How To Deal With A Broken Heart?

Thank you for taking the time to listen to this recording.

This recording is a talk,

Though you may find yourself in a meditative state,

A reflective state as you listen to my voice.

So today the intention is to give you some tools to handle a breakup,

Which is a very difficult time,

A difficult part of life.

So as you listen to this recording,

Know that you may get something out of it,

Something that you can use in your daily life,

But also if it's really difficult for you to apply and use practices in your own time,

Know that this present moment is all that counts.

There is nowhere to go,

There is no pressure to learn anything,

And if my voice can support you,

Well I'm very grateful that I can help you today.

So let's get started.

So yeah,

Heartbreak is what we experience as human beings,

Sooner or later.

The fact is,

When we go through it,

And it's absolutely valid,

We may feel like we are alone and no one can understand.

And in a way that's so true.

I remember when I was going through a really hard time myself,

I heard a spiritual teacher saying a heartbreak can be even harder than a death sometimes,

Because when someone dies,

A lot of people will grieve and will support each other.

But when you go through your own heartbreak,

You are the only one who understands what's going on.

No one is grieving the way you grieve.

So I'm just saying that because I hear your pain and it's very valid.

So maybe taking a moment to acknowledge your pain.

And if you are here,

And this is pretty important,

I assume you really want to make a change,

You want to get better.

You want to see,

Maybe to see your belief system,

What happened,

Because it is a very important aspect of the self to be willing to make a change,

To get better.

But before we get better,

This is why you are here,

Before we get into this future self,

Before we get better,

We have to be here.

This is so important to be in the present moment and not deny what's going on.

Because sooner or later,

If we deny our emotions,

If we reject the self,

This may play out in your life.

With my experience,

I know that holding on to some heavy emotions,

Repressing them,

Will impair your future relationships,

Will also impair your daily life and your wellbeing and maybe your health.

And I'm not here to give you an ugly picture future,

It's just something to be mindful.

So right now,

In this moment,

Coming back to the self,

Coming back to you,

Taking this moment for yourself,

Acknowledging that you are making a big step in listening to this recording.

When we feel rejected,

When we get into that state of,

Now I'm by myself and I used to be with that person,

There is so much happening in the body.

And what I'm inviting you to do right now is actually to intend not to go into the story because your story is absolutely valid,

But we're not going to give it power right now.

Right now,

I invite you to find a comfortable position,

Whatever it is,

Maybe you are sitting,

Maybe you are lying down,

Maybe you are actually walking.

Find a way so you don't get too distracted.

We're going to focus onto the sensations in your body.

Very often when we go through a breakup,

That's what happened for me I would say,

You get a day off,

A few hours off and then you have to go through your life.

And these sensations in your body,

In your being just keep calling you.

And it could be pain in your chest or heaviness in your stomach and we don't get that opportunity to be with that.

So today,

Right now in this moment,

We'll go through a process of being with the sensations,

Allowing the emotions and really intending to see what's true for you.

This process will work if you are willing to accept all parts of yourself,

Even if it's a little bit,

You don't have to accept everything.

But when I say accepting,

It means embracing with the eyes of love,

Shedding this energy of acceptance onto your being.

And if it doesn't resonate,

I invite you to keep listening and to keep practicing here.

Maybe later on you will integrate what it means.

So now let's do this.

Breathing in,

Breathing out,

I invite you to tune into your body and to notice what's going on.

What is the strongest sensation in your body?

Where do you feel it in your body?

And as you feel your body,

Allow yourself to release,

To make sound.

Maybe you want to cry,

Maybe you would like to scream.

So if that's possible for you,

Do it.

If it's not,

Just grab a pillow and just mimic like if you were doing it.

If you were screaming,

How would that be?

Get this energy out of your body.

Maybe you want to stand and just jump on the spot and make some movement.

Let your body speak.

This sensation,

Does it want to move or do you want to be with it?

Ultimately,

This is about being present for your emotion.

Can you stay with it and not wanting it to change?

It doesn't mean you are holding it.

You are just intending to embrace it and to say,

Look,

That's okay,

I'm with you.

I invite you to take that moment to feel this emotion in your body and just to say to your emotion,

That's okay.

And if you feel it,

If you allow it,

You will notice that your emotion is not a stranger.

It just wants you as a friend,

Temporary friend.

It is calling you,

It is calling your presence.

Can you be with that emotion?

Can you breathe into it?

Can you be with it?

And as you stay with this emotion,

It may change.

Allow yourself to sigh,

To make sounds.

Maybe you want to shake your body,

Maybe not.

As you tune into your sensations,

Your emotions,

You may be able to name them.

So what is this emotion?

With a breakup,

We may be so sad.

We may be angry.

We may have rage.

Maybe there is shame,

Embarrassment.

Maybe there is numbness.

Maybe nothing is happening for you and it's okay.

Being with your numbness is totally welcome.

Maybe there is confusion.

Can you embrace your confusion?

I'm just going to give you a few moments so you can tune into these emotions if there are a few,

Feeling them in your body and just telling them there is nothing to be changed,

I'm with you.

And breathing into it.

Shedding love and light to your emotion.

Waking your time.

And if you feel like you want to stop this recording,

To be with your emotion and just let it be,

Let it be felt,

Talking to your emotion,

That's totally fine.

Maybe you want to stop this recording.

But if you want to keep going right now,

If you had enough,

Maybe that's totally fine.

I invite you to ask that question.

Why am I feeling so,

And maybe so sad?

Why am I feeling so rejected?

I invite you to inquire about what's your belief about yourself.

What do you think about yourself?

You truly believe that you are not lovable?

Are you not worthy of love?

Just ask yourself the truth.

Because the truth,

And it is something that I invite you to reflect on,

It's about our essence.

I invite you to listen with an open heart and open mind.

Our essence as human beings is peace and love.

We are vibration,

We are energy.

Before we get physical,

We are this energy source.

From creation,

Creation is the vibration of love.

This is who we are.

It is only when we incarnate in this physical being that we experience the separation.

Throughout our lives,

We are going to feel that,

The kind of duality of feeling rejected and feeling connected,

But ultimately,

Ultimately you are lovable.

You are worthy.

Everyone is worthy of love.

And if what I'm saying is really triggering you,

That's actually a good thing.

And I'm saying that because everything that you're not going to feel,

Like what I'm saying about love,

Will be an opportunity for you to look at what's true for you.

So allow yourself to feel,

Allow yourself to inquire.

What do you believe about yourself?

There is nowhere to go,

No pressure,

Because your experience is absolutely valid.

But the more you connect with yourself,

The more you embrace your pain,

The more peaceful you're going to feel,

The more whole and connected to yourself you will be.

Right now your pain is calling you.

So that's something you can use in your daily life.

Every time this pain,

This heartbreak is there for you,

Try simply to talk to it and say,

I'm here and let it be here.

Feel it,

Feel it.

And you don't have to go into the story and the analysis of your story.

Your story is absolutely valid,

But just make it about this energy within yourself and connect with you,

Connect with this sensation,

This emotion,

And intend to see the truth about who you are.

Make this pain your partner and tell it,

That's fine,

You're with me.

And I know you will leave me at some point,

Because this energy just needs to be felt.

And you will notice that if you practice this with love and acceptance,

This energy within will move and you will feel more connected to yourself.

You're going to see the truth of who you are,

What do you want,

What you believe about yourself.

So I hope that helps.

And please comment,

Please share your thoughts and know that your experience is absolutely valid.

So please acknowledge that you are going through a really hard time.

And you know,

Anyone who is telling you,

You should get over this and who is judging what you're going through,

Always come back to a state of,

I would say love and acceptance,

Because your experience is valid.

You are the only person who can understand yourself.

Anyone else will never understand you better than you do.

So sending love to all these people who are telling you what you should be,

We love them and we release them.

You know who you are and you understand what you are going through.

So stay with yourself,

Stay with your emotions and trust that you will know who you are,

What you want,

And you're going to see the light.

You're going to feel peaceful in the right timing.

For now,

Your pain is calling you.

I will talk to you very soon.