Welcome to this empowering meditation.
In this short time together I will guide you to create a sense of safety around assertive habits with the intention to slowly decondition from pleasing habits.
And before we start I invite you to connect with your own breath and to find a comfortable position,
A position that gives you dignity,
Make your chest and your heart expand towards the sky and ground you.
And slowly allow yourself to find stillness and gentleness from the need of pleasing others,
From the anxiety that arises when our mood depend by others,
From the inability to feel safe around your own needs.
And just let me say,
I feel you and I see you and I want to let you know that any emotion you are feeling right now is valid and I invite you to feel it,
If it's ok for you,
If it's not too overwhelming.
While listening to my voice connect and focus on your breath,
Feeling its rhythm and feeling the body expanding and contracting,
It's ok if your mind would wander or if you feel distracted and if you feel intense emotion just anchor gently to your breath and stay with it.
This meditation is for you if you feel unsafe and uncomfortable in disappointing people.
You might have learned early on that in order to feel safe you need to make sure everyone is happy.
You might have learned that in order to feel safe you need to avoid conflict at all costs.
You might have learned that others needs and wants are more important than yours.
And so you might have learned to satisfy their needs more than your own.
You might have learned that disappointing people is bad and all you want is to be good,
To be seen and loved.
You might have learned that in order to feel safe it's best to hide part of yourself,
Your desire,
Your wishes.
If you are working on healing this cycle,
Here are some affirmations for you to expose your mind into your body to prompt a new sense of safety around meeting your own needs.
I release the need to manage other people's emotions.
I live for myself not to fulfill other people's desires and expectations.
My needs matter and I'm allowed to honor them.
I can't take care of others if I don't care of myself first.
I am capable of tolerating other disappointment.
It might feel unsafe but I'm open to feel a new experience.
I will not let the need of others disrupt my peace.
I am not responsible on how others react.
I am only responsible for my emotions and my reactions.
I recognize the importance of self-care and I privatize it.
It's okay if I wish my needs would be satisfied.
I am allowed to not fix and mediate other people's conflicts.
I can accept that others might not understand my boundaries.
I am allowed to focus on the things that matter the most to me.
I embrace the vulnerability that I feel when I vocalize my needs.
I am focusing on improving my self-care and my self-respect.
I am responsible for making decisions in my life.
I am enough regardless of who is happy with me or not.
My opinions,
My needs,
My wants,
My desires are important.
I embrace the uncomfortable emotion that I feel when I stand up for myself and I work towards familiarize with my new vulnerable parts.
I embrace the uncomfortable emotion that I feel when I stand up for myself and I work towards familiarize with my vulnerable parts.
Before we end this meditation,
I invite you to take a couple of deep breaths and to give a warm,
Compassionate gesture to yourself.
Whether it's a self-hug,
A gentle touch on your face,
On your chin,
On your leg,
On your shoulder,
Or you can simply hold your hands on your heart,
Feeling the pressure of it,
The warmth that can come with it,
And feeling the kindness and the tenderness that comes with self-compassion.
And it might be just a fleeting moment or a little glimpse,
But acknowledge it and breathe into it.
I wish you a very soft day ahead and come back to this practice anytime you need.
Bye bye.
