Release Trauma Signals - Love Unreceived

Today,

We're going to talk about that trauma signal that hits that place of the heart where we feel like love is not being received.

This one sits on the meridians of the heart and the small intestine.

So when we feel that our love is not being received and we're not being heard,

Seen,

Valued,

Honored,

It's like a double punch.

It's not just a heartache,

But it's like,

Oh,

It takes our breath away.

When anything sits on this meridian in particular and the tummy is affected by this connection of pain or sadness,

Remorse,

Or trepidation,

The tummy tends to tighten.

And we all know that when the tummy tightens,

Then this beautiful being throws out all those stress hormones into the limbic system and we start tiring our systems out with cortisol,

Epinephrine,

Norepinephrine,

These stress hormones are really very bad for our body because they chomp those cells.

What we want to do is learn how to hold the space even though our heart's breaking,

Even though we feel that we are just getting a punch in the stomach.

We want to be able to hold the sanctity and the sovereignty,

The integrity of our mind-body being.

While we are having this experience or witnessing,

Noticing what's happening around us.

So in some way,

This human species has got to learn how to do this next layer of awareness and shift themselves from this space,

Just everything comes in and just smashes into us.

The body goes into reactive state and throws out all these stress hormones to try and protect us.

And the body goes into its whole story where it just closes down and says,

Oh,

No,

I don't want this,

I don't want that.

In that tightening and closing down,

We don't have flow.

We have got to work out how to be in the crazy,

Be in the overwhelm,

Be in the pain,

The loss,

The disappointments,

Be in all the stories and still keep the energy vehicle,

The mind-body being in a pristine space.

Big order,

Isn't it?

Tall order for us.

Let's see what we can ask guidance to bring in in this way that will help us and support us because I have no idea,

Me as Joy,

No idea.

But let's ask what it is that might help and support us at this time to really find a filter that would support us in a way that will truly,

Truly give us the capacity to hold the space and be a witness to it.

So let's see what comes in,

Shall we?

Can we come into the space together and let's hold the energy?

Let's bring in the highest vibration of light and love that we can at this time,

Where you are right now.

We take a deep breath in,

I feel so much love when I connect with you.

Then a long,

Slow out-breath.

Drop,

Drop into this moment,

Relax,

Be here,

My treasures.

How wonderful that we have each other and how wonderful that we can hold the space together with all our hearts and all the places that we are.

But holding one heart,

The intention to be in the space together,

To be kind and considerate with one another and to connect into divine guidance so that we can show up in this world with more ease,

Grace,

And flow.

If we could make this agreement with our beings every day,

Before you even open your eyes and start activating,

Just in the quietness and the stillness,

The transition from night sleep time,

Sleepiness into wakefulness.

In that moment,

Perhaps we could say to this beautiful being,

I've got you,

Don't worry,

We're gonna be okay.

Because there is a part of me that knows how to do this life and we are thanking the part of us that has been protecting and defending,

Helping us to survive.

And we are working in that space of transition.

We send a loving note to our being as if we would to a child.

We put our arms around that little treasure,

Draw them into our lap and say,

Come here,

My darling,

Don't worry,

Mommy's got you,

Daddy's got you,

You're okay.

Wouldn't that be wonderful if we could experience that as a child and know that that works.

We can give this to us regardless of what our childhood was like.

We can give this kindness and consideration to our own being.

So let's feel that now as we do this together and you breathe in.

Drop,

Drop into this moment.

Assure yourself that you're safe.

Feel the connection to the earth,

The balance of your body and the left and the right.

Feel your heart beating and slowly unknot yourself.

Soften your tummy,

Smooth the skin on your beautiful face,

Relax your jaw,

Smooth your brow and even your scalp.

In the space now with so much love,

So much sweetness.

And as you rest into this moment,

You hold your energy here.

We send a loving note to this darling human,

I'm okay,

I'm okay.

I'm still here,

I'm still breathing,

My heart's still beating.

To that part of us that knows how to function and takes care of us,

We send so much love.

To the part of us that wants to protect and defend us,

Help us to survive,

We send so much love.

That part that has kept us alive as a species from the very beginning of this journey.

And so we place ourself in admiration and kindness,

Softness,

Deep gratitude for what is.

When we place ourselves here,

We are seeing and regarding ourselves as whole beings,

Nothing broken.

We're just placing our attention inward into our memory,

Into our field,

And we're reassuring ourselves with what is an absolute,

What is certain.

You being here,

You being held in the arms of gravity,

Your heart beating,

Your breath coming and going and your systems functioning.

See if you can keep that circle around you now,

Imagine it like a pod,

A beautiful energy pod,

Your chrysalis of light and love.

You're holding this with all your heart and all your soul and enter the space.

Let's welcome our guides,

Angels and divine presence.

Be here,

Be close,

Be with every one of us,

Touch our hearts and whatever needs to be healed or cleared,

Opened up so that we can take that next step as a human species,

May that be for us.

As we consider the story of the journey,

The story of that deep wound,

That hideous trauma of not feeling loved,

The idea of being rejected,

Pushed aside,

Dishonored.

And for so many with whom I work,

I hear how they love another so deeply and that love is not being returned.

If you've experienced that as a child,

As a child is so loving and forgiving,

So generous of heart,

So eager to be loved that it forgives immediately.

It just takes a small sweetness and a kindness even from a cruel person to swell the heart of the one who is in pain at the hands of that awful soul.

We hear about those things with people in captivity.

One little moment of sweetness just opens the heart and opens us into forgiveness and kindness.

How incredible are we that we know something deep within us.

If in the moments when we are in great pain,

We long for this connection,

The sweetness,

The recognition and the love,

To feel it coming in,

Moving through us,

Being reciprocated,

Being able to receive it and trust it.

We long for that.

We look around us and we wish to find it in the spaces and the places,

The people,

But so often we feel the exact opposite of that with those around us.

There will be some who hold us in this beautiful chrysalis,

This cocoon of light and consideration,

Kindness,

And there will be those who don't,

Those who smash upon your senses and awareness,

Those who feel like they're beating down the door of your kindness.

Yet we still long for this lovely connection,

This love.

Why is that my treasure?

Why is it that this is the thing that we yearn for so deeply and sincerely?

And truly what I can hear and feel in my sense and my awareness is that this love,

This vibrational feeling that we say is love because we don't have a better word for it,

It truly is a field.

It holds a frequency that can be transmitted with great ease over distance,

Time and space,

And it can be received over these great distances too.

When we hold this around us,

It is like a filter.

It helps us then to stay inside of this beautiful all that is our pure,

Authentic,

Sovereign being.

We start to recognize ourselves in here and we hold that code of love,

Kindness.

How beautiful it would be for us to know that,

To know thyself as a being of love,

Compassion,

A being that is able to forgive and a being that is able to be so deeply grateful.

When we come to the end of our life,

We're taking that last breath.

It would be wonderful if this filter could just be absolutely clear,

That there are no remorse signals,

No pain,

No dread,

No stories.

Nothing to hold us captive in the moments of our last few breaths.

I do a lot of end of life work and I watch people who are in the place and the space of their deep gratitude,

Of their deep peace,

And it's so much easier to transition when people have found themselves there no matter what the situation is like for them,

No matter how hard the suffering is.

When they have found that place of peace,

Inner peace,

Then the transition becomes so much easier.

If we could imagine perhaps that this is like a lens or a filter around us,

This energy vibration of love,

Forgiveness,

And kindness,

That we know this already because our heart seeks and longs for it in every situation.

Whether we are grumpy,

Irritable,

Furious,

And raging,

Our hearts still wish that something different would be and that we could find ourselves in a different situation.

There's always this longing.

Come to know that longing now as your heart.

Your heart that is activating a magnetic field that is this longing.

It opens it up so wide around you.

Place yourself in that part,

That cocoon of that filter,

And know that this is the sovereign,

Truthful,

Loving you.

When we go into the world now and we rely on those around us to reflect that to us so that we can see it like a mirror,

That's when we get a rupture because we cannot rely on those around us to consistently,

In every single moment,

To behave in a way that supports us in every single one of our moments.

It would be impossible even for us to keep showing up as this fabulous,

Delightful person in every situation.

You try that for a whole day and see how you go.

Notice how many times you just lose the plot.

But the gift is that we know we're losing it.

We know that we've lost that link.

The moment we know something,

We know something.

In that moment,

We have a choice.

We either go,

Oh gosh,

I'm hopeless,

I'm not gonna be able to do this,

And we give up,

Or we are encouraged to show up in a little bit more of a way that is more decent,

More delightful.

We make an adjustment in us so that we can keep showing up and we take a breath,

Let the story go that we've just collapsed,

Find our grounding,

Reconnect to the earth,

Come back to this being,

And then open up the field again and start again.

It's the starting again and again and again that is reminding us who we are and reminding us that we are incredibly resilient,

Courageous,

And strong,

Determined,

Stubborn,

Beautiful,

Fabulous,

Stubborn beings,

That when we make up our mind to do something and we can make up our mind within the field of consciousness around us,

We link that to our heart,

Our deep desire,

The magnetic field,

Then we're gonna stand a very good chance of being able to fulfill at least another little while in our most delightful,

Most excellent being.

And then we place ourselves in these challenging situations,

But can we still hold it here?

Ooh,

Wow,

Goodness,

That's hard,

Isn't it?

When we have the real smashing up against this protective field of yours,

When we feel enraged and sensed that this person has intruded in the sanctuary space and erupted that serenity,

That sweetness,

And that truth of you makes us even more furious.

Why,

Why would you get even more furious with that?

It's because this is not your truth,

And something's pushed you out and off your center,

And it's made you so mad that you've been pushed out of your center and behaved in a way that you feel disappointed with yourself.

Ooh,

And right there is the story,

Isn't it?

Right there is the story of being disappointed with ourselves,

Because there,

My lovely,

You are not honoring and caring for and loving and cherishing you.

When we are disappointed in ourselves,

We reject our being.

We blame and shame and judge ourselves.

We carry this dreadful burden of guilt.

If only I hadn't said that,

If only I'd behaved in a different way.

Right there is the collapse,

That beautiful chrysalis,

That energy vortex that you created in your consciousness and your deep desire with your magnetic field of heart and soul.

This is how I wish to be and hold the space.

Then in comes the big disruption,

And it knocks and falls.

What do we do in the very first thing that we do is we blame and shame ourselves,

And that resentment,

Inner self-anger,

Resentment,

Disappointment erupts into the field because there is someone who made us lose it.

It's their fault that I lost my deep serenity,

My inner peace,

It's their fault.

So we blame and shame them because we will not take ownership of the fact that we disappointed our own self.

It's that little tiny switch that's right inside that that we've got to find,

My lovelies.

Can you get it?

It feels like it comes in and then it just floats away.

So let's just feel it again.

Let's be in the place,

The bubble of serenity.

Take a deep breath in and feel that now.

Just place yourself in.

Create a very strong energy field vortex around you.

Feel the balance of your mind in your body.

And then imagine yourself like a bubble floating around in this life experience.

You're moving in this direction and that,

And you're observing this,

Encountering the next thing.

All these things are happening around you,

And you are witness to it,

Noticing it.

And it's all going very well,

And you're very proud of yourself.

And then suddenly in comes a hardship,

A struggle where your filter is ruptured.

This beautiful bubble of consciousness gets disrupted.

And in that moment,

Feel what happens.

Feel the disappointment right there.

What is that disappointment?

When we feel that moment coming in and we can capture ourselves in it,

Then we are able to remake it,

Recreate it in that moment.

We're disappointed because something impacted into that space.

But now let's imagine it's like a rubber ball around us,

And the person can punch into it a little bit like quite a soft balloon.

And they push into it,

And the imprint of their fist and their hand can be seen by us inside.

But they can't break it or rupture it because it's so strong.

And they just pull their hand away,

And the bubble resumes its beautiful form,

Takes shape once again.

And you be inside this,

And you,

My lovely,

Are holding and maintaining that feel,

That vortex around you because you are still inside of it.

You are always inside of your space,

But you can be in witness to yourself inside of that space,

Which will grant you immense clarity.

When we notice what is being punched in towards that space that is ours,

That is our sanctuary energy,

And we can see it coming in,

And we can notice what the story is about that.

And then we can allow it to reconnect,

Reform,

Transform,

Because we are the ones noticing it.

We're not terrified,

We're not scared because we know we've got this incredible,

Resilient barrier around us.

That would be such a gift for this human species to know and to hold.

It would be incredible for us to hold this,

Wouldn't it?

We notice this,

And when you notice yourself noticing it,

Notice yourself noticing your feelings.

So it's three steps out.

Not just feeling it,

Not just seeing it come in,

But stepping one step away from your awareness.

Notice yourself noticing.

And then if you wanna be really fabulous and sparkly amazing,

You would go three steps out.

Notice yourself noticing yourself noticing.

Mm,

Ting-a-ling,

Let's see how that could work.

So here you have this beautiful pod,

Here you have the impact or the imprint into it,

And there you are holding and determining what happens next.

In this moment,

You can either crumble this field,

Just let it wither away and become thin and miserable,

Painful,

So that the impact comes right in and hits you in the stomach.

It can either come in or it cannot come in.

If we are holding and we are the guardians,

The sovereign keeper of this space that is ours,

And we're noticing it come in,

And we notice how we feel in the moment it comes in,

We acknowledge this beautiful being,

Oh gosh,

That really hurt.

Ow,

That was completely unnecessary.

Yuck,

That was so mean.

And we just speak to ourself in a way that we give ourselves the luxury of noticing it with our mind,

With our words,

With our awareness.

We now become conscious within our own field,

And we become conscious of the field that is outside of us,

That is informing us,

Helping us to understand,

So that this form can transform it.

When we have space around us,

The transformation happens so much easier.

It's so much easier for us to step into a much higher conscious awareness because we're staying conscious and present.

We're not gonna blame,

We're not gonna shame ourselves,

And we're not gonna drop into the stories of guilt and anger and rage because those were defense mechanisms where we had to defend ourselves.

We're not defending ourselves now.

We are complete,

Pristine,

Amazing,

Abundant,

Beautiful beings,

And we're noticing the impact of the world around us,

But we're staying true to our heart's desire,

Peace,

Love,

Grace,

Harmony,

Sweetness,

Kindness,

Truthfulness,

Integrity.

We're staying truthful to who we are,

The deepest calling of our heart,

The magnificent opening of who we are.

Let's see if we can play with that a little bit,

My treasures.

See this part around you,

Visualize it,

Play with it,

Understand it,

And see how you go,

If you can imagine this like the filter that helps you to bring yourself back into that heightened awareness,

That heightened consciousness.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all find ourselves in this space that is non-reactive?

We stop punching and bouncing around and smashing and colliding with each other.

We have flow,

Like beautiful little cells in the blood,

They're all just going along,

Moving along in the flow.

No one's smashing the other one out.

We're all holding our integrity.

That would be delicious,

Wouldn't it?

That would be something worth living for.

Let's take a deep breath into that,

Long,

Slow out-breath.

And drop,

Drop into the space,

Feel held here and now.

What a wonderful life this is for us to notice ourselves,

Noticing what it is that is unfolding.

Everything that is unfolding right now is so that we can choose.

We can activate the highest vibration,

The self-determining,

The strong will of our being,

Of what it is that we would choose now.

Choose with your heart and your soul and choose from your center,

Your absolute and your truth.

Then you're gonna always be in the right place,

My lovelies.

So much love to you all.