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Hello magical being,
How are you doing?
I want to talk to you today about something that's very dear to my heart.
It's something that I've been cultivating over the last few years and I'm seeing amongst lightworkers,
Amongst our star seeds that it's never been more important than now to be rocking this way of being.
And the way of being is this,
It's the ability to respond rather than react to our outside world because when we react to our outside world our creativity gets cut in half and the outside world is really loud right now.
So if you're in reaction you're lowering your vibration because as long as we are reacting to people's actions,
Their moods,
Their energy we're not in our pure energy right because if I react to you as you're talking to me I've taken a little bit of your vibration into my aura which basically means in a very practical sense I'm not broadcasting my energy out 100%,
I'm going to broadcast out my energy and yours and probably the other person I reacted to and also the other thing that I reacted to as well which means that then when I want to attract something in my life it's going to be mixed messages instead of me sending out a clean broadcast of my own signature energy so I get exactly what matches me back right from the cosmos I'm going to be broadcasting you and you and you so what I'm going to get back is going to be what they want and a little bit of what they want but not fully what I want.
So this podcast is about how to respond rather than react and becoming a walking reaction to people is not you it's your fake you it's your reaction you I want you to see it almost as two different people there's the real you and then there's the you you become when you're reacting and that reacting might be for a short space of time or it might be long term ie every time you see your in-laws every time you see your boss every time you see your parents every time you see your children right or every time you see that nosy neighbour immediately you become the reacting you and it actually cuts your power in half so when you react think about it the last time that you reacted and we're going to talk in a minute about the difference between reacting and responding but the last time you reacted to him to her to them have you ever noticed that that's not the real you because the real you is softer kinder more vulnerable and more real right the fake you who is reacting right now to someone in a conversation is perhaps people pleasing or performing or is harder and harsher than you really are right or is more defensive is is defending herself or trying to prove something it's not who you are and you don't have to be this person so often this comes from childhood trauma childhood wounds and that's how we heal right so if you know me you know I specialize in shadow work real healing metaphysics all that kind of gorgeous stuff and we heal we kind of peel away we heal and peel away right what isn't you so that you become you but also we can consciously be aware hey was that me just then or was that a version of me because I felt attacked or was that a version of me because I felt like I had to defend myself because of all the projections coming at me I'm going to give you an example in a moment as to actually what that looks like so being a walking reaction means the world has power over you and is instructing you how to be so really when you're reacting what you're saying is the world has power over me actually it does not nobody has the power to make you feel anything right if they do you're in reaction and so a healthy response to something is going to feel very different to you than a reaction right a reaction is usually to protect your sense of self somehow or to prove something or to ensure something to ensure that you're heard or seen but what it does is it pulls you away from yourself it pulls you out of your center so if you're talking to somebody right and you can feel that you're reacting instead of responding understand that it can feel like they're taking you away from your core because you're not who you are when you're with them you ever had that where you go god I just turned into this complete idiot when I'm with them or I just turn into this really weak person around them you know whatever I'm always really angry when I'm around them but really you are taking you away from your core I'm taking myself away from my core by reacting to you so nobody has the power to make you feel anything right not the state of your life not what's happening in the outside world not him not her what they did not how they think of you right you're allowed to cultivate your own independent vibration to what's going on you don't have to be in reaction to them or what you perceive they're thinking about you because then you become the false you then you become your reaction you there's two yous and I'm going to put it to you that you don't really like who you are when your reaction you because we know that's not who you are the most powerful place to be is the real you and yes you can be the real you with good boundaries if you have good practical and energetic boundaries you don't have to be in reaction to anything you can be completely gentle and soft and strong at the same time but completely you so you're not shaving off parts of your personality to be with them so in this way you stay high right which is you at your most powerful to be able to help whilst not being sucked energetically into anything so you can totally be you you can give as much as you want and know that you're not going to be sucked into anything you don't want to be sucked into so this takes practice and it's not about spiritual bypassing this is not about denying what's happening right what it is saying is I do not have to become it I do not have to become it the outside world your mood your energy your your even your conversation I don't have to become it to be of help or to be loyal to be a good person right so even when someone's saying to you something that's happened you don't have to go oh my god that's awful just to kind of give them support if you don't feel that you don't have to do that and the trick is to discern within yourself what the difference is between you as to a reaction or as to a response so we're going to talk about that now so there's a really big distinction so you need to when you're talking to somebody or you're out in the world right if you are reacting you are literally responding to what they're saying so you are using them as your point of reference you are bouncing off so imagine you're having a conversation there's an energy exchange right their energy is coming out of their body and you're reacting to that energy right that's one way of having an interaction it's not a great way of having an interaction because you won't like generally speaking who you are in that interaction but instead of doing that you simply need to ask what wants to move through me so during any interaction when you follow that and you bring the energy down from your higher self and into the interaction you are being you you are responding rather than reacting so instead of the person in front of you being your point of reference for how you should be or for what you should say or for how you should respond or for even like the inflection in your voice you're not using them as your point of reference you're hearing them you're feeling them you are witnessing them but your point of reference is no longer them or the outside world it's above you it's your higher self and so it's the ability to be with somebody but to stay within your energetic bubble and imagine that you're literally going to your higher self and like literally what wants to move through you what message is is your higher self giving you you're going to speak from that you're going to express your higher self so imagine that your higher self is above your head right I like to imagine my higher self as literally she's half a meter above my head so if you put your hands above your head now imagine you're pulling the wisdom down through your head into your heart and then sending that out to the person you're talking to you get to stay you it is a very powerful place to be because remember you don't need to answer a question just because it's being asked right what wants to move through you follow that right so I'll give you an example of how that actually looks and I wasn't doing it at this point in time we it's in my beautiful family soul pod we were talking to some other people and my family soul pod was very we were very in our hearts we were calm we were all about love and support and the people we were talking to were throwing huge projections at us they were angry they were making it about themselves what was going to happen to them they weren't able to stay in their center and they were throwing accusations at us and I tried to stay quiet and then I definitely found myself reacting and the reason that I reacted was to defend my core family to protect us to defend us to try and teach the other people actually the right thing in my mind so I had an agenda right I didn't realize it was an agenda but I was being triggered and a lot of it felt incredibly unfair and overly harsh and it was a hugely long conversation right it went on for hours about four hours and it was a conversation that should have felt loving and supporting right to my core family but instead it felt like we were being attacked and what changed it wasn't me right wasn't my husband wasn't the other people who are beautiful right but they were just kind of figuring stuff out it was my daughter and I just watched her and she didn't react at all which is an incredibly difficult thing to do in a very heated environment she just responded and I saw you know an accusation her that self at her or at me or at my husband and I watched her and she just pulled down from a higher self and put that out and it was incredibly disarming and the people that had gone from projecting and reacting and keep being angry and you know all the all this stuff like several seasons all in one day went from doing that to being more in their hearts and they were able to hear and feel what she was saying if she'd been reacting no they wouldn't have done right they would have been exactly as I was and I just watched her right she was sitting on the couch and I just turned to look at her and I just thought wow you're a teenager and look at you go and I was just in awe I was pretty much shaking through that entire conversation it didn't feel like a conversation it felt very unsupportive very it felt like we were in a yeah I don't know even how to describe it to be honest it wasn't a great place to be it wasn't what I expected so I don't even know what the word would be but I just watched her and I remember thinking I want to be like you I want to learn how to do that so I spent a lot of the conversation just in it but holding myself back and just watching her and I'm like I'm gonna learn from this and so afterwards I sat down and I meditated and I asked my higher self and I said show me how to do that right show me how to do that now when you've had trauma in your past lots of wounds and your nervous system is frayed it can feel harder to do that because you are more reactive you are hyper vigilant because of all the attacks you've had in the past right whether they be physical or emotional or spiritual and remember those that carry the most light have often incurred the most unconscious attack and in some cases conscious so the first stage of being able to respond is to take care of your nervous system to get your body into a space where it feels safe and then if something happens and it's not safe great then it can respond but so that 99% of the time it knows that it's safe if you're in a safe environment so that's going to be you know plant medicine baths healing like real healing shadow work clearing healing stuff and you might use homeopathy lots of different things that you can do that's another podcast for another time right the first thing to do is to really get yourself into that space it's a lot easier things like yoga walking massage body work all that beautiful stuff and the next stage is to start to cultivate it so if you do get triggered into reacting go in and heal that right if you're past client of mine or past student of mine you will know how to do that I'll be running more courses and classes this year to really get you just ship shape into just sharply doing it really quickly right so you really just are a walking you not a walking reaction and then it's about really in in any situation so best place to practice it is then to respond bring from your higher self down so best place to practice it is in a easy conversation where you're not feeling the need to come out of yourself and defend yourself or prove something or be somebody you're not right so it will be a safe conversation with somebody where you feel seen heard loved and accepted for who you are try it then just try simply responding instead of reacting you might have more gaps in the conversation it's almost like you might feel the cogs turning like wait hang on a minute what does my higher self want to bring through me now but you'll actually find if you keep doing it and you keep practicing it you will get smoother and smoother at it another way of practicing it is you don't need to do it in front of people you can just do it when you're in front of Google you're in front of the internet and you pull up an article or you're on social media can I respond to what I'm seeing rather than react and can I feel the difference inside of me for me I can feel the difference very quickly when I'm responding I stay centered I stay peaceful even if the right response is anger or fear there's a very big difference it feels legitimate it feels grounded it feels right and it feels like I'm centered in that energy because every energy we have every emotion we have we need to have it at certain times right there's no wrong emotion ever ever ever ever ever but I know I'm in reaction right when I am not centered I've been pulled out of my center and only your own inquiry into yourself and your body is going to showcase what that feels like for you to be in your body so how does it feel to be in your body when you are pulled out of your center into reaction and how do you know when you've stayed in your center and you're simply responding part of that is understanding that nobody is more powerful than you so you're not coming from a place of fear right if you know that you're always going to be safe if you know that you're always going to be looked after by your guides by your higher self she or he right now they are giving you the only news you need to hear so you're hearing it from the outside world you're hearing it from that person but that news is specifically curated for you to guide you through your life so that's the one you need to be attached to not anybody else or anything else so a beautiful question to really ask yourself regularly as a way of practicing this is simply what wants to come through me that's how you stop being a walking reaction by being fully you in any interaction right your real you is never in reaction to anything right but it's just you so your real you right is your higher self and of course the human self is becoming the higher self but your higher self doesn't react to situations right i'm gonna call her she because i'm a she but you might identify as he or they right so whatever you want to use use that my higher self when something happens in the outside world whether it's a person or a situation or something i'm hearing about in the outside world you know further outside world she doesn't react she doesn't go oh fuck she doesn't go shit we need to prove ourselves we need to defend ourselves we need to do or shouldn't do any of that right she just kind of rubs her hands together and she's like oh my god goodie more expansion we get to expand marina we get to expand this means you're growing as a person so every time i connect up to her through meditation or just connecting up to her now i catch up to her expansion right she's always responding and hey sometimes the right response is going to be to defend myself absolutely none of this is wrong but defending myself as a response and defending myself as a reaction to entirely different things right defending myself as a reaction is to change you in some way to change your perception of me or it's to try and control a situation because i'm frightened defending myself as a response is very simply it's going to sound different so instead of me saying something like um um i'm not this so if somebody accuses you of something and they go um i don't even know what that would be higher self help me out right if if somebody accuses you and says um you're selfish a reaction would be i'm not selfish you're you're selfish or why would you say i'm self i'm not you know and i would be going down that route a response would actually a way of defending myself would simply be i don't mind what you think of me call me selfish call me anything you like okay that's my higher self so that's a version of defending yourself right but it feels very very different because i genuinely don't care what people think about me and that's through me doing so much shadow work in my early years that um yeah i've owned it so and hey if you come at me with something and i go no i'm not that then that is another one for me to deliciously own so the real you isn't in reaction to anything right which means you get to build you you get to build your energy which means you get to keep your beautiful energy which means when you're around people you don't feel depleted you don't feel diluted you're not going to get pulled out of your center because the weight of you is not sitting outside of you the weight of you is sitting above you in your higher self that's where you value it the most that's where your connection is the most that's where you are focused the most and another way of responding rather than reacting is to ask yourself how higher self how would you see this how would your higher self see this immediately you are going to your response immediately you're going to your higher truth so you can also ask what's the highest truth of this situation and what's the lowest truth of this situation and the highest truth is response and the lowest truth is going to contain your reaction so that's another beautiful two ways of really curating your ability now to respond rather than react because remember if you're reacting you're already lowering your vibration but if you're responding you are already heightening your vibration you're already raising it and the higher your vibration is the more of you you become so my question to you is can you respond today rather than react how would that look how would you know you were doing it how would it feel because you deserve to stay you right and a question you might like to meditate on is who would i be if i weren't in reaction to the outside world who would you be who would you be if you weren't in reaction to those people when you go into their house who would you be when you go back to your family if you weren't in reaction to them you would just be you you would stay in your center you would like yourself more you'd have your stronger boundaries but you wouldn't get pulled left right and center because you don't need to keep proving who you are you don't need to do any of that right remember that right or wrong all of that polarity lives in the third dimension and hey we've moved up and out of it so there's never been an easier time than now for you to cultivate this because the outside energy is already this as opposed to even a year ago when it wasn't so who would you be if you weren't in reaction to the outside world thank you for listening have a beautiful week all my love see you next time thank you for turning yourself on with me please leave me a gorgeous review which helps me to serve you and come find me at marinaj.
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