The Courage to Transform (Conversation with Selena Lael)

If you don't really have the desire to transform yourself,

Then you're just not living.

Because when that becomes the essence,

When that becomes like the starting point for your,

Like that is your ground zero,

Like I'm not going to allow myself anything less but enjoying the transformation through the journey,

Enjoying myself getting older,

Getting wiser,

Getting more crazy.

I'm going to enjoy the whole transformation of this life,

Whatever the hell that means,

I don't even know,

But that's going to be like my bottom line.

That sets you up for such an amazing experience and to experience the grandeur of what life offers.

I think without that,

There is,

There's some hope.

Do you feel that?

Do you like pick up what I'm putting down?

I'm definitely picking it up and I'll share what first comes to mind when I hear you speak on this very rich topic.

It is this teaching on ignorance and awareness.

Ignorance meaning not conscious,

Not aware.

And then the opposite of that being awareness.

And so many of us in this life for many,

Many generations now,

We have been existing in the ignorance,

Identified with ourselves as the personality,

Identified with ourselves as the person who goes to work and has sex and has a family and combs their hair and brushes their teeth and makes money and dies.

We've been identified with this human process and we get comfortable.

And of course,

Within that comfort,

There's also great discomfort because so many of us have a deeper longing that for lifetimes we've died without fulfilling.

We didn't even know what we were longing for.

We started seeking all the things.

And even in this lifetime,

So many of us still do that.

We feel this longing,

Whether or not we're aware of it.

And so we seek pleasure and different fulfillment of desires,

Hoping it will fill the longing,

But it doesn't.

What you're sharing for me,

It's really highlighting this teaching of when we are living in unconsciousness,

In the Maya,

In the play of the human life,

We are not fulfilling that deeper longing.

We're living more on autopilot and also in a comfort zone of ignorance.

Although it doesn't mean not painful.

It's just a comfort zone.

And when we choose awakening,

When we choose to do the inner work,

When we choose to move beyond comfort,

Which of course takes tremendous courage and persistence and patience and compassion.

But when we choose that,

We wake up to this aliveness.

We wake up to quenching the longing.

We wake up to being more than the small limitations we've identified with ourselves or ourselves as.

So that's what I hear in what you're sharing.

And that's what I think of.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean,

That really highlights that there are levels of consciousness in everything that we do and everything that we are.

And you can see it in things.

You can see the consciousness in things.

You can see the level of consciousness in something,

Someone,

Some place,

Some shape.

And when you start to calibrate what you see and what you experience in this world,

With that in mind,

That changes your consciousness and that changes your life.

And I think this talk of being lost in the Maya and being an unconscious,

Ignorant space and then the transformation into conscious form,

That is at the root,

Just everything about creation for us.

We're reflecting the very nature of creation when we do that,

When we move from darkness to light,

When we move from an unconscious,

Ignorant state to a conscious state.

That is a blessing for ourselves and everything around us.

And that's what I'm saying.

This has to be our bottom line as a humanity because otherwise we're heading in a really dark direction that's not going to be able to sustain itself.

And that's the nature of what we're doing.

That's the nature of this journey,

Going from dark to light and letting that be known.

Expressing that in every waking moment that we have,

Every interaction that we have,

Every word that we utter,

Every breath that we take.

I feel like there's nothing really more important than that.

And when we just admit that to ourselves,

That even beyond self-exploration and satisfaction and fulfillment,

There's a sense of actually what we're doing is part of something so much more grand and ridiculous even.

To not make that the bottom line is like a crime.

I really feel like it's becoming an outright crime to not make consciousness and your awakening and the expelling of your ignorance the top priority.

It brings you into balance and harmony with the entire universe.

And that's what humans need right now.

That's what we all need right now to bring more of this light into the world through conscious action,

Conscious being.

And it's really painful for the experience of absorbing this.

And I find the pain absolutely necessary in this way so that we can know exactly how to light ourselves up from the pain that we experience,

From the pain of this world,

From the pain of witnessing others suffering,

From opening our hearts,

From opening our minds and bodies to this world,

We are able to take on so much more.

And the very reaction of that is to either destroy you or make you rise up.

What would you say for those who don't really know the experience of what you're speaking about?

Like for those who might hear what you're saying and feel a sense of,

Well,

That's too scary or why would I want to face my pain or why would I want to feel the world's pain or a sense of I'd rather stay in my comfort zone?

Like what would you say to those who are experiencing that right now?

Come and have a seat.

Come and sit down.

Take a seat.

Find a position to begin experiencing things the way you'd want.

We can have a meal.

We can have a tea.

We can sit and just begin to drop all of the stuff that you're carrying and begin to soak in an essence of life that perhaps hasn't been discovered yet.

We have to start by wanting something more and everybody inherently wants something more.

So come and have a seat.

Let's open up to this energy.

Let's drink from the divine nature of what we are already.

That right there I feel is,

It's a key or maybe even the key for so many in awakening and it is the,

You said something along the lines of getting in touch with the desire for more and I would say that is the catalyst for so many who might be living,

Say,

Just like the picket white fence life,

Right?

Where it seems like it's the perfect life or it seems like it's a really great life or like why would I ever want to change anything about that?

But then all of a sudden or maybe over time there's this awakening to,

Oh,

This isn't feeding me.

This isn't enough actually.

And that is what I think is such a pivotal point in our journey.

Some of us are born into this life with that deep longing and the awareness of it and some of us don't find it until later in life.

But that right there,

The desire for something more and that desire is what for so many of us brings us in touch with the pain of emptiness or loneliness or longing,

Which can be this catalyst for awakening.

Yeah,

This is the start of everything.

That's why when you go inside,

When you go from being an outwardly oriented individual,

Almost your whole waking life,

You're out there in the world,

You're comparing,

You're judging,

You're analyzing,

You're computing,

You're responding,

You're reacting,

All of this stuff.

When you stop and take a moment to go inward,

The ability to see all that stuff that you've been dealing with and work with in the world,

It becomes enlightened because within yourself is a light,

An ability to perceive things correctly,

Profoundly,

Intensely.

And so when you go inside and you have a practice that is in some way nourishing your internal world,

Your internal experience,

The outward experience becomes enlightened.

And that's why it's so important to have that inward practice and to give that some amount of time and energy because then we can improve upon everything that we're experiencing and doing.

It brings light to the situation.

It allows us to have a way to come back to that physical world and all of the dreams and aspirations and things that we want with the sense of renewal,

With the sense of clarity,

With the sense of renewed vigor.

And that's how someone can go from just being happy with everything that's going on around them and it's kind of like the whole thing just kind of fits everything.

Everyone's just kind of like in their own lane and everyone's doing this thing that they're supposed to do and everything seems just fine.

But then you take some time to go inward and you realize,

Wait a minute,

What's this?

What's that?

Why are these things all so fixed?

There's something inside of me that's longing for something else besides this fixed sort of existence.

And it's because people are trained to be fixed.

People are trained to be dumb.

People are being trained to be like cattle.

We're being raised to be like in a certain way,

But really there's a part of us because we're conscious beings.

We have this ability to desire.

We have this ability to make one in one three.

We go into this experience and we start to transform ourselves knowing that there's so much more,

So much more,

And that's up to us to explore.

Earlier you were speaking to this journey of darkness to light and it makes me think of the word guru and the meaning of this,

Which is from darkness to light,

Guru.

And I think,

You know,

I have a beloved guru of over 20 years.

And even within those teachings with my beloved teacher,

The heart of this journey is also knowing that we are our own sad guru.

We are our first primary guru.

Everything in life is a reflection of our awareness,

Consciousness,

Perception.

So in this journey of darkness to light,

We are our own greatest teacher,

Our own greatest ally,

And we have everything we need within us.

Now,

Of course,

That doesn't negate the grace and even the need for teachers at times.

I would not be where I am in this life journey without my beloved Sai Ma,

Without other teachers,

Without my parents.

I would not be where I am.

I am so fortunate to have had and still have the guides that I have in my life.

Some people might believe that Source or God is the only one who can take them from darkness to light.

I don't think,

I think all of our beliefs are welcome.

Choose beliefs that serve you,

Right?

If your beliefs are supporting expansion,

Consciousness,

Greater awareness,

Fantastic.

If your beliefs are supporting greater contraction and feeling limited and feeling small,

I think those are up for inquiry.

But I don't think there's any right or wrong way to do anything.

There's no correct way.

There's no incorrect way.

This is your journey,

My journey,

Someone else's journey.

And it doesn't look one way for any of us.

And I think that,

At least for me,

Compassion,

Compassion,

Compassion,

Compassion is,

We could say it may not be necessary in someone's path,

But it's like the difference in my mind.

This is the way I see compassion in our path.

Imagine taking a boat across a riverbed of rocks with no water in it.

That is the spiritual journey without compassion.

The spiritual journey with compassion,

Or you could call it the life journey with compassion,

Is that same riverbed full of rocks,

But filled with water now so the boat can easily float down.

So compassion,

It frees us up from so much,

So much judgment and limitation and making ourselves wrong for where we are in the journey.

Yeah.

And we call compassion a word because it actually represents an energy.

It actually represents an ability within ourselves to transform a situation.

See people make all this transformation stuff to be such a big deal,

But you just look at it for what it is.

We call something compassion,

So we have a name for it,

But it's an energy.

It's a way of transforming a situation within yourself.

A lot of people don't realize this.

This is not like,

You know,

Some sort of airy fairy,

You know,

Hocus pocus kind of thing that you do somewhere up there.

It's like just within yourself,

You just choose because now you understand,

You're aware of what compassion is.

You understand that has a name,

Has a definition,

It has a certain vibe,

A certain vibrancy,

A vibration.

And with that,

It transforms the situation.

That's why even when you're talking about,

You know,

Constriction and limiting,

You know,

How you experience constriction and limitations and all of that is what it's all about because you could turn a constricting,

Limited,

Pressured situation into a blessing,

Into a gift,

Into a beautiful situation because you choose to use that pressure and constriction in a certain way and you're able to do that.

If you're not able to do that,

We should strive to be able to do that because from great pressure and constriction comes many incredible moments in this world.

It's how stars,

You know,

Explode.

It's how people create all this pressure going into the ground to then leap up and make a play.

It's how people experience someone's emotional baggage when they really love them and want to work with them,

But it's just too much to deal with.

So we learn to walk away.

It's in all these different situations.

And so we use compassion,

You know,

As a tool.

It's a certain energy.

We can even put the word aside now.

We don't have the word.

We just have the energy of compassion.

How does that sit with us?

How would it feel if every day we made a conscious effort to bring compassion into this world,

Realizing that you are one tiny little speck of dirt and electricity on this huge mud ball of earth with all these other people and living creatures and things.

And at one point in the day,

When you first rise up,

It's the energy of compassion.

What that can do for you.

What can that transform in your life?

For me,

It starts with me.

And that's also what has taught me to have true compassion for others.

It has to start with me.

It doesn't have to.

I think anything we say that's definitive is already,

It's already washed away.

Doesn't have to.

It's like waking up and rather than thinking about everyone else on the planet and compassion for others,

Having it start with myself,

Placing my hand on my heart and saying,

Good morning,

I love you to myself or expressing gratitude.

These things that nourish the heart.

And then it's easier for me to say when I make a mistake,

I place my hand on my heart and I say,

Oh,

I'm sorry,

Love.

I know this is really painful.

I know this is really difficult.

Being able to recognize when I'm having a really rough day and just take a breath and say,

It's okay.

It's okay.

You're having a rough day.

We all have rough days.

These kind of behaviors,

Like you were saying,

If you were just to take away the word compassion and say living with conscious behaviors of kindness,

Of caring,

Of forgiveness.

When we live with ourselves in these ways,

Then it's so much easier for us to meet the world that way.

And many of us are like,

I have so much compassion for the starving children.

I have so much compassion for the animals that are taken to shelters.

But if you talk about this group of people on this part of the planet and what they're doing,

They should go to a four-letter word.

So many of us don't practice compassion unconditionally.

And I think we can't truly practice,

We can't truly embody compassion if it is conditional.

That's not the true essence of compassion.

When we truly embody compassion,

It permeates every cell of our body,

Every fiber of our being until it washes out of us like an ocean of kindness and caring.

And maybe it takes time and years of cultivation to get there.

But compassion starting with our own self.

We are in this vast existence with really no idea what's going on.

And we're all trying to figure it out and be like,

All right,

It's going to be compassion now.

Okay,

I'm going to do this thing.

Compassion practice every day that Elliot said,

And then I'm going to get it.

I'm going to get this.

There's this whole idea that we are trying to figure it out and that we're going to figure it out.

I'm saying no more words,

No more words for describing compassion.

It's not kindness.

It's not an unwavering.

It's not an unconditional.

It's just feel this energy and focus.

Put some pressure on yourself to feel what that energy is because that energy can transform your life.

If it doesn't become just another word,

If it doesn't become just another fad,

If it doesn't just become another phase,

If it doesn't just become a thing for you,

If compassion becomes a way of feeling life,

A way of experiencing life,

Then no more words will ever come to you.

You won't need them because the whole experience is so nourishing,

So complete that if you live,

If you infuse your fuel that you take in,

Whether it's with food or your social life or exploring the world or music or whatever it may be,

Your work,

If you infuse the energy of compassion,

What we're referring to when we say compassion,

Your life is just going to explode because like you said,

It's the water for the river that has a boat.

That boat without the water is grinding and scraping on the bottom and it's going nowhere.

And that's a great analogy that you have because in our experience of life,

We can feel like,

Oh,

We're just chugging along.

Things are just grinding to a halt.

I feel like I'm in a ditch.

Things aren't working.

What the F?

Why?

We have to be at least sensible enough to ask ourselves why and get a good answer because we need to do our own answering.

If the sad guru is not within you alive,

Then what I'm saying right now isn't going to even make sense.

It's not going to work.

It's not going to make sense.

It's just going to be another thing that's been said about compassion,

All this.

So when we open ourselves up to that inner light,

It's the most courageous thing that we'll ever do in our life.

Think about it.

Like what you were saying,

That inner light,

Our ability to become our own guru is going to lead you wherever you're meant to go.

But before that,

You can't go where you want to go.

You're in the dark,

Bumbling around,

Knocking over this,

Hitting that,

Falling into this trap,

Rolling over down there because you can't see.

You can't see anything.

Absolutely.

Because everyone's on their own journey and there's ways of our light being organized so that we are our whole life like a Buddha or something that is coming up from mud and turning into something absolutely beautiful.

But there's a particular energy of consciousness that makes everything else kind of blossom.

Like we could be making the bed our whole life with a certain level of organized consciousness and then we hit one sort of little thing that jolts things and reorganizes them and we suddenly become aware of what we truly are.

And then everything just exponentially goes forward.

We start expanding in all these different ways.

It goes back to the thing we said earlier about all these different realities actually in one.

Different parts of ourselves happening simultaneously at different times.

Something I hear you saying that I think it helps my mind distinguish what you're speaking about.

Coming back to this idea of just dropping the word compassion and kind of living it and all of this.

There are two things I want to say on that.

One,

What I hear you saying is there's a difference between intellectualizing what something like compassion is or love or awakening.

There's a difference between intellectualizing it and embodying it.

And it's one thing for us to take a teaching and say,

I'm being compassionate.

I'm being compassionate.

I'm reading books on compassion.

I'm doing a compassion meditation.

That's one way to experience it.

But to actually embody compassion is a whole different experience.

One where you don't need words.

So that's the distinction my mind makes in what you're speaking to.

And something I think is really important because I just want to speak to those who might be listening to this and saying,

Well,

I like the idea of making my bed and just waking up and then everything moves forward exponentially.

But that's not how I feel.

And I know even for myself on my own journey,

I have had profound awakening experiences,

Spiritual experiences where I felt one with all of creation,

Not even with any substance support,

Just spiritual awakenings where I knew that I was one with all of life,

Where I didn't experience any separation between myself and anything around me.

Where looking at a metal chair or a fluorescent light was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

I have had experiences like this and I have been in the trenches,

In the darkest places,

In dark nights of the soul that I didn't know when they would ever end.

I have experienced so much suffering again and again and again.

And I thought it was finally over and I was finally on my highway to enlightenment.

And then boom,

Again,

I'm in months of depression or pain or something.

So I really want to speak to anyone who's hearing this conversation and wondering how to get into this magical place of enlightenment and just say,

Wherever you are in your journey is right on time.

It's right where you need to be.

I imagine Elliot has many things that he can also share about his path.

It's not like some magical linear path where we go from darkness to light in a month or a year.

It is this journey,

It's this weaving,

It's this whole experience that overlaps and goes different directions and comes back together.

And I know it's really easy for us to use a lot of really nice language and nice imagery about this beautiful awakened planet.

But so much of this work is about being in the darkest,

Scariest,

Grossest place that exists in consciousness.

And I'm not saying we have to go there in our awakening journey,

But I know so many of us have and even still do.

And I would love to say that I'm here with you.

I'm here with you.

I'm here with you.

And I invite you to place your hand on your heart right now,

Place a hand on your belly if you can,

And just say to yourself,

There's nothing wrong with me.

There's nothing wrong with me.

Wherever I am in my journey,

There's nothing wrong with me.

I am in my path.

Let's just take a moment,

Let that sink in a little bit.

The space where we are all okay,

Where we are all human beings,

Giving it the best that we can.

Yes.

Living with the ups and downs and everything.

There's a space of acceptance for that.

I stand with every single human being,

Every single creature that allows what is to simply be in this space right now.

I support this space.

Life can be tough.

It can be really difficult to hear someone talking about nice things because we don't feel them.

We're not experiencing them right now.

It's important to remember that just because we don't experience something right now,

Doesn't mean that it's not there.

It's like when we've lost something and we're looking for it,

Just because we've lost it doesn't mean that it's not there.

It's somewhere.

We're looking for it.

We now have to find it.

Just because we've lost it,

We shouldn't say it doesn't exist.

We are all worthy of experiencing everything,

The highs and the lows.

And we're not alone in it.

Part of the raw tenderness and preciousness of this human experience is that we're all doing this together.

Whatever level of consciousness we're in,

Whether we're deep in some very active spiritual path or have no connection to anything,

Quote unquote,

Spiritual,

We are all in this together.

We are here in our individual journeys together.

And it's not to be taken so seriously.

Oh,

But it's so serious all the time,

Elliot.

It's important to remember when we're on a spiritual path,

Or even if we're not yet and we're thinking about it or sort of flirting with it,

That again,

This is a journey.

Life is a journey.

It's kind of disturbing to think of how tech companies and social media and much of the world is on this sort of juice of right now,

Everything,

All at once.

I want this.

I get this.

Because it goes against everything about life,

The way that it usually is and the way that things will typically be.

It's a process,

Right?

We go from not being happy,

Not being fulfilled,

Hungry,

Wanting more,

Me,

To I'm a part of everything.

I'm connected.

I love,

I have compassion.

I'm well supported.

I'm able to support others.

Love.

We go from one place to another because there's a cyclical nature of life.

There's a cyclical nature about our experience.

And when we remind ourselves that there's a time to take things very seriously about our journey,

About what we're doing and about things in general,

And there's a time to let loose and to be full of joy and laughter and to let the hair down a bit,

We can go and be fluid and to allow ourselves that understanding that we too go through phases.

The moon teaches us this.

Every night we can look out into the sky and remind ourselves that we have a confidant out there.

We have a celestial body that reflects our own nature.

And whatever way it may be,

Our physical health,

Our mental wellbeing,

Our emotional state,

Whatever it may be,

We are going through cycles.

We are going from light to dark and back to light.

And for anyone that's listening who feels like curious about where this is all going,

How they can ramp up the charge within themselves so that they are turned on and illuminating so that they can be that version of themselves that when you walk into a room,

You feel present,

You feel good about yourself,

You feel strong and stable within.

There is a path for all of this.

If you're willing to go there,

If you want that,

There's a way to bring this into reality.

There's that out there in the world.

And I remember growing up and having some really dark times,

Selena,

And I'm sure that you could relate to this in some way because of the great leader that you've become.

But when you start with the pain of growing up,

And when you start with the past and realize the wealth of information,

The wealth of growth,

Nutrients that's in everything that's come before this moment,

Everything that's happened to you before this time,

When you've had a resurgence of focus and energy and you've somehow found and captured a little bit more of the light of this world,

Then you feel a little bit more aware.

You feel a little bit more conscious within yourself.

All this fuel and stuff from the past,

It can get burned up through really quickly if you want,

Because there's so much nutrients from our past and our past helps inform us of where we're going.

So whatever has happened,

Whatever has happened to anyone listening to this,

The past is the past.

But what you do with the memory of the past is how you can shape your life going forward.

For anyone that's aspiring or interested in the spiritual path,

This becomes an anchor to what we are,

Where we're going,

And also where we want to go.

It helps inform us,

It helps guide us,

The pain,

The memory,

The information from what's before it does not bind us,

It doesn't limit us unless we allow it to.

And if that's where we're at,

That's where we're at,

And that's where we can work from.

And that's why we're here,

To support people who realize this,

Who are struggling with that,

Who want to make a better world within themselves and out.

Because this is the possibility of our conscious action,

Of us choosing to transform a world one moment at a time.

It starts with one moment.

Absolute devotion to guidance,

To the light.

An absolute devotion to ourselves,

Which I think,

Knowing from my own personal experience,

I imagine many of us can't even really comprehend what that means.

Or if you have certain beliefs in your life experience that might even sound like blasphemy,

To be devoted to yourself,

But I can't share the transformative power of this enough.

Learn to be devoted to yourself.

You want greater freedom?

Learn to honor yourself.

You want greater love?

Learn to love yourself.

Learn to be kind and compassionate with yourself.

And like Elliot was saying,

Practice,

If you wish,

If this makes sense for you,

Practice taking all of these teachings that we are so,

So fortunate to have access to.

And rather than just thinking about them from your mind,

Practice,

As my beloved Sai Ma would say,

Think with your heart,

Love with your mind.

Practice experiencing these teachings in your body,

From your heart.

Practice living these teachings as behaviors rather than something just hold in your intellect.

Practice being devoted to you,

Respecting you,

Honoring you.

You are the beginning and the end of everything.

You are the light and the dark.

You are the beauty of this life.

For me,

My theme today has been transformation and honoring that and recognizing that you are,

We are,

Everybody is a transformative process.

And whether you realize that or not,

It doesn't matter.

We're here talking about it and that's what it's about.

This is what's important in this conversation for me,

The most,

The highest thing.

But yeah,

That essence,

That knowing that this is,

You know,

That this part of life is there and everything all the time.

If we see that,

If we bring that into our daily practice,

We begin to see life differently.

It can aid us on whatever part of the journey we are on.

It's for everyone,

Even people who already have a set religion and a way of doing things.

It doesn't matter.

Transformation,

We've got to celebrate that in our life.

Beautiful.

As we come to a close,

I would like to invite everyone who's listening to take a concept or a feeling or a teaching from today's conversation and see how you can apply it to your life.

Whether that is this idea of welcoming more compassion,

Or like I said,

Placing your hand on your heart or your belly and just saying,

It's okay.

Or thinking about this journey from darkness to light and darkness to light and darkness to light.

Take something from today's conversation and let it germinate in your mind like a seed.

Let it blossom in your heart.

Reflect on it,

Maybe journal on it.

Maybe sit in stillness and just allow whatever's arising to be there.

Yeah,

There are many different practices that we can use to connect with this energy and to connect with this practice and to connect with the teachings.

Something that we can do to connect with our ability to transform,

Our ability to open awaken that door within us that is recognizing everything is in a transitory state.

Everything is constantly moving.

Whether you look at this world on the anatomical level or all the way focused out and seeing everything all together,

It's all moving all the time.

There is this incredible sense of movement with time and energy within us.

And when we don't experience that as it is,

But rather as a constricting,

Limited framework,

That's when we start to create inertia in our body.

That's when we start to create sluggishness in the mind and energy and emotions start to become heavy and distracting.

So one way to,

Yeah,

One way that we can connect with this energy that is in everything all the time,

Everywhere is to meditate with a candle and allow this candle to show you an essence about life in real time.

And so you can experience this candle and you can watch it and you can sit with it knowing that it is going to reflect to you your transitory nature.

The flame is being created by chemical reaction of levels that we can't even get into right now,

But just know that this flame is representing the flame within you,

The flame of life,

The flame of desire,

The flame of wanting to know.

And as you sit with this flame,

You can ask yourself a few questions.

Seated in a meditative posture with the flame in front of you,

Gazing into the flame,

You can ask yourself,

What are some aspects of myself right now that maybe I don't need going forward that maybe I would like to shed and create some distance from?

The parts of ourselves that might be holding us back from becoming liberated beings,

From being more at ease,

From being able to enjoy life.

Gazing into the flame,

You allow this question to sink in.

And then when you've got it,

You can close your eyes and allow any sort of awareness of self to come up and feel love.

Feel love for this ability to see yourself,

To see the parts of yourself that need love,

That need tenderness.

And give that to yourself.

And then you can open your eyes again,

Looking at the flame and ask yourself a new question And ask yourself,

What are the aspects that I would like to embody going forward on this journey of life?

What are a few things that I would like to get more in touch with,

Aspire towards,

Gravitate towards,

Invite,

Welcome into my life?

Allow that question to sink in and resonate.

And when you're ready,

You can close your eyes and feel also the same love that was accepting the parts of you that you'd like to improve upon and awaken to again empower and align yourself with these parts of yourselves that could come alive,

That you'd like to welcome and manifest.

It's the same love.

Allow that loving awareness to spread throughout your whole body.

And then open your eyes once more to the flame,

Bowing to the flame for its transitory nature,

Its beautiful warmth,

Light.

And then give yourself a bit of time to ground yourself and just wish yourself love.

That's beautiful.

Elliot,

Thank you so much for this really rich time together.

Thank you all so much for being here with us in this journey.

I'm so grateful for your time and how deep we were able to go together today.

Thank you,

Selena.

And thank you everyone who tuned in and was a part of this.

Namaste.

Great love to all.