Overcoming The Fear Of Being Seen: EFT Tapping Demo - E37

Hello,

I'm Annie Moussou,

A certified EFT tapping master practitioner.

I help women build confidence,

Set boundaries,

And enjoy healthy relationships.

Welcome to my podcast,

Hush Your Mind,

Building a better relationship with yourself.

On this show,

I offer practical wisdom to help you clear fears,

Limiting beliefs,

And trauma so that you can gracefully create a life you love.

Welcome to episode number 37 of my podcast,

Hush Your Mind,

Building a better relationship with yourself.

Many of us struggle with being visible.

We may have learned long ago that it wasn't safe to speak up,

Share a perspective,

Or get our needs met.

In our business or career,

Becoming visible could help us reach more people and share gifts more widely.

We each have a special contribution to make to this world.

Our fears and doubts often keep us stuck in our comfort zones,

Yet a part of us yearns to be seen.

It's human.

We all yearn to be valued and appreciated,

To connect with others deeply,

And to feel at home within ourselves,

No matter where we tread.

For the first time ever,

I've invited my guest,

Christina,

On my podcast for a live EFT tapping session to overcome the fear of being seen.

In this session,

We identify and release the different fears associated with visibility,

Like losing control,

Worrying about what others think,

And the inability to connect with others.

Wait until the end for Christina's empowering breakthrough,

And feel free to tap along with us.

Without further ado,

Here's our session.

You want to tap on visibility,

So could you please elaborate a little bit about what your issue is?

Sure.

I really struggle with being seen,

Especially in front of a large group of people or an audience.

This is an area I would like to grow into and feel more confident and really just be able to be myself in any environment.

Whether that's a small group or a large group,

I want to be able to feel like I'm fully present in myself.

Okay.

All right.

I'm wondering how this shows up in your life.

If you have a concrete example,

Maybe in a recent time,

This showed up.

Yeah.

Most recent situation would be at a training for somatic experiencing.

I volunteered to be a demo in front of the group with the modality of somatic experiencing.

It was a typical hotel room,

Conference room,

And about,

I don't know how many people,

Over 50 people.

For me,

Getting up to do that demo was really activating.

Although there was some excitement in it,

There was also a lot of fear and a lot of activation.

All right.

When you think about being in front of the audience,

Giving this demo of the modality,

Feeling the fear right now,

Where do you feel the fear in your body?

I definitely feel it.

It's through my core,

The core of my body,

There's a fear,

Almost taking a little inhale,

Maybe even a little freeze,

Kind of like,

Oh my gosh.

Yeah.

Okay.

If it had a texture,

What would it be?

Hard and prickly,

Definitely prickly too.

If it had a color,

What would it be?

Many colors,

All colors,

Flashing around.

And does it have a temperature?

I mean,

My body gets really,

Really warm,

So maybe there is a warm,

It could be fiery.

Yeah.

All right.

What level of intensity would you give this sensation on a scale of 0 to 10,

10 being the highest?

It's high.

I would say,

I'll say 9.

Yeah.

All right.

Let's start with that.

So tap on the side of your hand and feel free to change the words up so that they resonate with you if they don't already.

Even though,

Even though,

I feel this fear in my core.

I feel this fear in my core.

It's prickly and hard.

It's prickly and hard.

It's all the different colors.

It's all the different colors.

Flashing.

Flashing.

My whole body feels warm.

My whole body feels warm.

I choose to love and accept myself.

I choose to love and accept myself.

Even though I feel this fear in my core.

Even though I feel this fear in my core.

Just thinking about being in front of the people.

Just thinking about being in front of the people.

Over 50 people in the hotel conference room.

Over 50 people in the hotel conference room.

This prickly,

Hard sensation.

This prickly,

Hard sensation.

My whole body feels warm.

My whole body feels warm.

I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I feel this fear in my core.

Even though I feel this fear in my core.

These flashing lights.

These flashing lights.

All these colors.

All these colors.

This hard and prickly sensation.

This hard and prickly sensation.

Feeling like on this inhale.

Feeling this inhale.

A little,

What would you say,

Surprised?

Surprised,

Yeah.

Yeah.

I choose to love and accept myself.

I choose to love and accept myself.

All right,

Top of the head.

This fear in my core.

This fear in my core.

This fear in my core.

Eyebrow point.

This prickly,

Hard sensation.

This prickly,

Hard sensation.

Side of the eye.

Over 50 people in the room.

Over 50 people in the room.

Under the eye.

Feeling activated.

Feeling activated.

Under the nose.

This fear.

This fear.

On the chin.

All the different colors.

All the different colors.

Collarbone.

This warmth in my body.

This warmth in my body.

Under the arm.

Acknowledging this fear.

Acknowledging this fear.

Take a deep breath.

Check in with the fear in the core.

See how it has shifted,

If it has.

Yeah,

At least shifted down to maybe around a six.

Okay,

So it went from a nine to a six.

Yeah,

Yeah.

All right,

We're making progress in just one round.

Okay,

And how has the sensation shifted?

Are you still getting all the different colors?

Is the texture the same?

How's the temperature?

Yeah,

It shifted a bit.

It was interesting because I felt like it actually went up.

I mean,

If a nine,

10,

Or if it was like,

But it went up for a moment.

And then it just shifted and came down.

And as it did,

I'm aware of how much energy is there.

And some of it is the same.

So it's still like,

It's,

I mean,

I want to say it's fiery,

Like,

It's just like a quick fire.

I mean,

Sort of like the lots of colors and the like,

Energy that's just coming through is still intense,

But it's like,

More fiery.

So hard and prickly.

Yeah.

Okay.

And what thoughts,

Emotions came up for you if,

If there were any?

Yeah,

Mostly just that feeling that like intense,

Like fire moving through my body and picturing being in the room.

Okay.

All right.

That's great that you're picturing yourself in a room.

That's what we want,

That we work with the stress that's coming up in your body.

So keep focusing on that.

And it's also perfectly normal that any tension that you felt initially would worsen a little bit before you feel better,

That moves to a different place.

That's also very normal in EFT.

So for me,

That's a sign that we're on the right track.

Yeah.

Okay.

So let's work with the,

The fiery sensation since that's coming up in front right now.

Okay.

Okay.

So even though I'm still feeling some fear,

Even though I'm still feeling some fear,

This fiery sensation,

This fiery sensation,

Is it still in your core?

Yeah.

It moves up through the core,

Moves up through the core.

Okay.

I choose to accept myself.

I choose to accept myself.

Even though I'm still feeling some tension in my body,

Even though I'm still feeling some tension in my body,

This fiery sensation moving up,

This fiery sensation moving up,

Seeing myself in front of the audience,

Seeing myself in front of the audience.

I choose to accept myself anyway.

I choose to accept myself anyway.

Even though I'm still feeling this fear,

Even though I'm still feeling this fear,

Moving up through my core,

Moving up through my core,

This fiery sensation,

This fiery sensation,

I choose to accept how I feel.

I choose to accept how I feel.

Okay.

Top of the head.

Still feeling this fear.

Still feeling this fear.

Eyebrow.

This fiery sensation.

This fiery sensation.

And I want to ask you as we tap on the side of the eye,

If there were a fear behind this fear,

A reason for this fear,

What would it be?

Feels like a,

Oh gosh,

It just feels like a loss of control.

Yeah.

Okay.

Under the eye.

Or like,

I don't know how people will see me.

Okay.

This loss of control.

This loss of control.

Under the nose.

I don't know how people will see me.

I don't know how people will see me.

On the chin.

I can't do anything about it.

I can't do anything about it.

Collarbone.

This fiery sensation.

This fiery sensation.

Under the arm.

Losing control.

Losing control.

Not sure how people will see me.

Not sure how people will see me.

Take a deep breath.

What's coming up for you?

Yeah,

I feel,

Again,

There was kind of like a little spike and then it came down.

And feeling much more calmer again.

Maybe a five.

Right.

And then I think with something that is coming up,

I keep picturing,

It's funny,

I keep picturing the audience,

But I don't see any faces.

And so it's just like a audience.

And there's no faces there.

And then I realized like,

I can't,

Like,

There's no connection.

Yeah,

It's very interesting.

I haven't thought of that before.

Yeah.

It sounds like that's part of the fear is that there's no connection.

It's like this mass of people.

And you don't know what to make of that.

I don't know.

Yeah.

Yeah,

Exactly.

It's like,

My brain can't take it all in and I can't connect.

And so it just becomes this like,

Blank,

All these people and the kind of a blank,

No connection sounds important.

Okay.

All right.

Okay.

Even though.

Even though.

I can't connect with the audience.

I can't connect with the audience.

And it feels,

I don't know,

What does it feel like?

It feels like,

I wouldn't say dissociative,

But even though it's not,

Like,

I mean,

It feels disconnected.

Yeah,

Simply.

Yeah.

Yeah,

It feels,

I feel disconnected.

I feel disconnected.

Yeah.

Can't see anyone's faces.

I can't see anyone's faces.

Don't know what to make of that.

I don't know what to make of that.

My brain doesn't know what to do with that.

My brain doesn't know what to do with that.

I choose to accept myself.

I choose to accept myself.

Even though I feel disconnected.

Even though I feel disconnected.

Because I can't see anyone's faces.

Because I can't see anyone's faces.

It's just a big mass of an audience.

It's just a big mass of an audience.

This remaining fear in my body.

This remaining fear in my body.

I choose to accept myself anyway.

I choose to accept myself anyway.

Even though I feel disconnected from the audience.

Even though I feel disconnected from the audience.

I choose to accept myself.

I choose to accept myself.

Okay,

Top of the head.

Feel disconnected.

Feel disconnected.

Eyebrow.

Connection is important to me.

Connection is important to me.

Side of the eye.

I can't see anyone's faces.

I can't see anyone's faces.

Under the eye.

Don't know what to make of that.

I don't know what to make of that.

Under the nose.

This tension in my body.

This tension in my body.

On the chin.

Wanting to connect with the audience.

Wanting to connect with the audience.

Collarbone.

Not knowing how with 50 people in the room.

Not knowing how with 50 people in the room.

The arm.

Feeling disconnected.

Feeling disconnected.

Okay,

Take a deep breath.

It's interesting.

I feel some sadness really there.

So there's a bit of calming.

I don't know if it stayed the same or went down to four,

But it shifted into a different emotion.

Yes,

That can happen.

Let's keep talking.

But it also just like makes sense.

Like I'm like,

Oh,

Yeah.

Like I want to make connection with people.

And it just gets overwhelming with the number.

Yes.

Okay.

What's the sadness about,

If you know?

I think it's just that.

Like I think there's something like I'm just kind of seeing myself a bit like outside of myself.

Just a bit like where it's like,

Oh,

I just want to connect with people.

Okay.

That makes so much sense.

Like.

Yeah.

All right.

And like how important that is to me.

And yeah.

So that.

Yeah.

And I don't know exactly.

There might be more layers in there.

Yeah.

That's okay.

Yeah.

Okay.

All right.

Even though.

Even though.

I'm feeling the sadness.

I'm feeling the sadness.

I just want to connect with people.

I just want to connect with people.

And it's so hard with the 50 people in the room.

And it's so hard with 50 people in the room.

And I choose to accept how I feel.

I choose to accept how I feel.

Even though I feel sad.

Even though I feel sad.

That I can't connect to the audience.

That I can't connect to the audience.

I want to connect to each and every person.

I want to connect to each and every person.

Connection is important to me.

Connection is important to me.

I choose to love and accept myself.

I choose to love and accept myself.

Even though it makes me feel sad.

Even though it makes me feel sad.

That I can't connect with the audience.

That I can't connect with the audience.

I want so much to connect to them.

I want so much to connect to them.

I love and accept myself anyway.

I love and accept myself anyway.

All right.

Top of the head.

Feeling sad.

Feeling sad.

Eyebrow.

Wanting to connect with people.

Wanting to connect with people.

Side of the eye.

And not being able to in a room of 50 people.

Not being able to in a room of 50 people.

Under the eye.

Or anytime there's a group,

A big group.

Or anytime there's a big group.

Under the nose.

Feeling the sadness.

Feeling the sadness.

On the chin.

This need to connect.

This need to connect.

Collarbone.

Connection is important to me.

Connection is important to me.

Acknowledging the sadness.

And acknowledging the sadness.

Take a deep breath.

Take a moment to tune in and see what's coming up for you now.

Yeah,

It shifted a lot.

So much more like calmness I can feel in my core.

And there's like this possibility of like,

It's almost like finding a different way to connect.

It's just not familiar to me.

Because connecting in front of 50 people is going to look super different and feel different.

And it's like,

There's a part of me that doesn't know what that's like.

But it's like,

There's this like,

Oh,

What if there's some possibility there?

Yeah,

That's beautiful.

So you're opening up That's beautiful.

So you're opening up to that possible new way of being of showing up.

New,

New way of relating to people.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

There was a pic I kept coming back to this image.

So during the experience,

I joked that I wish I had brought my camera up so I could take a picture of the audience because I couldn't believe I was doing that.

And so somebody gave me their camera.

And I really quickly snapped a picture and handed it back.

And when I took the picture,

I didn't see any faces.

I just like took it and gave it back.

And they showed it to me later.

And they showed me like some people were like smiling,

And everybody was really happy.

Or some people were like,

And she's like,

Look,

You lit up the room.

And so but I keep picturing that now like that,

That there were people who were able to connect that I was there.

There's potential there.

Yes.

Even though I couldn't at the moment,

It was my to like,

I couldn't at that moment,

Like,

I'm thinking of that image too.

And like,

Oh,

There is some possibility there is some way.

Yeah.

Wow.

That's amazing.

Mm hmm.

It almost sounds like if like,

You're clearing the fear and the sadness,

Acknowledging what's there.

And it's now making the way towards this new possibility,

Right?

Perhaps the fear is actually keeping you from connecting in this new way.

And now we've,

You know,

Removed some of the layers,

You're now seeing,

Hey,

There's actually this other way of showing up.

And yes,

It's unfamiliar,

But it's possible.

So yeah,

That's super empowering.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Okay.

How's Yeah,

Did you want to say something else?

No,

No.

Okay.

How's the level of intensity?

What number is it?

Um,

Gosh,

It's different.

I mean,

I want to say,

I wouldn't say like a round of four.

But it's just has a different quality,

Because there's almost a little bit of excitement with the potential.

Yeah,

That's a great thing.

So it's like,

Not fear based,

But like,

Yeah,

Like a excited,

But also a little calm.

Okay.

All right.

So it sounds like the fear,

If I'm hearing correctly,

It has subsided.

It's Yeah.

Is it sometimes the excitement and the fear,

You know,

Kind of resembles each other,

It seems,

When we're excited,

We're not aware of it,

We might confuse it with fear or anxiety,

But it's actually just excitement.

And,

You know,

About this,

This new way of being?

Yeah,

It feels definitely feels more like exciting than fearful.

Okay,

Great.

Okay.

Yes.

All right.

We're definitely making our way.

So even though,

Even though there may be some tension,

Tension left to my body,

There may be some tension left in my body.

I'm staying open to this new possibility,

Staying open to this new possibility,

This potential of relating to an audience,

This potential of relating to an audience,

Connecting to them in a different way,

Connecting to them in a different way.

Even though I feel this excitement in my body,

Even though I feel this excitement in my body,

I've never related to an audience like this.

I've never related to an audience like this.

But I saw the photo of all the people's faces.

I saw the photo of everyone's faces.

And they were so happy to connect with me.

And they were happy to connect with me.

Maybe I can connect with them.

Maybe I can connect with them.

Maybe there's a way to connect with an audience.

Maybe there's a way to connect with an audience.

Maybe there's a way to connect with 50 people in a room.

Maybe there's a way to connect with 50 people in a room.

I choose to stay open to this possibility.

I choose to stay open to this possibility.

Even though this is all so new for me,

Even though this is all so new for me,

I want to learn how to connect in this way.

I want to learn how to connect in this way.

I'm staying open to this idea.

I'm staying open to this idea.

To new ideas and inspiration.

To new ideas and inspiration.

Top of the head.

This excitement in my body.

This excitement in my body.

Eyebrow.

Feeling safer to connect.

Feeling safer to connect.

Eye.

I give myself permission.

I give myself permission.

To show up differently.

To show up differently.

To be myself authentically.

To be myself authentically.

In a small group or in a big group.

In a small group or in a big group.

Under the eye.

Feeling this potential.

Feeling this potential.

Allowing myself to open up to it.

Allowing myself to open up to it.

Under the nose.

Getting excited about connecting.

Getting excited about connecting.

On the chin.

Letting myself feel excited.

Letting myself feel excited.

Baller bone.

Allowing myself to remember that other people want to connect with me.

Allowing myself to remember that other people want to connect with me.

Under the arm.

I love,

Honor,

And respect myself.

I love,

Honor,

And respect myself.

Okay.

Take a deep breath.

That was so good.

Yeah.

I really,

It's just that I feel that potential so much more.

That last layer is just like,

Oh,

Yeah.

It just makes sense.

I can totally do that.

And I know how to connect with people.

Oh,

My gosh.

So it's like somehow it's,

Yeah,

It's just doing that,

But in a just different way.

All the things you said.

Wow.

Amazing.

Wow.

Good for you.

How's the tension in the body feeling?

Oh,

So different.

There is happiness that feels like not tension,

But an energy.

The tension is less,

I want to say,

Like a three or two.

Yeah.

I think there's just a little jittery energy,

But very,

Very different.

Yeah.

And more joy and just like happiness.

Wonderful.

Oh,

My gosh.

You came in with a nine and now you're at a two.

Yeah.

It was really,

Really good.

Yeah.

And you have some beautiful revelations that will inspire you as you move forward in the different ways and spaces that you show up for,

You know,

To share your light with the world.

I mean,

I'm so happy to hear that you're feeling empowered to show up in a group of 50 people.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Just like maybe 20 minutes ago,

You weren't,

Right?

Yeah.

Not at all.

That's extraordinary.

Yeah.

Okay.

It does like something like shifted to where it's like,

Oh,

Maybe I can be myself.

Maybe I can connect with others.

You know,

Even in a large 50 or more group.

Wow.

Well,

I'm super excited.

I can't wait to see what you do with these revelations.

And yeah,

Just feel free to share with me,

Update how it goes for you.

I'd love to hear.

Yeah.

I'm sure I'll need to rewatch the video or practice to bring it all back.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's also so new.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's also so new.

So it makes sense that it's like you're getting out of this old habit that you've always had.

So it's going to feel uncomfortable.

And yeah,

Definitely tap along with the video or tap as you get ready for a presentation or for any time you show up in an audience,

That would be best.

But yeah,

We've opened up the door to a new way of being.

So yeah,

I'm super excited.

And how many people are going to be benefiting from your presence as you show up more widely?

You know,

So I think the people,

People need you and your gifts.

So thank you for doing this work.

You too.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you so much for joining me in this episode of Hush Your Mind.

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