This tapping exercise aims to invite more peace into your life and open up your heart again.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself because it's a decision to let go of the hurt and anger that you're experiencing about what happened.
The Dalai Lama said once,
In the final analysis the goal of every person is simply peace of mind.
Forgiveness is something we may want to do or feel we should do but in reality it can be hard to forgive a person especially when we feel wronged.
A part of us says no way they were so mean and if I forgive them then I'm condoning the behaviour.
Another part of us might be fearful that by forgiving them that it may happen again.
Whatever the reason we know that true forgiveness takes time and can be challenging.
This tapping routine aims to give back you peace of mind by helping release those emotions attached to what happened.
In return you can look forward to more freedom,
Clearer thinking and peace and calm within your being.
So the points we're going to tap on today are the standard ones.
If you need a refresher on the points or wish to learn about how to tap please look at my audio called Tapping for Beginners and please note that this audio is just a guideline to get you started towards a more peaceful life and a more open heart.
So let's start with identifying who or what you're having trouble forgiving.
Bring the memory to mind specifically what happened.
What did they say?
What did they do?
How they acted?
And then just notice how you feel when you recall all of this.
What's the emotion that's coming up for you?
Now don't worry if you can't name the emotion.
Just think about where you feel the emotion in your body.
Notice where that feeling comes up in your body.
Some people might have a lump in their throat or feeling like a boulders in their stomach.
But just notice where physically it's affecting you and if you can't please don't worry.
So if you have that now what's the intensity?
Just thinking on a scale of one to ten.
Ten being the most intense.
What's the intensity?
And just jot this down if you can so that later you can rate it again and then track your progress.
Some people don't rate it at all and that's fine.
Just knowing that a shift has occurred is absolutely fine.
Now let's start tapping and please remember there is no wrong way to do this.
And if the words I say don't feel appropriate,
That's fine.
Please just change them to what feels true for you.
Beginning now with two intentional breaths.
Inhale up through the nose.
Hold and then breathe out through the mouth slowly.
Once again,
Inhale up through the nose.
And then when you're ready,
Breathing slowly out through the mouth.
Begin tapping.
So the karate chop at the side of your hand.
Even though I refuse to forgive them because of what they did,
I deeply love and accept myself.
I repeat this out loud or in your mind as you tap.
Again,
Karate chop.
Even though I refuse to forgive them because of what they did,
I deeply love and accept myself.
Karate chop.
Even though I refuse to forgive them because of what they did,
I deeply love and accept myself.
Eyebrow.
I can't believe they did that.
Side of the eye.
I'm so angry.
Under the eye.
It's not right.
Under the nose.
It's not fair.
Under the mouth.
I refuse to let it go.
Collarbone.
All this anger.
Under the arm.
All this frustration.
Top of the head.
Anger and frustration in every cell of my body.
Again,
Eyebrow.
I just can't let this go.
Side of the eye.
They don't deserve my forgiveness.
Under the eye.
I feel so hurt.
Under the nose.
I refuse to let it go.
Under the mouth.
So much anger.
Collarbone.
So much upset.
Under the arm.
About what happened.
Top of the head.
I just can't accept it.
Again,
Another round.
Eyebrow.
All these thoughts,
Feelings and memories I've been holding onto.
Side of the eye.
They are hurting me.
Under the eye.
They are using up my valuable energy.
Under the nose.
I have a right to be angry.
Under the mouth.
I feel wronged.
Collarbone.
I have no control over this.
Under the arm.
Or maybe I do.
Top of the head.
I wonder if I can gain control over this.
Now,
Just pause for a moment.
Take a nice deep breath.
Has the intensity of your emotions lessened enough to be able to say some positive statements?
You want to be able to think about the event or the person without any heavy resistance coming up.
That's the goal.
So let's just do another round.
Eyebrow.
Maybe I can let this go in time.
Side of the eye.
Maybe I can choose peace over annoyance.
Under the eye.
What if I can let this go right now?
Underneath the nose.
What if I can't let this go?
Underneath the mouth.
What if I can let this go?
Collarbone.
What if I can't let this go?
Underneath the arm.
So many emotions.
Top of the head.
I can choose peace if I choose to.
So again,
Just pausing for a moment.
Taking a moment to check in with yourself and a nice breath.
Has the intensity of your emotions lessened enough to be able to say some positive statements?
And you can simply check by tapping through the points as you think specifically about what happened,
What they did,
How they behaved and anything else that you can't forgive.
You want to be able to think about the event or the person without any heavy resistance coming up.
That's the goal.
And so when you're ready and it feels right,
Moving on to some positive statements and please add in your own words or affirmations.
Eyebrow.
I love myself enough to let go.
Side of the eye.
I choose peace over annoyance.
Under the arm.
I'm doing this for myself.
Underneath the nose.
The calmer I feel,
The more I think clearly.
Under the mouth.
I believe I can open my heart in time.
Collarbone.
Looking forward to feeling the peace.
Under the arm.
Open to feeling more calm and relaxed.
Top of the head.
Letting go of all of the past that doesn't serve me.
So when you finish tapping,
Take a nice deep breath.
Letting go of the breath.
A long,
Slow,
Outward breath.
And take your mind back to the story again of what happened.
And notice if you feel less charged.
Write down a number to represent the intensity and then compare it to the previous one,
If that's what you did.
And hopefully there's been a shift for you and then you can enjoy the freedom of a lighter you.
And please note that this audio is just a guideline to get you started towards a more peaceful life and a more open heart.
What's important is that you get specific about what you experienced and feel the feelings associated with it and then tap until it's released.
So I do hope that this has been useful for you.
Love and light to all of you.
I'm Hilary Hart.
Namaste.
