How To Help Others In Times Of Need

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Just a fair warning that this podcast does contain explicit language.

Hello lovelies,

I am back with another episode of the podcast and today I am here to talk about helping others in times of need.

We are kind of continuing on our sort of current global crisis theme of how to show up for yourself and how to show up for others and yeah so today we're talking about others.

Helping others in times of need.

This is super important.

Just showing up in any way that you can honestly is really important but I really wanted to talk about this today.

So let's get right to it.

How can we help others?

Well the first step is always to help ourselves.

We absolutely absolutely have to be taking care of ourselves first before we can help others.

So I say this all the time it's like I'm a broken record but at least I hope I have a pleasant voice while you're hearing me repeat these things over and over again.

But you have to take care of yourself.

You have to love yourself.

You have to be showing up for yourself first.

You cannot pour from an empty cup.

Put your oxygen mask on before you help others and all the other cliches and things that exist because they are true.

They are true my friends.

They are true.

So self-care is so important.

It is the absolute foundation of our lives but let's get back to fundamentals first.

You need to be sleeping.

Are you sleeping enough?

Are you drinking enough water because you need to be hydrated?

Are you eating healthy?

Because eating healthy is what fuels your body and gives you the energy to show up for other people.

Are you moving that booty in whatever way you feel called to but are you moving?

Yoga?

Walking?

Running?

Even like.

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Oh now I can't think of how to say it in English.

Doing like training at home.

I was gonna say something like where you just use your body weight.

Functional training.

Functional training.

Are you doing that at home?

Because right now obviously we can't really be leaving the house and you really shouldn't be leaving the house in all honesty.

Even if it is like to kind of go for a walk I am jealous of those with backyards right now that's for sure but we really should be staying at home as much as we can so you want to find ways to move your body at home.

YouTube has so many options.

There's Zumba classes,

There's yoga classes,

There's like functional training lessons on there.

I'm pretty sure there's like CrossFit stuff even but like we probably don't have the equipment to do that at home but like you can also Google people who are showing you how to do things with what you have on hand so just try and make the most of it but really remember that you need to be taking care of yourself and then moving on to other aspects of self-care and like doing things that make you happy that make you feel good you know maybe it's cliche stuff like having a bath or doing a face mask like I'm so for a hot shower it's insane all of those things and that all has to happen before anything else happens because if you give when your resources are low what ends up happening is you give what you don't have to give and that takes away from you it sounds kind of negative and it's it's kind of because it is but really it's it's so important so freaking important that you are taking care of yourself and giving from the excess so you're never ever ever going into the red when you're helping others it just it doesn't serve anybody in the long run because then you become somebody who's potentially tired or burnt out or stressed or overwhelmed or whatever it is and then people have to turn right around and help you and that just perpetuates like this cycle so it doesn't make any sense really show up for yourself first and so part of that is kind of like the next step but it's almost like a continuation you want to deal with your own feelings and emotions whatever they may be first so how are you feeling about this situation right now how are you feeling about the way the world is the way people are behaving the way you're behaving like family and friends the interactions that you're having with people if you're at home how does that feel for you like dealing with all of that first is really really important and how can you make the most out of it well you can ask yourself what is this situation teaching me I've kind of seen on social media because we are in the age of posting every single aspect of our lives online that a lot of people are really having difficulty connecting inward they're really having trouble with like being alone and it's probably because they didn't have a habit of spending time with themselves to begin with and so maybe that's something that you're being called to learn through all this situation is how to really enjoy your own company and how to make the most of what you have available to you at any given moment you know which can be really tough it can be really hard and I don't want to negate that I don't want to make it sound easy when it's not but it is really important because we're the first off we're the best company that we have in the world period I enjoy my company my own company like no other and like spending time with yourself is one of the greatest gifts I think potentially of this entire situation we are being forced to slow down we are being forced to go within and it is a gift it is the tiny pearl the tiny gold nugget in this otherwise somewhat shitstorm that the world is going through right now so really take advantage of that but maybe you're learning something else maybe you are at home with a spouse you guys are in quote close quarters or your home with your kids and you're getting frustrated and this situation is calling on you to learn how to communicate effectively to communicate with compassion and kindness even when you're frustrated whatever it might be right there is a golden nugget there is always a golden nugget no matter how angry or frustrated or annoyed or negative or sad or whatever the situation may be there is always always always something that you are being taught you are always learning something from every situation and maybe you can't see it in this moment maybe you need some more time maybe you need to slow down even more and actually take the time to go within but I promise you there is something if you just take the time to find it so yeah that would be the first step for dealing with your own emotions and feelings first then as we kind of want to begin to transmute this right we want to flip it you want to ask yourself what do I need right now go back to what I said earlier about self-love and self-care and like the fundamentals of like food water movement sleep all of those things see what you need do you need a glass of water like you might need a glass of water you're basically a plant you know you've seen that meme online I know you have so just really ask yourself what you need right now and if you get silent if you ask that question and you literally just don't say anything just breathe and be present and mindful in the moment you will hear an answer and it might even sound ridiculous because it might be something that you love to do when you were a kid and that you haven't done in forever and that has never come to mind before but follow it do whatever it is that you are told whatever hit from your intuition and your deeper knowing you get do that if you are sitting with a lot of fear or negative emotions I would invite you to flip the script on that you can actually go back to my podcast episode prior to this one called transforming fear and that will take you through all the steps to transforming whatever negative emotion you're feeling right now and move into a space of acceptance and then the last thing that I would say to kind of dealing with your own you know emotions and feelings first would be after you've done all these other things the order here is kind of important you want to like think about what the situation is teaching you be in a space of acceptance for where you are right now ask yourself what you really need and then you know go through the process of potentially transforming any fears that you might be holding on to then what you're gonna want to do is focus on joy whatever that might be and I'm not gonna dive more into this because I want to move on to the next step which is how do I actually help others in this situation and it's closely tied to this idea of joy so you want to be of service and the first thing that you can do as always is ask yourself the important questions how can I help ask yourself the question how can I help how can I add more light hope and freedom to the world because there's a lot of us that would really kill for some freedom right now and so anything that you can give any positive impact that you can have is really gonna make a difference and one of the ways I would encourage you to do this if you really feel like you don't know what to do if you really feel at a loss is to do whatever it is that lights you up and share it share it so what are you best at whatever it is are you a dancer are you a singer are you a musician are you a painter are you a illustrator can you cook really well are you like one of the boss people that can fold like fitted sheets just as well as Martha Stewart or better whatever your talent is and I mean anything knitting crocheting teaching I have no idea I can't think of an anymore on this is Oh fitness fitness yes are you a fitness instructor whatever it might be take whatever it is that you are good at and do it okay but do it with lots of other people at home so do it virtually offer to teach people do a Facebook live a host a virtual class like it doesn't have to cost money Facebook lives are free Instagram lives are free like you don't have to like be investing stuff and like no one's saying to open a business it's not about that it is about just showing up with your whole heart and really offering your unique spirit and light to the world and you have so much talent you have so much to offer the world just your energy and wanting to show up and wanting to help and having that intention makes a huge difference the world needs your wisdom whatever that might be in whatever area now more than ever I have felt this myself especially lately I feel like I've talked about this on the podcast before but I really try to be transparent like we all have limiting beliefs we all have self-esteem moments like you know like where things go to shit I'm like there's been times I've been like I can't do this I can't be a coach like the market is inundated there's so many coaches there's so many people out there and this situation this global situation has really given me insight into how people behave in these situations and I've been so inspired by the bad behavior of other people um I have seen a lot of people in my industry behaving in a way that I don't feel is aligned with their values even with the way that they portray themselves and it has made me realize that like no now is the moment I need to step up because I have something to say I have something to offer and so do you we all do every single person and please don't get caught up in that it's all been done before because that's exactly what I'm telling you that's where I was I was sitting here saying well everybody's a coach everybody's a coach and they all know everything and these people are all experts and whatever that they do yeah they are and that's cool but they are not me and I have seen that more than ever now in this situation because I feel so strongly about what I'm sharing with you and how much I want to have an impact on the world and I've seen a hole in in the market because of this situation not because people are losing their businesses it's not a negative thing it's just like people are showing up but I feel like I see my space and the world has a space for you too it is just about stepping up and filling it the world is begging but begging for you to do whatever the hell it is lights you up and share it with the world whatever create a video of you playing a song on your trumpet or your saxophone or your flute or your guitar your drums or whatever whatever it is record a song with your band and just post it and like in in a way that's really altruistic though this is not necessarily about making money obviously we are business owners as well and I'm sure if you're a musician like you know maybe you want to turn this into a passion and there's a way to do that but that is another discussion this is about giving just giving giving with no strings attached because you want to have a positive impact and you can totally do that right now now is the time there has never been a better freaking time to do this and right now a lot of the world is at home they are at home waiting for your song or your dance or your piece of music or your fitness video or your yoga video or your knitting class or your cooking class or whatever it is people are at home like in some situations kind of going out of their minds probably bored because we don't know how to be with ourselves as I said previously and so they're looking to be entertained or distracted maybe you're a comedian oh my god could you think of anything that the world needs more right now than a joke then a really really really good joke like nada that is probably top more even than like what I'm offering I would definitely say the comedian would like rank above coaching right now or even mindset because like laughter is the best medicine absolutely so yeah I just can't say this strongly enough you are a light you are a gift to the planet you have talent you have ambition you have skills and the world needs you to step up and share it you've got this you can totally do this I know you're probably shitting it at the idea of going live on Facebook but who cares who cares like now I see it I see that the world needs me and so the world needs you too I hope you really got that because I've said it like 10,

000 times on this podcast but I really hope it sinks in I hope you have the most amazing weekend and that you really like take this information and frickin run with it like make something create something this weekend spread your light shine your light spread the joy and the happiness and the laughter and the love because we need it yeah that's it for me if you want to connect more chat about this have comments questions concerns or critiques I'd love to hear them you can reach me on my website at www.

Candicealacia.

Com on Instagram at Candice Alacia or on Facebook at Candice Alacia coaching if you love this episode or it was particularly useful to you it would be so helpful if you would share it spread the light spread the joy let's get everybody thinking about what their place in the world and how they can show up like let's really encourage others to show up as like the fullest expression of who they are not to let themselves be you know held back by like pomp and circumstance and bullshit just show up just do it you got this you got this so yeah can't wait to see you guys next week have the best weekend