VisibleU Practice For Good Boundaries

My body is strong and healthy through and through.

As I remain settled in the safety of this present moment and respond lovingly to my own needs as well as others,

My body restores itself to balance.

Fear is not a premonition.

It is only a feeling.

Label it as such and you remove its hold on you.

Fear can only determine your reality if you let it siphon the majority of your attention.

You can stop this.

You can contain the feeling of fear and digest it by simply leaning into the feeling of it for at least five seconds.

When you contain your fear instead of denying it,

You make emotional space to digest it.

Then you can authentically move forward with courage.

Contain your fears and vulnerabilities with love and then take your step forward.

You will be unstoppable.

My belief in possibility or pessimism determines my reality.

I trust life.

I trust myself.

I trust my joy.

Life is on my side when I let myself believe it is.

Big fear that holds us back is only a temporary feeling that is masquerading as a fact.

I will honor my feelings of fear but they will not be my decisions.

I am safe.

All is well in this moment and this moment is all that is real.

I will keep track of my attention and watch the tone of my feelings.

I will notice if attention is too attached to the past or the future and I will notice that the focus of my thoughts is tied to what's wrong or what's right.

I can stay present in this moment.

I can contain my power in this way and I can redirect my thoughts or actions if they are tied to lack or wrongness in a circumstance.

We see what we look for.

I choose to live in the here and now and look for the good and the gratitude as much as I can.

The present moment is the only place that is real now.

My power can only be used in this moment so I lovingly contain my attention and passion and strength right here to this moment.

I contain and consolidate my own power to create what is joyful and meaningful to me.

I can be buttoned up sometimes but I don't always have to be.

It is safer to make room for my imperfection because it is real.

If some part of my body is out of balance or ill at ease,

I listen with curiosity and look for stress like anger,

Sadness,

Fear,

Or guilt that might have been off my radar.

I cooperate with any aches and pains and take them as indication that I need to turn inward to contain and nurture myself more fully.

I am strong and can do many things but I also have vulnerability.

My body lets me know when I need to let my foot off the strength pedal and use the self-compassion one.

I trust my inner wisdom.

I don't need to be perfect.

I don't need to match anyone or anything.

I only need to stay connected to me,

My full self,

And balance my strength and my compassion first for myself and then for others.

Authentic and respectful answers will remain clear when I balance myself with the other people and things in my world in this way.

I deserve love.

This is an absolute.

If I do not feel loved or worse yet,

If I am feeling unlovable,

I only need to shift that mistaken thought within me.

My world reflects the love and the strength that I have for myself.

I deserve love.

I deserve to give love and to receive love.

I know what I need.

I know what I deserve and I do know what is right for me to do.

I can be acceptable to others but I don't always have to be.

It is right to distinguish myself.

It is my duty to remember the space between me and everyone else.

I am separate.

That is a freedom and a responsibility.

I remember my inherent separateness from everyone else and the goodness of that separation.

It gives me freedom and individual power.

I let myself listen to my dreams and I let them evolve and grow.

I go after my joy and my dreams with courage and persistence.

If I do not give up,

I cannot fail.

Money is simply a currency of freedom.

We all deserve freedom.

I can be helpful to others but I don't always have to be.

Others are not more important.

I choose to forgive others as much as possible.

When I let myself authentically forgive missteps or full-on attacks from other people,

I contain myself and I protect my power from further spilling into the past difficult moment where it is only wasted.

I forgive because I know that we are all imperfect.

We all have dark sides that cross the lines at times.

I forgive because each moment is precious and there is a constant trade-off to either attending to what is wrong or what is possible and I want to feel compassion and joy as much as I possibly can.

Blame is an illusion.

It is attention spilling my power.

If I find myself feeling dark or excessively angry at others,

I turn inward and look for the sadness or fear behind that anger.

I give it love and compassion for several moments and then I remind myself that things happen for me,

Not to me.

I want to learn from every problem and there is something to learn from every problem.

I allow myself to look for the lesson and take action to implement it.

I watch out for doubt of all kinds.

Doubt of myself,

Doubt of my deservingness of good things,

Doubt of my ability to create joy for myself and doubt that I have the power to persist and influence the now and the future.

The future is not pre-written.

I am here to do all that I can do to create joy for myself and others.

When I feel that there is nothing I can do about a situation,

I wake up and I see that thoughts of powerlessness are actually symptoms of feelings like fear or sadness.

When I'm feeling powerless,

I give love to those feelings for at least five seconds and then I decide how am I called to use my strength for myself in this moment.

I can defer to others but I don't always have to.

I deserve to show up,

To be seen and to receive love and support every day.

I have immense power to create but I also allow support and collaboration.

I gratefully receive loving support and collaboration to surpass my goals and expand my dreams.

Paying other people is an expression of my gratitude.

Everyone deserves to make a good living.

When I pay someone for service,

I affirm their deservingness of good pay for good results and I affirm my own deservingness of the same.

I embrace that which I desire and those wonderful things that can surprise me every day.

I commit to loving co-creation of joy each day.

When I let myself remain hopeful,

I am safe.

I don't have to create the solutions to every problem all by myself.

I am open to receiving support for the best resolution to any problem that will benefit all involved.

I deserve joy,

Security and freedom in all areas of my life and so does everyone else.

I give and receive with joy and gratitude.

I can be humble but I don't always have to be.

I deserve to take action for myself and my joy.

No one else can do it for me.

It is my duty.

I refuse to be limited by my mind's imagination of what could go wrong.

I will be wise and caring for myself.

I will honor my fear and use it to be wise and savvy but fear is not my stopping point.

I will move forward in spite of fear and trust in the goodness of my desire.

It is far safer to make a decision than to not.

When you don't decide and take action for what you want,

The answer is always no.

I commit to carrying myself forward.

I refuse to be a puddle.

I will carry on with my best decision.

It is my right and frankly it is my duty to take action for myself.

That means I will make the best decisions I can one after another and I will follow them through with integrity.

That is the best I can do.

It is safer to make decisions and take action.

I love myself.

I contain myself.

I ask for what I want and I continue to do my part to create that which will bring me joy.

I use my attention to keep my thinking clear and accurate.

I commit to staying open to opportunities that are there for the taking each day.

I am safe in this moment.

Life supports me when I lovingly contain myself with compassion and strength.

I am willing to learn and grow.

I am willing to recognize and redirect momentary negativity and judgment when my attention spills into it.

I allow myself to be optimistic,

Courageous,

Grateful and supported.

I embrace growth and change.

Life is change.

I embrace my ability to influence my life for the good and I embrace the grit that I am called to develop.

I move beyond past limitations.

I am free to create and fulfill my potential.

It's time.

I trust that when I keep my state balanced to the authentic here and now,

I open myself to a world of gratitude and opportunity that I cannot see when I'm investing in blame,

Resentment or out of balance fear.

When I contain myself with strength and compassion,

My ability to create good is unstoppable.

I am here to share my authentic gifts.

My full contained self is my best self.

Contain yourself with love before you judge,

Before you conclude,

Before you give up and before you communicate and you can trust that you will contribute your best.

This is Jessica Kiesler from The Visible Self.