Let me ask you something.
Do you sometimes say yes,
Even though every cell in your body wants to say no?
The answer is probably yes.
Most people do.
Especially women.
Maybe you're one of them.
But you're not doing this because you're weak,
Confused or stupid.
You learned this as a child.
Whatever your version of it was,
To keep the peace,
To avoid conflict or to make things easier for everyone around you.
You might even carry the belief deep down that it isn't safe to say no.
Whatever those beliefs are,
They're not working for you.
And you probably know this already,
Right?
So let's talk boundaries for a moment,
Not the fluffy kind.
It's not only about words.
It's about your energy.
You can say no,
But if the energy underneath is apologetic,
Afraid or shaky,
It won't land.
People feel your energy more than the words you're using.
Have you ever said something that should have been a boundary,
But it wasn't taken seriously?
That doesn't necessarily mean others don't respect you.
It's usually because the boundary didn't come from a strong,
Aligned place inside.
I used to do the same.
I was a chronic people pleaser.
That was my old programming.
So trust me,
I get it.
A real boundary starts long before you open your mouth.
It starts with the moment you feel something tighten inside you.
That split second when your energy shifts.
That subtle inner signal that says,
This doesn't feel right for me.
That moment is crucial.
Next time you feel it,
Here's something you can practice.
Especially during this time of year when everyone seems to want something from you.
When you feel that inner tightening,
That moment your body says,
This doesn't feel right,
Pause before you answer.
Even just a few seconds.
That pause is powerful.
It interrupts the automatic programming and gives you space to make a conscious choice.
You likely feel some discomfort at first,
But discomfort is there either way.
So why not choose something that supports you?
Try it once.
Try it once today.
One pause.
One conscious moment before you say yes or no.
It might make a big difference.
And if not,
You have nothing to lose.
Healthy boundaries shape your life.
Without them,
You end up living by everyone else's expectations instead of your own.
Strong boundaries come from the inside.
From doing the inner work,
Shifting your energy,
And clearing all programming.
So I invite you to practice,
Practice,
And practice.
Much love.
