call it?
A habit.
Don't wear a habit and sit in the corner quietly.
That's not what we're saying.
The first point we made was about the affinity,
The alignment that you're- This to me is one of the most beautiful teachings of Kabbalah as well.
That part of our work as human beings in this reality is to align our insides and our outsides.
Exactly.
That we will be the same person on the outside as we are on the inside.
So the question then arises,
What about my external appearance can I shift to be more in alignment with what's within me?
That's really the question we're asking this week.
How can I match up?
And by the way,
This is one of the funniest things.
I was thinking if we had this episode three years ago before everybody started working from home and socializing less- In their pajamas.
Everybody's in their pajamas now.
Everybody's in their pajamas now.
Or let's say pajamas from the waist down.
Somebody told me last week they wore the same shirt for the last two years,
But 20 minutes,
40 minutes every day.
So they didn't even need to wash it.
They just put the button down on and take it off for every meeting.
That I think,
I want to make this point as well,
And I think we said it a little bit with the shoes,
It is possible both to look good and be comfortable.
And whatever backward training that some of us may have had that in order to look good you have to suffer,
Take the corset off.
Nobody ever went out with anybody because they had a good corset.
And by the way,
It still exists.
People still wear them.
It's just horrifying,
Horrifying.
But the big underpinning for this week is about matching our insides and our outsides.
That we can't be,
You can't fool anybody anymore.
But you know what's really interesting about the lockdown,
Right?
So everybody's home for the last year or two.
And it's almost as if spiritually there's a quiet revolution or evolution happening because people are not buying all of their outside glitzy outfits.
It's like everybody's now become more real.
I definitely am more comfortable in a t-shirt and sweatpants and sneakers than I would be if I had to,
In a suit,
Let's say.
I never wear suits,
But if I had to wear a suit,
That would be very constricting.
And I myself,
Now I'm just wearing a lot of loose clothing because it feels so much better the flow.
And I think a lot of people are also on some level coming to that realization themselves.
That they were pretending before.
Yeah,
A lot of the masks.
Yes.
Pardon.
That's a trigger word right there.
But the outside,
The covering the masks of wearing all of these things for everyone else.
And now everybody was more like,
Huh,
What was the point of that anyway?
Right.
Why bother?
Why bother?
Where did that get me?
Exactly.
Working from home,
I'm spending less time traveling,
I'm actually more productive,
And I'm comfortable.
What was I doing before?
What's the message for us really?
It's more about,
I was going to say,
There's a term,
Walk your talk.
Well,
I think here it's wear your talk.
Wow.
Let's wear our talk.
You know,
So.
Batya will be happy to receive all royalties from that tagline for whatever clothing company wants to take it from her.
That's true,
Wear your talk.
I like that.
Yes.
Well,
I think we also- I'm claiming the copyright.
We also need to spend at least another two minutes on the importance of shifting our energy.
And I think that being at home also has given us the ability to stop pretending or the permission to stop pretending.
Well,
Clothing shifts your energy.
I know that when I wear something that I love,
It makes me happy.
And I have a practice,
And I don't know if you do,
But if you don't,
I encourage you to begin doing this practice,
Going through your closet periodically and going through your clothing and reacquainting yourself with your clothing because clothing contains energy.
And I look at this and I say,
Does this spark joy in me?
As you know,
Marie Kondo and her life changing magic of tidying up.
I should get some royalties.
Batya,
We had a whole episode on that last year.
If you want,
You can go back and listen to how Batya made me squirm in my seat in that episode.
I know I've been to your closet and it really needs.
I'll come and help you.
And I definitely took some of your advice.
It sounds to me you could use more of my advice.
I gave away two bags of clothing since we last spoke.
I'm just saying it feels so good.
It's like getting a haircut.
When you cut your hair,
There's something about the energy that just drags down.
You get a haircut,
It feels so much better.
So I go through my closet periodically.
I look at what's there.
And I say,
Why is this in my.
.
.
Oh,
Because my aunt gave it to me and it's so expensive.
But you never use it.
It's just sucking space.
It's sucking your energy.
It's working against you.
It's not neutral.
You need to know that.
So our clothes can be sucking our energy and we don't even realize it.
When we wear clothes that we don't like or it's sitting in our closet and it's just taking up room and it's collecting dust,
Get rid of it.
Give it to someone who would be more in alignment with that energy.
You're going to feel so much better.
And then it creates the space for new energy to come in,
New clothing to come in.
I remember one,
By the way,
So I had a top that I had because someone gave it to me.
It was very expensive,
Blah,
Blah,
Blah.
I just didn't relate to it.
And so I gave it to someone who,
When I looked at the top,
I go,
You know what?
That really feels to me like it's her.
So I went to her out of nowhere and I say,
Here,
Here's the top.
It's new.
She was like,
Wow.
If very same,
Later that day,
I kid you not,
I got a package from someone who sent me a new top that actually was really in alignment with,
I was like,
Wow,
That's amazing.
Don't be afraid to give things away.
Enjoy it.
Do it with love and pleasure.
Believe me,
We haven't begun to tap our infinite abundance.
And the way you do that is by letting go of that stuck energy.
So if you're wearing clothes you don't like,
If it's got holes in it,
Well,
Now that's the fashion,
The clothes with the holes in it.
That's a different conversation.
But if it's something that,
Let's say,
Torn,
Your underwear is like,
Let it go.
Let it go.
Get new underwear.
You're going to feel so much better.
By the way,
There is a Kabbalistic teaching on not wearing ruined clothes,
Which is,
Again,
Ironic in today's fashion.
Yeah,
That's interesting.
But if you have,
I tell my kids- I don't agree with that fashion,
By the way.
The moment,
We have a funny,
We always have an odd number of socks in my house because I always tell my kids,
The moment you see a hole,
Put it in the trash.
It's done.
And what's interesting,
The Kabbalists teach that there is light in everything,
Not only in animated beings like people and animals.
Didn't I just say that?
There's energy in the clothing?
Yes,
But meaning it's almost as though it's alive.
Yes,
Absolutely.
Talk to your clothes,
By the way.
So when you go shopping,
Don't just look at what looks good,
What looks like it's going to fit,
What looks like it's going to be flattering.
Really pause for a moment and see what talks to you.
See what calls out to you because there is energy in the universe that is uniquely ours to elevate.
Absolutely.
And often that energy comes to us in clothing.
So the end of that teaching is that it is possible for a clothing to finish its lifetime.
It can be done.
Yes.
And it's okay to let it retire.
I know I like to give away my clothes and I know that my clothing will continue on when I don't need it anymore.
But I also can tell you,
I found a hole in a sweater I wanted to wear today that's not fixable.
And I said,
You know what?
It's gone to pasture.
It's done its work in this world and I need to let it go,
Maybe recycle it for the fibers and whatnot.
That's a whole other conversation.
But the idea that even a plate has a life expectancy,
A sweater,
A t-shirt,
A sock.
If your plates are cracked,
You should get rid of them.
Chips.
Exactly.
Glasses,
Cups,
Plates.
Believe me,
You're going to feel so much more prosperous when you do that.
Even if you have one left and it's whole,
It'd be way more,
You elevate the energy more and you create a bigger platform to receive more when we purge ourselves of things that are broken or that we just don't feel a hundred percent good about.
It's really a wonderful thing to do.
I'll tell you an interesting story about talking to your clothes.
Many times,
Even in your own closet,
When you're sitting there and thinking,
What should I wear today?
I can tell you personally,
I'm typically motivated by ease and comfort and temperature,
Right?
I'm going to wear something warmer if it's colder outside and whatnot.
But every so often,
I do remember to pause and really let the top call me rather than me pick the top.
What I find that's interesting about that,
Especially in classes,
When I have to give a class and I think maybe that's when I'm more mindful because I realize there's going to be a lot of eyes on me and I want it to be pleasant and attractive and calming and I have all these different factors I'm looking for.
Sometimes a person who needs to have a conversation with us,
Let's say at a party,
Is going to notice us because we wore that top.
The top was calling to us because it knew that person was going to approach us because we were wearing it and needs to have that conversation.
Meaning the energy intelligence of the sweater is activated to attract you because it's part of the mission for you to connect with that other person.
Well,
The light in the sweater.
Meaning that energy is active.
In the sweater,
Yes.
Definitely talk to your clothes.
Talk to your home.
I do.
I talk to my home.
I talk to my clothes.
First of all,
Your clothes last longer and look better,
FYI,
Just saying.
And also when people come to your home,
They feel the harmony that you have.
They walk in and go,
Wow,
I feel so good here because you've created a relationship with your environment.
By the way,
I don't know if we said it yet,
But I just want to make sure I drive the point home that to look good is not a selfish thing to do or a self-centered thing to do,
Especially if you're looking good in order to,
As an act of sharing with other people.
Do you really want to look at a grungy,
Dirty,
Stringy haired person sitting there with their dirty smelly clothes?
It's a burden to be with someone like that.
So just to look at it as an act of sharing,
Just think of it,
If you think of it as an act of sharing,
It actually becomes a win-win situation for you.
It's an act of consideration.
Deodorant,
Just saying.
But Bata,
You bring up clothes.
You're bringing up something really.
I think,
I know that there are people out there who say,
I don't care how I look.
I know,
I'm saying that's a very selfish way to live.
Forget even selfish.
It is selfish,
But before you get to owning that part of it,
It's really important to take a good and hard look at how you feel about yourself.
Exactly.
It's true.
And bringing back more.
.
.
I've had times in my life where I said,
I don't care how I look.
I'm lucky I just get out of the house in the morning.
Those were very low periods in my life where I didn't feel good about myself and I couldn't hide it from my external presentation even.
So that to me is a red flag.
If you feel like you don't care about how you look,
It's time to start investing more in you.
And also,
On the other side of that,
If you're a person that you want to build self-esteem,
You know you could use a little more self-esteem,
Start with clothes.
Simply clean them.
I'm not saying go out and spend millions of dollars or thousands of dollars on clothing.
Take the clothing you have and invest your energy in them.
Clean them,
Iron them,
Take care of them,
Take care of your things.
This actually builds your self-esteem.
You'll feel really good about yourself and then life just gets better from there as well.
For sure.
And for the small,
For the percentage of you that have a uniform,
This is something that we got a question a long time ago about this from a listener.
Sometimes your job requires you to wear a uniform.
I know my kids,
They've gone to schools where they have to wear a uniform.
And for me as a parent,
That's such a pleasure because you don't have to deal with the drama of getting dressed in the morning.
But there is a bit of identity I think that is concealed when someone else tells you what you have to wear.
It may feel inauthentic.
It may feel contradictory.
This is not who I am.
This is not a reflection of who I am.
If that's your situation,
First of all,
Well,
I don't want to get too deep because there's many different reasons why you might be in a uniform.
But I can tell you from working with my kids,
There are definitely ways to shine through the uniform.
The uniform doesn't define you.
And in the time that you have to wear it for work or whatever it is,
There are ways for you to,
Whether it's through how you wear your hair,
To the accessories you use,
To your socks.
Or just invest energy in your uniform.
How would you do that?
You invest energy,
It's a win-win situation.
Just remember that.
Whatever you invest your energy will always come back to you.
If people invest their energy being a victim or with resentment and anger,
It's only going to come back to them.
So what's the point?
Invest your energy in a good way.
Press your uniform.
Look good and dress it up.
It's funny.
You'll feel embellished on it if you can,
If you're not.
I think people who wear uniforms and their uniforms are crisp and clean,
There's a positive energy to it actually.
But what you said,
The word embellish,
My family,
We met somebody,
I couldn't even remember in what capacity,
That they had a name tag on their uniform.
And their name tag was the cue.
They made the effort to make that name tag uniquely them.
And I know it's something small,
But I can tell you that when I wear a piece of jewelry that I love,
Or when I find my own twist to something,
When I add my own energy to something,
It feels really good.
And it can be just as simple as giving a little embellishment to,
Even by the way,
Anything,
I mean,
Why do people put bumper stickers on their cars?
Right,
That's a uniform too.
I'm just saying,
This is a conversation where we're really talking about packaging in a way.
Yeah.
And whatever packaging you use,
You have,
You need to wear,
You have to wear,
There is definitely a way for you to imbue it with you.
Especially your internal energy,
More importantly.
Exactly.
And how much not only you will benefit from doing that,
But everyone around you will.
So this is really the week to strengthen our awareness,
To bring ourselves into alignment,
And to really rethink.
We focused almost entirely on ourselves and our own costume,
So to speak.
Use this understanding when you take in other people as well.
I have to add something.
Last time I was here,
We talked about approval.
Now going back to the costume of the body,
I see people,
I know people who spend a lot of time in the gym,
Who starve themselves,
Who are overly invested in their physical clothes or the clothing of their bodies,
But it's not coming from a healthy place.
It's not coming from a balanced place.
It's coming from a place of stress or fear that people won't love me if I don't look good,
If I gain 10 pounds,
Etc.
And so forth.
So we're not talking about that.
I just want to make sure that we're on the same page.
If you're exercising and eating well,
Do it because it's good for you and not because.
.
.
The benefit,
Of course,
Is that you look good.
But that won't last.
If you're doing it for an external reason of how you're going to look to other people,
It's only going to be a very negative,
Stressful experience that's going to fail.
It's going to be temporary.
As I've seen so many people,
They go on diets.
They're going on diets for what reason?
To impress,
To other people,
To fit in or whatever.
No,
The real work is the internal work.
The work is in loving ourselves.
When we love ourselves and we want to take care of ourselves and we do take care of ourselves,
Then it will be reflected in the clothing of our bodies and everything else.
So it's really important.
That is a very spiritual endeavor to do it because,
First of all,
Our earth suits are on loan.
We have to give them back.
So if you have at least a car and it's all banged up,
Guess what?
You got to pay for it.
So when we give it back,
You know what they say,
Always when you borrow something,
Always give it back in better condition than you got it.
Something to strive for.
What you said is so true,
Batya.
And I think anything,
There's a lot of dissonance that happens when you take on a spiritual path until everything comes into alignment.
And I think our bodies are often the last part of our lives to come into alignment.
We bring spirituality to our food.
We bring spirituality to our relationships.
We bring spirituality to the music we listen to and the content we consume,
What we read.
And then suddenly we realize,
Wait a second,
If I'm going to really get to my next level,
Whatever that means,
I have to bring my physical self with me as I go along.
It's our first layer of clothing.
Wow.
So,
Batya,
Again,
Thank you for joining us.
This was a very special episode for me and also to have you two weeks in a row.
It's an added bonus and blessing.
It's a big treat for me as well.
Have a fabulous,
Aligned week.
And I'll see you next time.
And dress well.
And dress for the job you want.
Dress to success.
Dress for the job you want this week.
Thanks for listening and watching and we'll see you next week on the Weekly Energy Boost.
