Set Healthy Boundaries & Let Go Of People-Pleasing - by Kenneth Soares

COURSE

Set Healthy Boundaries & Let Go Of People-Pleasing

With Kenneth Soares

Dear Soul, I welcome you to this 20-day course on Insight Timer. I put a lot of time and effort into creating the content of this course, and in the process, I learned so much myself. I have this need to go deep into the core of different subjects. Not just dabble on the surface. And creating this course was no different. There is no quick fix to changing the learned behavior of people-pleasing and the avoidance of setting boundaries. But it is definitely possible to become better, to learn, and to change. And of course, it will require your time, your attention, and your willingness to learn new things and to expand beyond many of your current standards and beliefs. We cannot hold on to the old ways of being and expect things to change. This course provides a solid foundation for that change to be built upon. That’s why I created it in the first place. We explore boundary setting from a holistic standpoint: exploring the mental, emotional, physical, and energetic aspects of boundary setting and people-pleasing You will not only receive theoretical knowledge, but also practical knowledge, techniques, and resources on things like: how to communicate boundaries effectively with your body, your words, and your energy. How to handle internal and external resistance. How to handle different challenges that might show up, and likely will show up in some way shape, or form. And also, learning how to build confidence and courage to set boundaries and stand by them. That’s probably the most challenging part: standing by your boundaries. You will also learn how to detach from overthinking after setting a boundary, and being at peace with your decision. Is that even possible? I believe it is. I have also created guided meditations that are spread throughout this course. I think this course will challenge you in different ways. Like I said, I was even challenged when creating it, which I am grateful for. I do believe that being challenged in different ways opens some doors for us to walk through, see things differently, and do things differently. There is no sugar coating in this course, nor avoiding talking about things that can sting. I believe we have to do that if we want real change to happen. Doing things that we’ve always done won’t change anything. We’ll just keep repeating the same things over and over again — hoping things will change. I just think that it is much more effective to look at things like they are. The reality of it. Not trying to make it more “sweet” than it is, just to stay comfortable in some way. You know, staying “comfortable” is the reason why we don’t change, when change is needed. The content that I share with you here is with the intention that it will make an empowering difference in your mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and energetic health. If you are ready? Let’s begin. Now.


Meet your Teacher

Since 2010, Kenneth Soares has been on a mission to authentically show up and to be of service at the highest level possible — committed to helping and empowering people on their journey of personal and spiritual healing and growth. He does so with honesty and enthusiasm, courage, care, power, and integrity. Kenneth is a certified hypnotherapist, advanced EFT practitioner, and NLP teacher. His experience working with reprogramming the subconscious mind, trauma work, shadow work, and spiritual healing on others and himself — has given him a unique insight into the mechanics and root cause and patterns of disempowering human behavior like people-pleasing, self-sabotage, fear of setting boundaries, and of course, how to change and heal these patterns with practical knowledge, awareness, and resourceful action. His practical approach is intertwined with his insight into the spiritual, energetic, and metaphysical aspects of our reality, and how these play their part in the life we co-create.

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20 Days

22.6k students

4.9 stars

23 min / day

Stress

English


Lesson 1

The Journey Of Boundary Setting

What are boundaries? How do we know if we have them in place or not? In this lesson, we will venture into the different aspects of boundaries: physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, mental boundaries, material and property boundaries, time boundaries, and energetic boundaries. Becoming aware and conscious of these aspects is essential on the journey of becoming a confident boundary setter.

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Lesson 2

The Difference Between Rigid, Porous & Healthy Boundaries

We will explore the spectrum of boundaries. There is more to it than whether we have a boundary or not. Boundaries fall along a spectrum; they can be thought of as healthy, rigid, or porous. We can fluctuate between these three boundary qualities depending on the situations we are in and the people involved. Don´t be too surprised if you gain insight and learn about yourself through the knowledge shared, the coaching questions, and the visualization process in this lesson.

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Lesson 3

The Root Cause Of People Pleasing

In the process of learning how to set boundaries, there are blocks in the road. One of these blocks is our need to please others. It is a pattern rooted in fear, not compassion. Today, we will explore the signs and reasons why we people-please and explore the different fears that hold people back from setting boundaries. Many want to break from the people-pleasing pattern but feel stuck. How good would it feel if there is a way to break free, in a safe and natural way?

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Lesson 4

People-Pleasing Is A Behavior, Not Your Identity

People-pleasing is a habit. A subconscious programming. A behavioral pattern governed by your beliefs, your attitude, your rules, your values, and your standards. They can be changed. Many people are trapped in the habit of pleasing others, not only out of fear, but because they feel “it is just who I am.”

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Lesson 5

The Hooks & Traps Of People-Pleasing

Many want to be considered compassionate and kind. Understanding and loving. Accepting and non-judgmental. Patient and tolerant. This is prominent for many. The trap here is that we might become passive door mats. This happens when we lack knowledge and deeper awareness about what these virtues mean, and how to apply them in different contexts and circumstances. We will explore this in-depth in this lesson.

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Lesson 6

Guided Meditation: Letting Go Of People-Pleasing

A guided meditation/hypnotherapy session for preparing your subconscious mind to activate the inner resources needed for you to make the needed changes in your life when it comes to letting go of people-pleasing and setting healthy boundaries. It's also designed to help your subconscious mind reinforce and integrate what we have covered in lessons one to five, in a safe, natural, and empowering way.

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Lesson 7

Self-Responsibility & Self-Leadership

Choosing self-leadership and self-responsibility is key when it comes to boundary setting. What does it mean to take self-responsibility and self-leadership? How can we do that? Why is it essential that we stop taking responsiblity for other people´s emotions, behaviors, and actions? Why should we stop playing the “blame game”? What is victim mentality and victim behavior?

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Lesson 8

Boundaries That Break Negative Family Patterns

The topic of setting boundaries with family needed its own day. Many have messed up and toxic family relations, and don´t know how to set boundaries to change the dynamics. There is no universal law that says that we have to allow these toxic patterns to continue just because it is family. Do we just have to tolerate bullying, verbal abuse, physical abuse, or being mistreated and disrespected, just because it is family? Are we willing to stand up for ourselves when it is the right thing to do? We will explore these questions and more.

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Lesson 9

Social Pressure, Programming & Setting Boundaries

Being capable to set boundaries when faced with direct or indirect pressure from groups of people, our culture, the social consensus, or people and entities that we consider to be an authority — is of high importance. External thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and opinions carry an energetic charge that can have a strong influence on us. When we are heavily influenced by these external factors, the choices we make and the actions we take are not fully our individual and conscious choices and actions. Let’s explore this deeper.

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Lesson 10

Guided Meditation: Healing Lake & Affirmations

This is the second guided meditation/hypnotherapy session for the deprogramming of disempowering beliefs, reinforcing empowering beliefs, and deep healing. Integrating and enhancing the learning, insights, and knowledge from days six to nine. Enjoy the journey.

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Lesson 11

The Basics Of Effective Communication

We will explore how we communicate with our body language, with our tone of voice, and with our energy. This session is packed with practical knowledge and strategies on how to enhance your communication skills when it comes to setting boundaries.

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Lesson 12

How To Communicate Boundaries Effectively

For us to communicate our boundaries clearly, powerfully, and effectively — we need to have awareness of what that means and what elements that need to be in place. Kenneth will share a recipe on how to present a boundary effectively, as well as explore the language traps we can fall into that can make the process ineffective and cause more drama than necessary.

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Lesson 13

Blocks & Challenges On The Boundary Setting Path (Part 1)

When we set boundaries, there will be consequences. People will turn to all sorts of drama behavior to “try” to sabotage our boundaries if they perceive the boundary as a “threat” to their feeling of security. Having knowledge and awareness about probable challenges that might show up in the process of setting boundaries — can help us be mentally prepared and physically prepared if the challenge arises. This has nothing to do with being fearful, worrying, or focusing on a problem. It´s more of a solution-oriented, resourceful, realistic, and optimistic focus.

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Lesson 14

Blocks & Challenges On The Boundary Setting Path (Part 2)

In this session, we will continue exploring the common blocks and challenges that stop many from setting boundaries. The root cause is fear. Fear rooted in trauma. Fear that we have copied from others. Fear rooted in social and cultural mind programming. Sometimes, we fear something that we have made up to be “dangerous” in our minds, thus scaring ourselves from setting that boundary and standing by it. It is time to expand beyond fear.

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Lesson 15

Practical Resources For Detaching from Drama

How good would it be to have some practical techniques that can help you detach from internal and external negativity? Reducing the influence external negative mental and emotional energy can have on you. As well as neutralizing your own inner triggers, so that you can stand much more grounded in your power. Expanding our consciousness, becoming more aware, and knowing thyself, are key.

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Lesson 16

Setting Energetic Boundaries

We constantly interact with external energetic information (non-physical information) and physical information that is around us. Other people’s thoughts and emotions can affect us to a great extent if we don’t have tools in place to handle this. In this session, we will go through some practical knowledge, tools, and techniques that can be of great support when you need to energetically protect yourself.

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Lesson 17

Anger Can Be A Gift

Many people, especially those on a more spiritual journey tend to suppress anger, feel shameful about being angry, and think that anger is bad and makes them less spiritual. Are these reasons aligned with objective truth, or are they symptoms of our subjective beliefs, and lack of awareness about how anger is an energy that can be transmuted to positive creational energy? Is the creational energy of anger sometimes needed to finally set that boundary?

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Lesson 18

Self-Coaching For Strength & Clarity Of Standards & Boundaries

This lesson is a self-realization journey. We can divide our self-boundaries and standards into four categories: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Your level of self-awareness, self-responsibility, and standards will determine the boundaries you have for yourself or the boundaries lacking. You also will learn different self-coaching strategies for enhancing clarity and drive for setting boundaries.

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Lesson 19

Hypnotherapy Integrating The Learning

In this guided meditation/hypnotherapy session we will be tapping into the power of your subconscious mind… integrating and reinforcing the learning, the insights, the knowledge, and healing that you have consciously or unconsciously experienced by committing to doing this course.

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Lesson 20

Boundaries, Connection & The Path Ahead

What is connection? How are boundaries and connection interconnected? How is doing inner work related to becoming more connected to yourself, Spirit, and Source? How are we potentially being distracted from true connection while thinking that we are already "connected"? How is 'committing to a life of constantly improving and expanding' paramount on the path of setting and holding healthy boundaries? All of this and more is the focus of this last session of this course.

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Recent Reviews

Doina

January 10, 2026

A truly eye opener and life changing course. Thank you Universe, thank you Keneth.

Dorys

December 28, 2025

I absolutely needed this beautiful course! I will need to go over it again and read the transcript thank you so much for your work Kenneth 🙏

Cindy

December 25, 2025

blessings of gratitude for this wonderful course in boundaries. 🙏

Amy

December 19, 2025

I have done this course twice and find it incredibly valuable . I also find Kenneth’s voice and manner very therapeutic. Much gratitude!🙏🏽💜

Stacey

December 7, 2025

This course was amazing. I will definitely be listening to it a second time! Thank you so much for all of your insight and putting this together.

Jalil

November 17, 2025

I give this ✨💯🎖️ I am finished with the course for the second time and it has turned my life completely around. I am going to do it a third time! Every round it seets in deeper. Thank you for your work 🙏🏽✨🤍

Vickie

October 6, 2025

Love this course- second time doing it- highly reccomend!

Rita

September 5, 2025

Thank you for your insights and contribution to my life journey.

Libby

May 20, 2025

So inspiring and relevant at this stage in my life. I found more inner peace and strength by the end of this course. A course I will refer back to and replay often. Thank you for your insight and sharing of your gifts Kenneth.

Marie

May 6, 2025

Kenneth, I am so grateful and thankful for the effort you put into creating this course. It has profoundly affected my mindset in a positive way. I have a ‘monkey mind’ and struggle to focus which I am aware and ask for guidance every day. I will replay every session consistently until I can remember your teachings with ease. I found them invaluable! Thank you so much ❤️

Donna-Rebecca

April 29, 2025

I really enjoyed the different styles and ways of making boundaries kind but assertive and bringing everything together.

Jimmy

April 26, 2025

Excellent course

Jamie

March 29, 2025

Has been pivotal to the start of my Journey and I will revisit it as many times as needed as I continue on this new path

Denise

March 27, 2025

Thank you

Julia

January 9, 2025

So incredible! Kenneth has been such a transformative guide in this course’s journey.

Lisa

January 7, 2025

My heartfelt thanks for this empowering course. I will use these tools moving forward and possibly revisit this course as it was very deep. Many Blessings, Lisa x 🙏 ❤️ ✨️

Sabrina

December 30, 2024

Such an insightful course. Tangible, authentic, and relatable. Kenneth brought to light a lot of aspects to boundary setting and people pleasing that I struggled to see with clarity on my own. I really enjoyed the meditations, stories, and analogies used. Lots of loaded lessons that I will be coming back to in this course. Thank you, Kenneth!

Emily

December 17, 2024

One of the best 🫶

Julie

December 11, 2024

Very comprehensive, informative course with practical tips to help you on your own path.

Carol

December 2, 2024

Really honest, comprehensive and deeply thoughtful course. Given me much clarity and much more to think about. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom

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