Hi,
This is Orit Krug,
Board-certified dance movement therapist and trauma and relationship expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement-based meditation on new relationship energy,
Or NRE.
NRE is what's also known as the honeymoon or infatuation period when you first meet someone new,
Whether it's a romantic interest or potential partner.
It's this rush through your body that feels exciting,
Overwhelming,
Anxiety-provoking,
And just all these feelings of being into somebody new.
In this meditation,
I'd love to help you feel in your body how to navigate the intensity of these emotions,
Especially when it may be intruding on this new relationship and feeling stressful for you instead of enjoyable.
To begin,
Find yourself in a comfortable position.
Ask your body,
Where do I want to be right now,
Whether it's lying down,
Sitting up,
Or standing up.
And you can close your eyes or lower your gaze.
And we're going to take a deep breath in and out together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
One more time,
Breathing in and breathing out.
I want to invite you now to tune into new relationship energy,
Whether you're currently experiencing it or you think back to a time when you experienced it very strongly.
As you're tuning into this sensation of NRE,
What do you notice first in your body?
What sensation sticks out to you?
Whatever it is,
Focus on it,
Shine a light on it,
And notice if there are any certain attributes to the sensation.
Is there a color,
A certain way it's moving inside your body?
Can you see the size of it?
Is there a texture or any other imagery that you see as you focus in on this sensation?
There's no right or wrong,
Just allow your imagination to take the lead.
And now,
Invite movement to organically and naturally respond to the sensation.
So for example,
If you feel butterflies in your stomach,
You may feel the natural instinct to place your hands on your stomach with firm,
Gentle pressure.
If you feel literally weak in the knees,
You may have a natural instinct to shake out your legs.
There's no right or wrong,
I'm simply asking you here to let your body lead instead of your mind,
As your mind may have ideas of what you should do or how to respond in order to fix it or push it down or make it less intense.
But that's not the goal here,
The goal is to really follow your body's lead and how it wants to interact with the sensation without fixing or pushing it away or even trying to hold on to it because it does feel good to you.
As you're allowing your body to respond,
Continue to let movement flow if there is any movement at all because it's okay if your body's asking you to be still,
That's okay too.
Just continue to allow your body to lead whether you're doing the same repeated motions or your movement is shifting or evolving into something bigger or smaller or just something different.
Witness yourself in this moment,
Feeling the sensations of NRE and allowing your body to choose how it wants to respond.
This is the essence of having command over your body even through intense emotions or intense sensations.
That way when you experience NRE in real life and in your relationships,
You can regulate through it instead of having a reaction or having your mind take over and think about what you need to do in order to make it feel less intense or to hold on to it really tight when it might be fading away.
You really let your body lead,
You stay in true authentic alignment with what your relationship probably needs and this is so important especially if you're someone who may have a fear of abandonment or attachment wounds that may have historically made you want to control the way things go whether it's the speed of the relationship or the way someone interacts with you and you let go of all of that,
All of what your mind is telling you or you let go of that need to fix the way a sensation feels uncomfortable inside of you and you just allow your body to respond.
You're really being present in the moment within yourself and your relationships.
So I'm going to leave another minute of space here for you to truly tune into the sensations of NRE and letting your body organically respond.
Do that for the next minute and then I'll prompt us to come to a close.
Whatever you're doing,
However you're moving,
Start gradually bringing your movement to an ending.
Take your time and see what position or movement your body naturally wants to land in as a close for this experience.
Whether you find your hands on your heart or your hands making a circular motion on your stomach or something else there's no right or wrong and when you find this final position or this final movement let's take a deep breath in gently opening your eyes looking around your space noticing where you are right here right now making some physical contact with your body.
You can take a few minutes to write about your experience after this meditation ends and notice what you wrote down that was really helpful for you because you can apply that into your everyday life when you experience NRE that's a bit too overwhelming or a bit too intense or again feel the need to hold on to NRE that may be fading away.
If you'd like to learn more about how to navigate new relationship energy in ethically non-monogamous or open or polyamorous relationships check out my courses on my profile.
I have a whole course on how to approach ethical non-monogamy and open relationships in a healthy way including a much deeper dive on the neuroscience behind new relationship energy and how we can really navigate that to bring in the most satisfying loving relationships in our lives instead of sabotaging them.
I hope to see you there and until next time,
You deserve the love you desire.
