So,
Brahma Sutra,
There is also this part in the journey where one can feel really,
Really vulnerable and being afraid of being hurt and how can I protect myself to do that?
That's a question from Jyoti too.
Okay,
If you say surround yourself with white light to protect yourself,
You're separating yourself from your fear in a kind of mechanical way.
So what would be way more useful is to just focus on having a lot of compassion for yourself.
It is right at that place of vulnerability where the higher power comes in.
If we don't allow ourselves to become,
To feel really vulnerable,
Our consciousness can't expand,
Our vibration can't go up.
We go to that place of vulnerability and then we discover how loved we are and how strong we are.
But the strength and the love is coming from a non-physical place.
Yeah,
It's,
If you think of it during birth that a woman is incredibly vulnerable during birth,
But that is also where she bridges to heaven really.
It's very similar.
Vulnerability is incredibly good if you can let yourself get vulnerable.
Lots of people don't even let themselves get there and because of that,
They can't open the door to the universal love.
And men have even harder,
Because of socialization,
It's hard enough for women.
Thank you.
Right,
I think modern day women were getting a little like this too.
Could you talk a little bit about ego?
It's a big topic.
So ego comes on between 18 months and 2 and a half basically.
What happens is it's built on all the sad feelings a child has about not being understood or loved deeply.
So it's built on fear and grief.
In fact,
I think the terrible twos,
I mean the tantrums,
My feeling is the child is like screaming about having to go into the ego.
That's what the child is really upset about.
Because the child can experience,
I'm walking into a prison cell.
If you think of the ego as like a sad playpen of perceptions,
Of things the child decided were true about life.
Okay,
This is true about life.
This is how lovable or unlovable I am.
This is how,
I don't know,
How,
This is just the way the world is.
The child decides.
And then we go through our life and it really depends what quality of ego we have.
Like how much fear and heartbreak there was in our early childhood because that's what runs our whole life.
In fact,
When a person reaches adulthood for their first venture out into the world,
The degree of fear they take on,
They experience in their lives is directly related to what happened to them 0 to 6.
So you could have a child who had trauma 0 to 6,
Then from 6 onwards had a very easy time and then at the run to adulthood they would get a traumatic level of fear coming up.
Okay,
Then,
Now that,
In most of us,
That just runs our life.
I mean most people have no idea how to face their fear or clear it.
If you get on a spiritual journey and you have the support of a good teacher or,
You know,
A spiritual fellowship,
You can get support for facing the fear that fuels your ego at which point your ego begins to die.
And you might have several,
You might have really hundreds of small ego deaths where you step beyond your fear and then your life will expand and you will become much happier,
All that.
But the facing the fear of the ego takes a mighty heart because when we're doing that,
The fear comes up right up to our eyeballs and distorts our perceptions and says,
Okay,
If I do this,
I could be homeless or I could go insane.
But if you just keep going,
The fear falls away and you come into like,
Wow,
You come into a peace that passes all understanding.
And then that's your wisdom.
Yeah,
So it's an act of facing ego deaths really that's key.
So there is another question in that process of the ego and facing the fear.
Right.
It can become so overwhelming that you're that anger and grief are just so overwhelming that you don't know what to do,
What's best to do in a face like that.
Well,
You know,
We only get what we can handle.
So even if it feels overwhelming,
We can handle it because that's what we're in.
I mean,
Exercise,
Spiritual companions,
Pets,
Eating well,
Mantras,
Prayers,
Anything to get you just through that difficult phase.
Yeah,
Whatever works,
Really.
Yeah.
What did you do?
All of the above,
Everything you said.
Yeah.
Body work can help if you really trust somebody.
Yeah.
Really,
We should hand out medals to people who have the courage to face their egos really because there's nothing scarier.
Yeah.
But it can be done very easily.
Once you get the hang of it,
It's just like going into a Halloween haunted house.
You go in for a bit but you know it's just a Halloween haunted house and that you'll get out of it soon.
You know,
You just go,
Oh,
Here it is again.
And as you do it more and more,
It happens more quickly and easily.
Totally.
Totally.
Right.
So you go in the haunted house,
You go,
Oh,
It's the haunted house again and you turn up and go out the front door.
Yeah.
