Hi,
And welcome to this Men on the Path to Love meditation,
The power and strength of a man's vulnerability in relationship.
In this meditation,
We'll be exploring vulnerability in relationship,
Coming from the mindset that being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness,
But as a sign of strength,
Courage,
And knowing that it is a foundation for building trust in your relationship.
I invite you now to assume your natural meditative position,
Sitting down,
Lying down,
Whatever works for you,
Making yourself comfortable,
And when you're ready,
Close your eyes.
And I invite you to take three deep,
Slow breaths.
Breathing in,
Hold,
And then slowly exhale,
Let it go.
And I invite you to repeat this a couple more times.
Return to your natural breath,
Your normal way of breathing,
And just take a moment to notice it.
Bring awareness to your breath coming in and going out.
Nice,
Relaxed rhythm with your breath.
And as you notice your breath in and out,
Notice where your breath shows up in your body,
Understanding that your breath and your body only know this present moment,
And that's where we wanna be.
And as you notice your breath,
Notice your breath in your body,
And slowly allow your body to begin to release any tension that you're holding,
And just try to let it go.
And as you continue to breathe naturally,
I invite you now to bring your awareness to your chest,
To your heart,
Your heart center,
The center of your emotions.
And notice what happens when you bring your attention there.
You may notice some tightness,
Maybe there's some resistance there.
And what happens to you when you think about opening up your heart?
What just happened?
Did any fear come up for you,
A little trepidation,
A little anxiety?
Maybe thoughts of past experiences when you opened up your heart and maybe you were hurt,
Or were afraid to open up your heart for fear of being hurt.
Just notice what happens when you think about the idea of opening up your heart.
If you're still feeling any trepidation or anxiety,
Just take a deep,
Slow breath in and out.
Coming back to right now,
In this moment.
Now,
Imagine yourself standing in front of the one you love,
Your partner or your spouse,
The person you care about deeply.
And this could also be a future partner or spouse.
Just imagine you're in front of someone that you care about deeply,
And you are in relationship with.
What do you truly want them to understand about you?
To really understand your true,
Authentic self.
Just think about what would you like them to really know about you,
To understand you fully,
As a human being.
Take another deep,
Slow breath in and out.
And I ask you now to give yourself permission to acknowledge any feelings that are coming up for you.
And this may be very uncomfortable for you to do.
And just know that you are in a safe place and that it's okay to do this.
Just open up.
Picture a moment where you expressed your true feelings to someone.
Whether it was your fears or what you really wanted,
Your desires,
Or even your struggles.
Just opening up authentically without hiding.
And maybe this is difficult for you to do.
Maybe it's hard to open up to those feelings.
And that's okay.
Men have been conditioned for a long time not to be in touch with these emotions.
Just sit with whatever's coming up for you and know that it's okay.
Now imagine,
Instead of being rejected for sharing your vulnerability,
For sharing your feelings,
Imagine that when you express your vulnerability and your emotions that your partner or spouse meet you with a sense of warmth and understanding and a deep connection.
And just feel the weight of the pressure of holding on to all these emotions that you've been holding in.
Just feel the weight of the world off your shoulders.
Let go of the need to have it all together,
To keep it in,
Just let it out.
Maybe your body wants to cry,
Maybe you feel angry.
And understanding what's underneath that anger is the soft side of anger,
Which is sadness,
Being hurt.
So maybe you've been hurt in the past around expressing your emotions.
And it's okay to feel that.
It's more than okay to feel that.
It is good for you to feel that,
Own it,
And let it pass.
And it's understanding that true strength is not about keeping silent or holding it in,
Suppressing your thoughts and feelings.
It's in the honesty of allowing yourself to be seen and heard,
Acknowledging it for yourself and to your spouse or partner.
And imagine after expressing your thoughts and feelings that your partner or spouse actually feels safer with you now,
Knowing that they too can be real,
Authentic,
And open up and fully express their true self.
And this is where the trust comes in.
You build trust when you're both open and vulnerable.
And that shared vulnerability is where trust grows.
I'd like to close this meditation with some affirmations.
And as you breathe,
I invite you to repeat these affirmations in your mind as I say them out loud.
My vulnerability is my strength.
My vulnerability is my strength.
My vulnerability is my strength.
I am safe to express my feelings.
I am safe to express my feelings.
I am safe to express my feelings.
I build trust by being real and authentic,
Not by pretending to be perfect.
I build trust by being real and authentic,
Not by pretending to be perfect.
I build trust by being real and authentic,
Not by pretending to be perfect.
When I open up my heart to myself and the one I love,
I deepen my connection.
When I open up my heart to myself and the one I love,
I deepen my connection.
When I open up my heart to myself and the one I love,
I deepen my connection.
I invite you now to take a deep,
Slow breath one more time.
I invite you now to take a deep,
Slow breath one more time.
And come back to your natural breath again,
Noticing in-breath and out-breath.
And come back to your natural breath again,
Bringing awareness to your body now,
Feeling your fingers,
Your toes.
And when you're ready,
Just allow your eyes to slowly,
Gently open up.
Take a look around,
Take in what you see.
Again,
Feeling your body's awareness as you bring yourself back.
And if you're having challenges connecting to your vulnerability,
I invite you to listen to this meditation as often as you possibly can to reinforce with the repetition of the mindset that vulnerability is strength,
It's courage,
And it's a foundation for trust in your relationship.
And remember,
Your vulnerability is a gift to yourself and the ones you love.
This has been a Man on the Path to Love meditation,
The power and strength of a man's vulnerability in relationship.
Thank you for sharing this practice with me.
And until next time,
Keep your heart open and stay on the path to love.
