Overcoming Self Doubt Part 2

It is possible to train your mind to overcome and turn negative thoughts around.

Let's take a look at some strategies to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts or at least stop the negative thoughts faster when they start.

Change the focus.

When you encounter a negative situation,

Try to immediately turn it into something positive by focusing on what you can learn about the situation.

Even if all you learn is that you don't want to do it again,

That's a positive thing.

Most people don't care.

The truth is,

Even if you say the wrong thing or dress what you think is wrong for an event or do something that you feel embarrassed about,

Most people don't care that much.

If you can develop the ability to laugh at the situation,

That's even better.

Most people really don't have the time to think about your bad choices,

Especially if it doesn't affect them.

Ask whether you're being too serious.

Sometimes it's easy to take something seriously when it shouldn't be.

Does it really matter if you slipped and fell when you were trying to sit in your seat at work?

Does it really matter that you put on the wrong shoes?

Does it really matter that much if you pronounced a word wrong?

Don't hyper focus on one mistake or one bad move and ruin your day.

Replace negativity in your life.

Whether it's people,

Places,

Or things,

It's time to rid your life of negativity when you can.

Sometimes negative people attract negative people.

If you want to be more positive,

Try to find new friends,

New activities,

And things that make you happy and feel positive.

Don't make decisions bigger than they are.

Many people plagued with self-doubt tend to have trouble making decisions.

Even if it's just what to wear,

What to eat,

Or what to buy,

They're turned into bigger situations than they are.

When you are making any decision,

Ask yourself whether this is going to matter in a month,

Six months,

Or even five years from now.

That way you'll be able to determine whether this is a serious situation you need to sit in.

Or if it's a situation you need to spend more time on.

Or if you need to just make a choice and either get on with it or not.

Take it to someone.

Now,

Make sure the person you're talking to is positive and doesn't make you feel bad about yourself.

Sometimes it helps to ask someone if you're overreacting.

Especially if you can find someone who understands how you're trying to change your life and get over self-doubt.

Be a professional,

A life coach,

Or a friend.

Even someone from a support group or an entirely different friend group.

Stop thinking about it.

Sometimes negative thoughts can ruin the experience you're living.

It's better to try to shelve the negative thoughts during the experience and try to really live in the moment.

Being in the present enables you to truly realize that this thing isn't negative at all.

Or not as much as your mind is trying to tell you.

Then when you look back on it,

You will likely be able to pick out a lot more positives than negatives.

Exercise.

When it comes down to it,

Most of us have a lot of extra energy that needs to be burned off.

Some people realize this and that's why they get moving.

Whenever you start experiencing negative thoughts,

Instead of letting yourself do it,

Get some exercise.

Go to the gym,

Go for a run,

Go for a walk,

Ride your bike,

Jump rope,

Go for a swim.

Anything that you can do that's likely going to be good for you instead of thinking negatively.

And then finally,

Realize when it's really fear.

Sometimes negativity will poke its head in your life when you're doing something just a little bit uncomfortable or pushing you out of your comfort zone.

There's a quote by George Adair that's useful here.

Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

If you can remind yourself of this quote when you're experiencing negative thoughts associated with fear,

You can overcome it.

It will help a lot with overcoming negative thoughts if you put these suggestions into action.

You can also come up with some of your own too.

The point is you want to turn negative thoughts around so that you can instead experience positivity in your day.

That way you don't get stuck into a pattern of self-doubt.

So strategies for dealing with self-doubt.

Now let's go over some important ways to deal with self-doubt when it happens.

Be assured that even the most successful person works to overcome self-doubt at times.

Feeling self-doubt is not the problem.

Letting self-doubt control you,

Make decisions for you,

And rule your life is.

You're not alone.

Everyone experiences self-doubt whether you have friends,

Family,

Or anyone to talk to right now about this.

You are not alone in your feelings.

It's all about how you react to it that matters.

You can find others to commiserate by joining Facebook groups or other types of groups or forums to help you feel less alone with your issues.

Keeping a journal.

One way to overcome self-doubt is to keep a journal to help remind yourself of the accomplishments that you've experienced.

You can talk about the self-doubt you felt and how you pushed through it.

It doesn't have to be a false representation of what you're doing,

But do try to focus on the positives of each situation and what you learned from it.

Don't compare yourself to others.

The worst thing you can do is make comparisons of your life to someone else's.

This only breeds more self-doubt and even jealousy.

The truth is you have no idea what other people have gone through to be where they are.

Or even if they're really being honest about their situation,

You only know the truth about your own situation.

Learn gratitude.

Every single event in life is something to be grateful for.

Even the worst things can be turned around to a lesson that can help you in the next situation in your life.

People who have overcome the worst that you can imagine,

Death,

Crime,

Illness,

All have one thing in common.

That's their ability to see the positives in it or at least be grateful they knew the person,

Loved the person,

Or something good.

Set small immediate goals.

One way to overcome issues with self-doubt is to experience success.

Setting small goals that allow you to experience immediate success.

It depends where you are in your journey,

But success can be as small as getting up in the morning,

Going to the store,

Onto something more challenging like applying and getting a new job.

Surround yourself with positive people.

Take the time to pick out people you already know who make you feel good about yourself.

If you don't have those people in your life,

It's time to seek them out.

You can find people via meetup groups,

Taking a class,

Group meetings,

A book club,

And so forth.

The most important thing is that you start being around more positive people.

Learn to respect obstacles.

Everyone has obstacles that prevents them from experiencing full joy and pushing them back into self-doubt.

Everyone.

The way to deal with these issues is to respect the fact that you may have something to learn or gain from this experience.

Find a way to respect the obstacles that are put in front of you and learn from them.

Learn from mistakes.

When you make a mistake,

Instead of beating yourself up,

Accept it and learn from it.

Sometimes it helps to write down the experience in your journal with the focus on what you learned and how you'll do it differently if that comes up again.

Know when to walk away.

There are times when giving up is not failure.

There are many times in life where you try something but it's just not working for you and it's time to walk away.

That may be a business choice,

A relationship choice,

Or something else entirely.

If it's causing you too much stress that cannot be overcome,

It's time to leave it and move on.

It's okay to be comfortable.

One thing to realize about life is that it's okay to be uncomfortable sometimes.

You won't grow if you don't experience some discomfort.

That doesn't mean you have to be in a mental,

Physical,

Or spiritual torture.

It's just that feeling a little fearful,

Uncomfortable,

And unsure is natural.

Put things into perspective so that you know that you're making good choices.

Assess your strengths and weaknesses.

One way to deal with self-doubt is to honestly figure out where your strengths and weaknesses lie.

Then develop your strength and even improve upon your weaknesses when you can.

Sometimes the way you improve a weakness is to let someone else deal with it.

For example,

If you're a bad cook but you want to lose weight and don't want to learn to cook,

It's okay to order a meal kit or to get someone else to do it if you have the ability.

There's always a way around a weakness.

The strengths you possess naturally can also be improved upon almost painlessly.

And finally,

Get accountability.

When you are trying to overcome self-doubt and start believing in yourself,

It can help to have someone around who can offer accountability.

This can be a life coach,

A counselor,

A friend,

Or a group.

It's best not to choose a friend without their knowledge though.

If you have a positive friend who is willing to help you,

That's okay.

But if they don't know what they're doing,

They may lead you astray.

A life coach is a great way to help build your self-image and overcome self-doubt so that you can believe in yourself because they have training and know their role.

So these strategies for dealing with self-doubt will not work if you don't work to implement them.

The issues with self-doubt are so serious that they can make you stuck in the life that you don't want and aren't loving.

This can lead to anxiety,

Depression,

And that can spiral into a bad situation.

If you really want to experience true joy in life,

Believe in yourself and get rid of the debilitating self-doubt you're experiencing,

Start implementing these now.

So now that you've listened to all of this,

You're probably wondering where to start.

So yet let's use this last part to get yourselves organized and ready for change.

If you really want to overcome self-doubt and start believing in yourself,

It will take a lot of action on your part.

So let's get started.

Pinpoint where your self-doubt began.

Using what you've learned,

It's important to figure out where your self-doubt began.

It may be from childhood,

In which case it may take some professional help to overcome it.

It may be something you fell into due to other issues that need to be identified.

If you're in a toxic relationship,

For example,

You may have to work on getting out before you can move forward.

Honestly assess your strengths and weaknesses.

One way to do this is to get out some paper and a writing utensil and simply write on one side of the paper your strengths and the other side your weaknesses.

Then take a highlighter and highlight the things you want to work on to improve your strengths and the things that you would like to do better in terms of your weaknesses.

Next,

Get a physical from a doctor.

This is important because sometimes self-doubt is caused by anxiety and sometimes anxiety can be caused by vitamin deficiencies.

Get a vitamin panel and tell your doctor that you're experiencing anxiety.

They'll know which vitamins to test for to ensure that you can get the information that you need.

Eat right and exercise.

This may seem silly or obvious,

But eating right and exercising can be one of your first successes and experiences that you can look back to show that you made good choices.

This small thing can give you the confidence you need to stop having so much self-doubt in your life by building your ability to believe in yourself.

If all you do is add more water,

More fruits,

And more veggies and starts walking every day,

That can help a lot.

Next,

Buy a journal.

Find a good paper journal that you can write in each day before you go to bed or when you first wake up.

It's good to do this without technology because it'll be something you can do without causing you to experience extra stress from the blue light and the technology that causes people to get to experience anxiety and insomnia.

Next,

Seek out help.

Whether you have a friend you know will help or if you feel the need to seek professional help in the form of a counselor or a life coach,

It's important to find help.

The right help for you is what works.

It doesn't matter what anyone else uses.

It only matters what is working for you to build your belief in yourself while you're letting go of your self-doubt.

Next,

Make small goals.

Set some small goals so that you can experience success.

Your small goals might consist only of the things on this list,

But you may have identified some things by listening to this that stick out to you as small goals that you can immediately see results from that you might want to add.

And finally,

Implement.

You can learn all that you want to learn about ridding yourself of self-doubt and self-doubt.

And building belief in yourself.

But if you don't act and do something,

In other words implement,

You won't see the success you desire.

Even if it's the smallest thing,

Like listening to this audio over and over again,

Finding a group,

That's doing something.

Small things can lead to big results.

Hopefully you've learned a lot of information and hopefully this is going to help you in rebuilding or building your self-image,

Helping you get rid of self-doubt and move toward believing in yourself again quickly.

Remember,

Nothing is gained without putting one foot in front of the other,

But also that you are capable,

You can do it,

And you deserve to do it,

And you're worth it.