Welcome beautiful being,
Powerful heart,
Back to another guided journey and meditation from my heart to yours.
Today's intention is honing in on the shadow of people pleasing,
The pattern that we all hold deeply,
The part of us that feels it needs to keep others happy,
To stay agreeable,
To stay liked,
Even when it costs us our own truth.
Today we'll be easing and releasing the tightness that this part holds.
This is a space to gently loosen this pattern and return to the deeper inner stability,
The inner worth,
The love you have for yourself.
So when you're ready you can close your beautiful eyes,
Get comfortable,
Drop into a position where you can receive either sitting or lying down,
And let us slowly begin by taking a big powerful deep breath in through our nose,
Into our belly,
And slowly releasing out through our mouths,
Going again,
Breathing in through our nose,
Into our belly,
And breathing out,
Letting go,
Giving yourself permission to be here now with me as my energy,
My voice,
Start to hold you,
Soothe you,
Remind you how safe you are,
How ready you are to release this pattern of the pleaser,
Letting your jaw soften,
Your belly loosen,
Your chest begin to open a little bit more.
As we bring into our mind and into our awareness a moment where you felt the pull to people please.
Perhaps when you said yes,
When you really meant no,
Smiling or forcing a smile when you felt hurt,
Agreeing just to keep the peace around you in a lover,
A friend,
A family member,
Holding yourself back so others felt comfortable.
Whatever it is for you,
Notice what happens in your body,
In your being when you bring your focus to this,
When you remember this.
Where do you feel the tension?
Where do you feel the tightening?
Where do you feel the effort of holding yourself in a specific certain way?
Maybe around your shoulders,
Your chest,
Your throat,
A tightness in your thighs,
Your hands constricting.
Whatever it is,
Just notice.
There's nothing wrong with you for learning to survive this way.
Because you,
Like me,
Like all of us,
At some point learned that being liked felt like safety.
That you needed to belong at all costs in order to be protected.
So your beautiful,
Amazing nervous system adapted.
Today we are not judging this part of you.
We're simply letting it rest,
Letting it know it's okay.
Letting it know that you are ready to expand beyond this limiting pattern.
Breathing in with me,
And breathing out,
Expanding.
Going again,
Breathing in,
And breathing out,
Expanding.
As we continue to connect to this people-pleasing part,
The intention of expanding beyond it,
I want you to bring your awareness,
Bring your mind's eye back to this part that may be even looser at this point,
Maybe even more relaxed and released.
And I want you to repeat after me this prayer,
These words of gratitude.
Thank you for trying to protect me.
Thank you for trying to protect me.
Thank you for trying to protect me.
You do not have to work so hard right now.
You do not have to work so hard right now.
I am here with you.
I am here with you.
Let this people-pleasing part of you feel your expanded presence.
Feel your loving and compassionate presence.
You're not pushing it away,
You're holding it with your understanding.
You're not pushing it away,
You're holding it with what you are beyond.
All protection,
What you are beyond,
All mechanisms of safety.
And as you share this loving presence with this part,
Hone in on the center of your chest.
And see in your chest,
In your heart space,
A steady spaciousness inside of you.
A spaciousness that does not depend on approval.
A spaciousness that does not shrink to be accepted.
A spaciousness that whenever you feel the urge to please,
The urge to shrink your light,
The urge to shift and play a role in order to fit in a spaciousness that you can go to,
To remember what you are.
So with me,
Let us breathe into this center.
As we breathe in,
Feel the inner groundedness of this space.
Breathing in.
And as you exhale,
Feel yourself settling into this presence.
Going again,
Breathing into this spaciousness.
Exhaling,
Settling into presence.
One more time,
Breathing in to this spaciousness.
Exhaling,
Settling into your presence.
You are allowed to exist without performing.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to be honest in your fullest self.
Feel these truths moving through you.
Feel that inner groundedness,
That inner spaciousness,
That inner presence soothing,
Softening your people-pleasing parts.
And start to see any expectations you may hold to be agreeable,
To be liked,
To be everything for everyone.
See them as cords that are attached to you,
Attached to certain areas of your being.
Maybe your throat,
Chakra,
Maybe your heart,
Your solar plexus,
Your stomach,
Your sacral,
Your third eye.
See these people-pleasing expectations as cords.
And with each round now of inhale and exhale,
See each cord detaching.
So we'll begin,
We'll do three rounds here,
And I want you to connect to your presence in your heart to allow these cords to release.
Breathing in and breathing out,
Releasing.
Going for round two,
Breathing in and breathing out,
Releasing these cords.
And final round,
Breathing in and releasing any more cords still attached.
Letting your nervous system feel these detachments dissolving softly to the void.
Noticing what remains as you continue to notice more of your presence.
More of what is behind your people-pleasing tendencies.
Noticing your ability to speak honesty from a place of groundedness.
Your ability to speak from a full yes.
Your ability to speak with a full no.
To be kind and loving without abandoning yourself.
To care deeply for those that you love and stay rooted in your truth,
In your worth,
In your enoughness.
Repeating either silently,
Internally,
Or out loud with me,
I am worthy without performing.
I am loved without overgiving.
I release need to be liked by everyone.
My worth is not dependent on outside approval.
Breathing these words in with me,
Into the nose,
Breathing out,
Integrating.
I'm just sitting here silently for a moment before we close together.
Noticing one more time just how large and vast your energy,
Your presence,
The version of you that is beyond all people-pleasing patterns.
The version of you that is beyond all past loops of pain and trauma.
Just giving yourself one final moment of permission here to notice all that you are.
And I create this space to help you to grasp what is possible when you show up in your world from this place.
What is possible when you show up in your relationships with others from this place.
And holding this version of you in your heart,
When you're ready,
With ease and grace,
You can open your eyes and either end your day or continue your day from this expanded presence.
