Healing Meditation For Those Experiencing Miscarriage

Hello,

And welcome to this healing meditation for working with the grief of experiencing a miscarriage.

My name is Julie Ila Grace,

And I am honored to help support you at this time.

Please note that this meditation is designed for anyone who may need it,

Whether mother,

Father,

Or any other loved one.

Know that no matter who you are in relation to the departed child,

You are worthy of your feelings.

Like anyone who has found their way to this meditation today,

I too have experienced the devastation,

Confusion,

Anxiety,

Helplessness,

Fear,

And frustration of a miscarriage.

In part,

The loss of a baby through miscarriage is often exacerbated by a lack of societal recognition of that loss.

Miscarriage has also been stigmatized in the past,

Leaving many to feel as if they could not speak about their experience.

This can create a sense of disenfranchised grief,

And further compound the pain of the loss.

People may also unhelpfully ask questions,

Like how many weeks you were,

Or tell you that you can try again,

Which of course has no bearing on your current feelings.

Your experience is your experience,

Regardless of gestation or any other factor.

Remember that your feelings are valid,

Regardless of anyone else's experiences.

Some people,

Including partners or loved ones,

May not understand or share your grief,

While others may not know how to express their own feelings about the situation.

Take this session here today just to focus on you,

And again,

Remember that whatever you feel is perfectly alright.

You may feel ashamed by the level of your heartbreak,

But know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or with the strength of your grief.

Know that however you are feeling about this experience is more than okay.

If you feel like your whole world has broken apart,

That is okay,

That is normal.

If you are feeling numb,

That is also okay,

And also normal.

There is no right or wrong way to feel.

There are only sensations and experiences.

Those sensations and experiences inform our understanding of the world,

And in the best of circumstances,

They allow us to become more empathetic and step more fully into living our lives.

But there is no time cap on your grieving process.

Everyone grieves and heals in their own time and in their own way,

So it is more than okay for you to do this meditation at any point on your journey,

Whether the loss was recent or not.

Understandably,

The idea of sitting in meditation with our uncomfortable feelings can be incredibly daunting.

So I want to remind you right now that 1.

You are amazing for doing this,

For creating a safe space for yourself to experience whatever you may be experiencing right now,

And 2.

By creating this space for yourself,

You may be able to experience a release of emotions that could help lead to some kind of healing.

Healing in this instance,

Meaning to begin flowing forward into the future,

Without the intense suffering or grief,

And being able to begin to accept this loss.

Right now,

You might feel like you may never get through this period,

Or that you will never be the same again,

And the truth is that you won't be the same again,

As every experience shapes us.

You can find peace and joy again though,

And these feelings will come through organically allowing for your process.

When acceptance eventually comes,

It does not mean forgetting your baby,

But it ultimately means letting go of the thought patterns that can exacerbate the heartache and pain of the loss.

Just remember that healing can take time,

And it takes whatever time it takes.

Your healing journey is your own.

So for this meditation now,

Try to find a quiet,

Comfortable place to be,

And consider having a box of tissues on hand.

Likewise,

Please make sure you feel safe in your space.

You may want to be alone for this,

Or perhaps you would like a loved one nearby.

Again,

Whatever you feel is appropriate for you is what's right.

Whatever you need,

And wherever you are,

Just see if you can find a place where you can feel safe to experience this practice.

For this meditation,

Please either sit or lie down.

The preference is entirely your own.

Check in with what your intuition calls you to do.

If sitting,

Try to make sure your back is either supported or you feel content sitting up tall.

If lying down,

Just make yourself comfortable,

Either bending the knees or letting the legs extend and splay.

Take any blankets or cushions or anything else that might serve you right now,

And then start to find that centering position.

Once settled into your space,

Close your eyes and take a few deep inhales through the nose,

And then exhales sighing or blowing the air out of the mouth.

Do this a few times.

Feel the breath fully filling up your lungs,

And then likewise releasing fully.

Even through deep breathing,

You may already begin to experience feelings related to your loss.

If you do,

That is okay.

Just allow whatever comes to come,

And keep taking those deep breaths.

When you're ready,

Come back into the natural rhythm of your breath and just notice it,

Following it flowing in and out.

Let your natural breath stay with you through the practice,

But allow yourself to take deeper breaths any time that you need.

Simply let your body and your breathing respond to the experience.

As you drop into this present moment,

Draw the awareness through your body,

And begin to notice how both the body physically feels,

As well as how you energetically and emotionally respond within each area.

Just allow your intuition to speak to you,

Even if it doesn't make logical sense.

Again,

Remember that whatever you are feeling,

Wherever you are feeling it,

Is more than okay.

Just notice everything without any kind of judgment or labeling.

So take the awareness now down to your feet.

Notice your toes and the soles of your feet.

Become aware of any sensations here.

Then draw the awareness up through the ankles,

Lower legs,

Knees,

And into the upper legs.

Notice if the legs feel heavy or light,

Achy or clear.

Sometimes the physical body can provide signals for our emotional experiences.

So for example,

If your legs are feeling heavy,

It can be a sign of an unwillingness or fear of moving forward right now.

And remember that this is okay.

Just notice whatever you find.

Take the awareness now through your hips and around to your lower back.

Draw the awareness up the spine and through the muscles of the back.

What do you feel here?

Try to tap into your sensations with a sense of compassion.

If judgments arise,

Simply let them go once you notice them.

There is no need to identify with them.

Take the awareness now around the belly.

How do you feel at the center of your body?

Allow whatever is there to be there.

Simply breathe into it and notice.

Continue to approach yourself with a deep sense of love and self-compassion.

Take the awareness into your lungs and into your heart.

What is here?

Again,

Allow whatever flows through you simply to flow.

Notice the shoulders,

Throat,

And neck now.

Notice your face and the sensation within and around your head.

Remember that anything you're feeling,

Or even if you're feeling nothing,

It's okay.

Take a few deep breaths here now.

On your next exhale,

Visualize yourself softly coming onto a beautiful,

Safe,

Sandy shoreline surrounded by light.

See that light in any color or colors that you like.

Imagine that there is light pouring in from all angles,

From the earth,

From the sky,

From the water,

From any wildlife or plants that you might visualize here.

Know that in that light,

There is nothing but kind,

Safe,

Loving,

Healing energy.

As you step onto the shore,

Imagine the energy of your departed baby coming before you,

Completely open to you.

There is no need for you to have a belief in an afterlife or spirituality to have this moment or this conversation.

You intuitively know this creature with which you have shared of yourself.

Let your intuition guide you.

See your baby's energy here,

And if you'd like to embrace them,

Do so.

Feel their energy in whatever form it takes.

Now tell your baby anything that you would like to tell them.

Tell them anything and everything,

Your full truth without any judgments,

And take as long as you need here.

Then,

Allow them to tell you anything that they may have to tell you.

Again,

Remember that on some deep level,

You know this energy,

And your intuition and your emotional intelligence will help you.

The audio of this meditation will be quiet for a few minutes,

So just allow yourself to take your time here.

If you finish before I begin speaking again,

That is okay.

Just allow yourself to stay with the energy,

Or if the energy begins to fade when the conversation is over,

Simply be with the shoreline and the music,

Allowing yourself to be held by the loving light all around you.

If you haven't already,

Begin to wind down your conversation with your baby for now.

So know that you can come back to this space and conversation any time that you need.

Tell this baby any last things that you would like to tell them right now,

And then also offer them your thanks for their presence.

Begin to let them fade or step out of view.

As your baby fades from view,

Notice how you are feeling.

If you are overwhelmed by grief,

It's okay.

If you are feeling lighter,

That is also okay.

Breathe into your feelings and sensations,

And imagine that with every inhale,

You are bringing that kind,

Loving light into your body and into yourself.

Feel that light touching the tender parts of yourself,

The parts that are still grieving or numb or painful.

Feel that light pouring in with every inhale.

With every exhale,

Feel yourself easing into the experience of being held in a loving energy.

Stay here,

Breathing into this sensation for a few moments.

I want you to remember that your grief process is absolutely valid.

It is okay if you are having physical reactions to the miscarriage.

Maybe sleeping is difficult right now,

Or eating,

Or having the energy to do things.

If that's the case,

I want you to visualize that beautiful light now beginning to move through you,

Extending to all your interactions and routines,

And into your life.

Imagine that light growing bigger and brighter and moving ahead of you so that it can guide you through sleep,

Through eating,

Through every moment of the day.

Know that you are supported by this light.

Imagine it infusing your inner energy.

Imagine it holding you in all aspects of your life.

Now feel yourself fully as a being of light,

Fully infused with loving,

Kind energy that you can share with yourself and with others in this world.

Then perceive yourself gently coming back into your body and into your current space.

Bring your awareness back to your breath again.

Take a few more deep breaths here.

With every inhale,

Feel that loving light growing brighter within you here and now.

And with every exhale,

Release anything else that you may need to release right now.

Now begin to feel your body in the space again,

And draw some soft movements back into your fingers and into your toes.

Remind yourself that this body is a gift,

Exactly as it is,

And that you are worthy of loving kindness and deep care.

You are worthy.

You are beyond worthy.

If you are lying down,

Gently bring yourself up to seated now,

And then place your hands into prayer in front of your heart,

And gently bow,

Honoring yourself,

Your practice,

Your life,

Your experiences,

And all that is.

When you're ready,

Open your eyes and bring movement back into your body.

When you rise,

Take one step forward,

And just remember that it is always one step at a time.

While we have concluded the meditation,

I want to offer as a final note to please remember that while meditation can be extraordinarily helpful and healing,

If you are really struggling,

Please consider visiting a health professional and or access anyone in your support network that you trust to honor your grief experience.

Personally,

It took me many months to emotionally recover from a miscarriage,

And my relationship with my partner was deeply strained throughout those months.

We were able to use conscious communication techniques as well as rely on our meditation practices to help us through that period,

But I also attended therapy and utilized many other healing modalities.

If your relationship is struggling as a result,

Consider couples counseling or anything else that you feel called to.

Remember that it is okay not to be okay,

And it is more than okay to reach out when you feel called to do so,

But likewise,

It's also okay to go inward for a while.

Remember that if you decide to reach out,

You also give others permission to do the same.

Disenfranchised grief exists in part because people do not speak of this kind of grief openly.

So speak your grief to those you trust,

And please,

Just keep taking care of yourself.

Nurture your beautiful spirit in whatever ways you can during this time.

From across space and time,

I am sending you so much love,

Peace,

And healing on this part of your journey.

I hope you found this practice helpful today,

And again,

I am honored to be part of your journey at this time.

Peace to you,

And all you love.

Namaste.