Calm Abiding Meditation 3: Repeated Placement

So then how do we deal with this?

Well when this happens,

Then just as on the first stage we are placing the mind on a sound or the breath or an object,

On the second stage we try to continue and maintain this placement.

Well on the third,

The third is called repeated placement.

So when this happens,

When these thoughts come up,

Well you repeat,

You place your mind again on the object.

You come back again and again.

So this is the third stage of repeated placement.

When the third stage is repeated,

You repeat and then you repeat again.

When you repeat again,

You repeat and then you repeat again.

This is the third stage of repeated placement.

When the third stage is repeated,

You repeat and then you repeat again.

When the third stage is repeated,

You repeat and then you repeat again.

And it's through these methods that you will slowly gain control over your mind by repeating again and again the placement.

But you need to do this just as the thoughts come up.

If you just follow the thoughts and go along,

You know,

And just follow on and on with the thoughts,

Then your mind will be so far away that it will be really difficult to bring it back to the object.

Right?

So while you are focusing on the sound or on your breath or on an image,

Then as thoughts come up,

When a thought comes up,

You need to immediately remind yourself and immediately come back to the object.

Otherwise,

If you let yourself be distracted like this for a really long time,

Then,

You know,

Your mind will end up in New York and you can go on like this for hours on end and it will be the same long way to come back from that very long train of thought to your object of meditation.

Maybe you won't take very long but very tiring.

You keep thinking like 20 minutes and then suddenly you try to bring back.

It's very heavy because it's kind of yanked there.

Try to coming back immediately to the right spot is very tiring.

And that's why the best way is don't lose or don't distract more than like,

You know,

Counting like number one,

Two,

Three.

Don't go more than three steps.

I think you try to come back before three,

Not after three.

Counting,

That way is the fastest to,

How to say,

Gain some kind of freedom.

Let's say you're going close to the door.

So you can open the card door,

Then you go inside and on the card,

Then you left.

That means you're already gone so fast.

But then before you're opening the card door,

Try to come back,

Close the card door,

But come back to the inside where you're sitting or where you want to sit.

And that means it's faster to,

How to say,

Complete the habit you can make.

Rather than you going like make so far,

You make a habit and you come back again,

One more habit is more kind of,

How to say,

Confusion,

Confused,

Confused,

Become more,

And then of course it's not clear.

Mindful means you try to be mindful,

But sometimes it looks like mindful,

You're coming back on your object or whatever,

Focusing.

But actually it's more mindful of that object because you've been like so far and you're mind-filling all those things which is going on,

On your thought,

On your brain or whatever in your mind,

And you try to,

Oh yeah,

This,

This,

This,

Yes,

That,

This,

This,

And you keep mind-filling on every step.

Actually you are doing like double.

You go the other way,

Thinking,

Coming back,

Mindful each of them,

Come back,

And you reach to the focus on the breath,

It's like more heavy,

It's more like a,

Like a jump,

Bringing.

Sometimes it looks like mind-filling,

But actually,

You know,

Mind-filling each one you think,

Just now you went,

You disconnect,

You are mindful,

Then you lost.

That's why you always say mindful meaning is always not forgetting,

Not forgetting the objects which is your focus.

When you,

You already forget,

That means you are not mind-filling,

You are already lost.

Whenever you,

When you meditate you see or you forget that point,

Like breathing or maybe any object or maybe sound,

You disconnect,

That means you are already not mind-filling,

You are already distracted,

And you must,

You must know that,

Oh,

I already disconnected,

Oh,

I distracted,

Oh,

Must come back.

Then you try to come back to your object and then reconnect and re,

How to say,

Charge or refocus.

Reset?

Yeah,

Reset.

Actually that object is not different or not like kind of changing,

It's the same object.

That's why it brings you,

Your mind become a,

How to say,

A trend through that object or through that method,

Like breathing.

The breathing is wherever you go actually carries together.

Like 24 hours,

Even at night we sleep,

We sleep with the breath.

But when you walk,

You eat or,

I mean,

Wherever you,

Even you are angry,

This breath is there.

But even you are happy,

Your breath is there.

The only thing is you're not noticing the breath.

That's why when you,

When you're angry or comes or any like frustration or any kind of stress or when it comes,

Then it always brings us unhappiness.

Therefore you know that,

Oh,

This is not good,

But we don't know what to do.

That is the main problem in the society.

But then you knew that,

Oh,

I have some breathing,

It's always in the present.

The breathing is nothing to do with good or bad,

Always there.

And that is never creates you unhappiness.

Breathing never creates you unhappiness,

Always there.

But unhappiness creating by your mind,

That means rather than you focusing on those angry or frustration,

Oh,

Better I want to focus on my breath.

This breath never creates you any unhappiness or suffering.

That's why the breath,

You don't need to search somewhere,

So many places my happiness or my,

This angry,

How do I let go,

How do I,

You know,

Lose or how do I replace.

Just not editing all these things.

Breathing always there.

Only thing is you're not noticing,

Only thing is you forget about your breathing.

And try with the mind,

Try to come back to,

Oh,

Yeah,

Now I'm breathing.

That means you are already not forgiving the breathing and you are resting the breathing.

Remember,

Also you are actually mind-fooling that,

Aware of your breathing.

At that moment all your frustration,

All your anger,

Whatever attachment or whatever,

Thoughts or emotions,

Feelings,

Everything is gone.

When you recognize that moment,

Everything is gone.

That moment.

And that's how I say first rest on that breath,

Second,

Continue the rest and the thought arise.

Yeah,

And then repeat.

You don't need to follow that thought,

Just repeat means come back to the mindful or try to not forget and try to rest.

I think rest is good.

The word is rest.

Sometimes we say control of mind,

It sounds like not that good as well.

Controlling mind is like kind of,

There is something to control.

I think more of like freedom rather than like controlling.

Freedom means there is no need for someone to control or someone to,

There is a controller,

A remote controller,

Something to control.

It's not like that.

It's freedom,

Both sides,

Object and subject,

All there is freedom.

And that actually three step keep doing always.

And that one you not necessary for session.

It's anyway,

You're eating or you are walking or you are just,

You know,

Walk.

When you have some kind of exercise walking,

You can breathe like you want to breathe in and out or you want to just breathe and when you say step one step,

Go,

Just focus,

Breathe out,

You focus.

Some people like to breathe one,

Two step then breathe in and just focus.

Sometimes difficult like exhale and inhale and when you pay attention on exhale both sides,

When you're walking,

It's a little bit hard.

Or you can just focus or either just focus,

Pay attention and inhale.

Or you're walking every step like right,

Left,

And you just when the right is stepped on,

Your mind just go after the right is feet and then the left foot,

Then you just mind focus on the left foot.

It's late and you can just,

There also can be practice object,

Meditation object in your both legs.

But some people you walk together,

The legs and everything,

But the mind not with your body,

Not with your legs,

Not with your whatever your shoulder or your hand,

It's gone somewhere in the office or maybe at home or at the,

I don't know,

Somewhere in the bar or maybe somewhere in the chit chat with somebody or maybe you're travelling into the UK or Europe or somewhere,

But just to,

Your physical is looks like you're exercising and walking.

And other than that you just focus on the two legs,

Each leg like one step,

You try to mind for them each of the foot or leg,

The foot,

Leg,

Chit bara hai,

That's all.

These are the how you can practice daily and best way is short,

Short,

Short,

Short,

Short,

Short,

But mainly,

No legging,

It's one hour or half an hour just sitting there,

But sometimes the mind is keep wandering somewhere and then it's not so,

How to say,

Cultivate or you won't change our happy job,

The daily happy job which is our mind,

You won't change really,

You won't change,

No,

It's not so quick and not so fast.

The fastest is the short period,

But mainly like a morning,

Little bit,

Little bit,

Little bit,

Little bit,

Little bit mindful,

Mindful or you're breathing,

You're working as a sound or anything,

You try to mindful,

Try to pay attention.

Best way is whenever you feel uncomfortable,

It makes you really hard to breathe or like stress or some kind of angry or some kind of randomly thought comes or which is nothing to do with but you feel like a kind of irritating you and you just don't go after that,

You have so many methods to focus,

Just go back to the breath or just go back to the sound or maybe some kind of object,

Nice,

Beautiful hour and just say,

Oh,

So beautiful flower,

Just pay attention to the flower,

That moment you're angry,

So 80 to 90% is gone.

There is maybe tiny 5 or 10% which is happy job,

It's still there,

There is a subconscious,

Some kind of is there but then the gross level is already there.