Today I want to talk about a topic that is incredibly close to my heart.
I think the most important journey of my life has been becoming more self-compassionate and less critical and this is now what I do.
I've become a specialist in how to teach self-compassion in the most competitive environments in the world.
So I have done self-compassion trainings for top lawyers and top law firms,
Top private equity firms,
Judges in the New York Supreme Court.
I absolutely love the immediate lightness,
Ease that it brings to people's hearts and what it brings to people's relationships.
It really is the path to health,
Happiness,
More joy,
More energy.
Today I want to talk about a hesitation that people have around this topic that I see over and over again.
So self-compassion is,
For example,
When you go into a job interview and you know that if I get the job,
If I perform well,
I'll be very kind to myself after.
And if I don't get the job,
If I don't perform well,
I'll be just as kind to myself after.
So it's not like you don't get the job and you do nothing.
You don't get the job.
You just don't beat yourself up.
But out of self-compassion,
Out of being connected to your long-term goals,
You do mock interviews.
You run something by colleagues.
You prepare.
You do something different than you did last time.
You just don't do it out of hating yourself and being mean to yourself.
You do it because I want this opportunity.
I want to grow.
I want to learn.
I want to grow in my career.
So you do it from a place of self-compassion.
Today you are committed to improvement and self-improvement,
That you are committed to becoming a better version of yourself.
I am too.
I spent eight years getting three Harvard degrees.
I spent two years at Stanford Medical School.
And it was while I was studying neuroscience at Stanford Medical School that I saw the research that being kind to yourself,
Being self-compassionate,
It not only makes you happier,
But it also makes you more successful.
I thought either I'm going to be kind to myself and I'll be happy or I pick success.
And at that point,
Stability and success was more important to me.
And I was so happy when I realized I don't have to choose.
I can choose both.
Self-compassion is when you grow and you challenge yourself and you eat healthy and you take care of your body and you do hard things so that you can thrive.
So again,
Back to that interview scenario.
Let's say you don't get the job.
You can bully yourself.
You can be against yourself and you will be paralyzed.
You won't even want to think about it.
You'll be even scared to try to improve.
Or if you improve from a place of self-compassion,
If you say,
I really want this job,
Let me do everything possible to get it because I want to do this as a gift to myself,
Then it's not as hard to do the work to get to where you want to be.
