Live Event - The Full Expression- How To Find Your Voice

Okay,

So most of you guys are saying over-preparing and ruminating and like thinking about what might happen when you have to talk or just when you're in this situation of wanting to express yourself.

And here's the thing.

It's a calculation,

Right?

It's like if I got my calculator out right now and I said,

Okay,

Based on what I know,

I can predict how this might go.

So let me predict,

Let me do the calculation.

And calculation says,

Okay,

It equals 200.

It's an estimate of what might happen.

That's how our minds are working.

We're trying to avoid some kind of danger happening.

And that's really what's happening,

Right?

And you guys probably know this.

But here's the thing I didn't know.

I didn't realize that that was connected to these like really strong beliefs that had been built of,

Yeah,

I'm not good enough or everyone's better than me.

These guys can do it.

I can't.

And there was nothing I could do to like mentally make myself believe that everything's going to be okay.

There's nothing I could do.

I tried.

I tried everything.

But there's nothing that you can do.

The doing mode comes in.

And I'm not saying like physically doing something,

Maybe that as well.

But I mean the doing of your thinking is like the thinking is doing and analyzing.

Okay,

What can I do to make this better?

What can I do to save myself so this doesn't go bad?

And that's what's happening when we're trying to work things out.

But what has really changed for me,

I'll dive into this a bit more,

But to summarize,

What's really changed for me is that I just trust,

I just trust that I've already got everything I need.

And the second thing that's helped me a lot is connecting to humanity in general.

Like to a really deep level.

And I mean,

We grow up thinking that life is a comparison.

And there's nothing wrong with it.

This is just how we've grown up.

Like we go to schools,

We sit next to someone,

And then maybe they're smarter than us.

And then we take a test.

Oh,

You,

These five top students have received an A.

These ones have received a D.

Okay,

You guys are,

You guys go to the other class now because you're not good enough.

It's not just that.

That's just one part of this.

It's also like our upbringing.

So we have loving parents.

Nothing against our parents.

But they're trying to protect us,

Right?

They're trying to make sure that we have everything we need and don't fall into danger.

So when,

When a child does something and then the parent actually feels danger,

The parent feels worried,

They'll just say something to the child.

Don't do that.

What's wrong with you?

Because he's coming from the parents paradigm,

Right?

So then that gets passed over.

And the parent probably got it from their parent.

He gets passed over.

And then what happens is like we're born with everything we need already.

We're born.

We don't,

We don't need to like have all of these ways of working and ways of being,

But those are imprinted onto us through life.

So it's almost as if there was a flower and then the flower is received,

It's already got everything it needs to grow,

Right?

But then it's almost like the flower has put a cover on top,

It's cast this cover,

Which says,

Well,

This part of you doesn't need,

This part of you needs to be shut off because we think that there's something wrong with us.

So we change ourselves.

We put this mask on,

Right,

Of fitting into the world.

So that's where these challenges come from.

And I wanted to just say that,

Right?

Just so,

This is my understanding,

By the way,

And this is what I've learned.

This is how these things happen.

So when we go and speak,

When we're trying to express ourselves,

There's this hesitation of,

Oh,

Is this okay?

Because we're still living in the belief that we got from a long time ago.

It's funny,

Like you,

If you worked in an,

Or any environment,

Right,

Where you have colleagues,

Manager,

Colleagues,

You ever seen a grownup have like a tantrum?

Have a tantrum?

And this happens everywhere,

Not just at work.

You'll see on the roads,

Someone's driving,

I can't believe you did that to me.

You'll see this in a store,

In airports,

Everywhere,

Grownup tantrums.

The grownup is getting angry or upset because they're feeling like they're being threatened inside as a human.

They're being threatened.

So it's like wearing,

It's like grownups,

Or it's like children that are in a meat suit of a grownup sometimes.

All of us really,

Like that's,

A part of us is living in that child world,

Right?

So we're still living in the fears that we picked up.

They're just hidden underneath the surface,

That's all.

It's hidden somewhere underneath,

So far that it's hard to find.

This is the thing about it,

It's so hard to find.

It's like looking for treasure in the dark.

And sometimes,

I like to call it sometimes,

Going into the basement.

And I know in the states they have basements,

We don't have them here.

But I know they had them there.

There's basements which are dark and there's webs everywhere.

You don't really go down there.

And it's sometimes scary.

Look at those basements.

Thank you,

Elvin,

By the way.

I really appreciate that.

Much,

Wow.

Yeah,

No,

That's awesome.

Thank you,

Elvin.

So it's like we're going into the basement and we are looking to find out what the truth is.

That's what we do when we go on these self-development journeys.

And I guess that's what these kind of things are for,

Right?

These apps.

It's for actually looking for the truth.

Looking to find what we are,

What we wanted all our life.

So when we find it hard to express ourselves,

We haven't found that part of us yet.

That truth,

That thing that was always there,

That we were born with.

So whenever I'm working with someone,

I want them to realize how their mind is affecting them first.

Like what are these beliefs that are restricting them?

Almost like putting them into a box.

So you understand like what are these things?

Thank you,

Elvin.

That made me laugh,

Actually.

Whoa,

What is going on?

Oh,

I appreciate that.

So it's like trying to put that stuff in a box first,

Right?

Understanding these are the limitations.

And then looking for this other thing completely,

Which is like,

I like to call it a golden orb buried in sand.

The work is trying to remove the sand.

It's trying to remove all the sand and find this orb once again.

Because when we are trying to speak,

We're working from the mind box,

The beliefs of I can't do this,

I can't do this.

But then when you realize you see like some of the best speakers,

You ask them,

How do you do this?

And not just speakers,

By the way.

But let's just keep on that topic for now.

They say they're working from a different place.

Some people will say I'm working from the heart,

Spirit,

Whatever,

Right?

From that place,

It's a whole different ballgame.

And that's basically what I've done.

It's almost as if the mind was driving the car for my whole life.

And I was in like this little part of me was in the backseat locked up with a thing covering my face so I can't speak.

Or in the trunk even,

I don't know.

And basically what I've done is I've slowed down the car.

I've got to know the mind.

It's almost like,

You know when hostages and the person that has taken them hostage become friends.

That's what I've done.

I've become a friend to this mind.

I don't believe that this is an enemy.

Like so many books out there you read,

They say,

Oh,

This is a horrible part of yourself.

Don't even engage with this.

This is a disgusting,

What do they call it?

Like what are words for it?

I don't know.

People tell me some words that you give your mind.

And I believe this too.

I was down there.

I was like,

Yeah,

I'm going to destroy this mind.

I'm going to kill it.

This darkness or this.

Like someone said to me the other day,

I think they use the word saboteur.

And words like parasite to come up.

And I don't believe that anymore.

I used to.

I don't believe that anymore.

I believe that this mind is just,

It's just a part of us,

Right?

And we have to love it and accept it.

Because then it's like back to that driving in the car example,

You're in the backseat of the car.

If you start becoming the friend with this driver who's taken you hostage.

Yeah,

Maybe you can work something out.

And what ended up happening for me anyway,

And the journey I want to take people on is going from this place of hating the mind and being in the backseat to starting to actually understand it.

Love this part of yourself,

Even though it seems horrible.

And then go into this place where you slow down the car and you change drivers.

And the mind goes in the backseat instead.

That's the ultimate place.

Because then if your truest part of yourself is driving the car,

Then everything changes.

And that's how I've been able to express myself now.

Because now,

And the simplest way I can put it is now I'm working from the inside out instead of before I was looking at the outside and the outside determined how I felt on the inside.

Does that make sense?

It's almost like this inner flame I've just expanded it.

So now this inner flame can drive the car.

So expression and trying to communicate.

When we over prepare,

Which is what a lot of people said,

It's because we feel like something's going to go wrong.

And that's okay.

That's okay.

There's nothing wrong with over preparing.

But when it turns into this thing that turns against you,

Of oh no,

My whole body is going against me,

I'm so worried.

I'm ruminating.

I'm paralyzed by it.

I'm feeling like there's danger ahead.

That's when it can get into a problem.

And it can turn into like,

Kind of like what I had,

Which was a lot of anxiety and I was living in that place.

Basically,

I was living in fight or flight.

So if you can realize,

Firstly,

Just slow down and realize everything's going to be okay.

Like,

Interview,

The thing that's going to happen,

That's not going to determine your happiness.

It's just the thing you're doing.

The you is always going to be there.

Right?

The you that's there is always going to be there.

These things that are happening are just temporary.

Yeah,

This thing that you might be working on like a job is very important.

Sure.

But what about when you have like this random sickness or you something happens to you,

Right?

Let's just say physical.

Like,

For example,

My parents,

When they started getting older,

They started realizing that they should take their health seriously.

And they realize what's important to them,

Like to live in a situation where they're healthy,

They realize how important that was compared to any other things.

If you can realize those things now and you just powerfully work on your inside,

Then the outside things become games.

I like to call it the game of life.

It becomes the game of life.

So,

Yeah,

You're over preparing.

Great.

Go for it.

There's nothing wrong with that until you put so much pressure and so much meaning to that.

It's not a game anymore.

It's like if I'm playing tennis with someone.

I don't play tennis too often,

By the way,

But I was playing tennis a lot last summer and they're taking it so seriously.

I'm taking it so seriously.

Yeah,

I want to win.

I want to have fun with this game.

If I'm taking it so seriously that I'm getting really like,

I don't know,

I'm just I'm not even in the game anymore.

This game is determining something for me.

Then you start losing yourself.

So if you can always come back to this pure,

Um,

This like your best self,

Let's just call it,

You can call it whatever you want.

If you always keep bringing yourself back to this,

Then these things you're doing are still important,

But they don't determine your happiness and who you are.

That happiness is always going to be there if you just remind yourself of it.

And someone said,

Um,

When things are going good,

You're waiting for it to go wrong.

I hear that a lot,

Actually.

It's because often we're not used to this feeling of things are going good,

But honestly,

That is the natural state.

We bounce back to that all the time.

Our nature is literally bouncing back to that.

How does your body recover from if you've gotten a bit of a,

I don't know,

A cold?

It is bouncing back to vitality.

How do you recover when you have a,

When you've been tired and it's been a long day,

Your body bounces back by telling you you're tired and you sleep?

How do you get through when you have eaten some bad food?

Your body bounces back.

It's the same with our thoughts.

We're having these moments of thinking,

But if you just let go and stop trying to control everything,

Everything just works itself out.

And that might sound like this kind of mumbo jumbo spiritual nonsense,

But it's not going to make sense,

But I don't know.

I don't think so.

I don't think so.

From my experiences,

If I let go and I just,

I just let my wisdom do its own thing,

Everything works out.

Holding and attaching onto thoughts is just an illusion that we have control.

It doesn't make sense.

So that's what I've done to help myself and I'm helping a lot of other people as well actually.

I'm coaching people on this,

Of like how to express themselves,

How to let go of worrying what other people will say.

And it's the same thing.

It's just going and doing things,

But then being okay with how you're feeling,

Being okay with what thoughts come up.

For example,

I think another thing I'd like to say which is important is feeling scared and feeling like this is hard is okay,

But we try and push that away.

Courage,

Like I talk about courage a lot if you've been to my sessions.

Courage is just being okay with doing something,

Knowing that it's going to be hard and you're going to feel uncomfortable.

Being okay with that,

Letting that be.

Because what I was doing a lot of was I didn't want to feel uncomfortable.

I didn't want to feel out of control.

I tried to control everything so that I have this illusion that I'm actually able to do something but when you just realize that it's okay to feel uncomfortable,

It's okay to have these thoughts,

I don't need to do anything with them.

It's like your heart's beating,

Your thoughts are happening,

You feel scared,

All of that is just happening.

I said to someone yesterday,

I was coaching them and I said to her,

She might be watching anyway,

But yeah,

I said to her,

Is it your fault that you have these thoughts and emotions?

Did you choose for this to happen?

And she said no,

Of course not.

So,

Why are you trying to control it now?

It's just occurring.

And I worked with her for like an hour and a half and we got to the end of the session and just her whole energy shifted because she said to me at the end,

She's like,

I realize I don't actually,

If I stop trying to analyze things,

I create all of this space in my head,

You know?

And not just that,

I allow myself to see that best version that was always there.

It's never left.

And if you're skeptical,

Go out and walk in nature.

Where does that come from,

That feeling that you get?

It just happens because it's always been there.

What about you see something and you smile?

Well,

That best version is coming without you trying to do anything.

What about when you're walking down the street and you see like these kids laughing and you smile back,

That's you just naturally coming to that place.

It's just coming out in you.

It's not lost.

It's not something you need to create or work on to have,

You know?

It's always there.

So,

What I have done for myself and with others is just raising the awareness to that reservoir of potential that's always been there.

It's kind of like moving the smoke out of the way.

Moving the smoke out of the way and creating space.

I said to someone else that I was working with,

I said to her,

Imagine,

She was about to fly somewhere.

I said to her,

Imagine that your suitcase was packed with all of these things,

Like all of these things that you think you need.

Imagine your suitcase was packed with that.

You don't have any space for anything else.

It's the same with our thoughts.

We're just analyzing and we have all this stuff in our head.

So,

There's no space for us to see beyond that,

You know?

So,

The only thing I'm going to say is when like trying to express yourself and over preparing,

Thinking is not going to help and I know it's easy for me to say that.

And I mean analyzing is not going to help.

Thinking is going to happen because that's just what's happening in our nature.

It's like we think something scary is going to happen.

So,

Fine.

Let that process work.

Let the fear response come in.

And often it's because we're trying to control or get rid of it or change it that it becomes such a powerful,

Scary thing.

It's like if I'm driving the car and my gas light comes on and it says,

Oh no,

You need to go fill up.

Do I just hit the brakes on my car and freak out?

Oh no,

My gas lights are coming on.

I'm going to crash or everything's going to go wrong.

Our thoughts and emotions are just a signal.

It's just something that's happening.

And then you just choose.

You get to choose how to react.

Okay,

My gas lights come on.

Oh no,

I better fill up.

Okay,

Let me go fill up.

Great.

Thank you,

Gas light,

For telling me.

Because if you didn't,

Then how would I have known?

So you see there's benefits to this.

So the work I usually try and do with people is like remind them of the benefits of this system.

It's almost like picking up a hammer.

Yeah,

I need a hammer sometimes.

Great.

Let me get a hammer.

Great.

But then being able to put it down and realizing it's a hammer and it's not actually you.

So over-preparing is fine.

Ruminating is not fine.

Because that's analyzing things.

That doesn't help at all.

And if you feel that starting to come up,

There's a few things I say to people is how about you just observe and catch it out.

Catch yourself out for doing it.

Like a kid trying to grab a cookie from a cookie jar.

Hey,

I've caught you.

I've caught you ruminating again.

No more of that,

Please.

And just go back to what you're doing.

You don't have to do anything.

So I want to see what's coming up for you guys so far.

Drop some comments,

Questions,

And we'll take it from there.

Okay,

The next question is I'm going to write it down.

So,

KS,

How do you take responsibility when your thoughts turn into actions?

For example,

If I feel anger and I reflect that on someone else,

How do I go from there?

If I feel anger and I reflect that on someone else,

How do I go from there?

Yeah,

Your thoughts do turn into actions when we're kind of unconscious of them,

When we're in the program,

Let's call it.

And this happens.

Even for me,

I sometimes notice myself drifting into autopilot.

That's the term that is often used,

Autopilot,

Right?

And yeah,

And guilt comes in.

Exactly,

Guilt comes in of why do they get angrier,

That person.

So you have to own this.

This is the biggest thing I've had to do,

Owning everything.

I used to play blame game on everyone.

I used to play blame game on everyone.

Oh,

They did this or it's because how I was brought up,

You know,

They messed me up or this happened.

You have to just own this thing,

Man.

This is yours.

No one's going to,

It doesn't help to play blame game.

It's not going to help you ever.

That's often where all this anger and stuff comes from,

Like this resentment that's built up.

So what I think I have done is connecting more to how we are connected as humans,

Really feeling connection and love for everyone actually.

And you can do this in a number of ways.

The Buddhist have this famous way to do it,

Which is loving kindness meditation.

I used to do that quite a lot actually when I was getting into this.

So if you want to check that out,

Loving kindness meditation,

It allows you to just really start feeling love inside.

And I didn't really know what that was before.

I didn't even think I had a heart in here.

I thought I was just this thinking machine.

And I never knew what that felt like.

But when I started practicing things like yoga as well,

And meditating and then doing specific things around like the heart,

Like this meditation I just said,

It started becoming less and less possible for me to get angry at people.

Can you believe that?

I couldn't feel anger.

Of course,

Like my autopilot mind patterns,

Like I said,

Came up.

But then I would feel bad because there was this part of me which knew like,

What the hell are you doing?

What the hell are you doing?

You love this person.

What's wrong with you?

So it's almost like just getting more into that place.

And it's not just about the people around you.

I started,

And I still do this actually,

Every day,

I will at some point in the morning,

I will just connect to everyone,

Everyone that I'm going to speak to,

Everyone on the earth,

And just feel this,

Just the connection that we have as a species,

But beyond that as well.

When you really do that often,

You practice this,

Your autopilot starts switching off,

And you become more of a conscious person.

You realize everything.

And they have this term,

Realized being,

Right?

I don't know where that's from,

Buddhism,

Or like self-realization,

Whatever they call it.

All they're saying is just a person who's just very awake and aware.

Just aware.

Aware of everything.

Like there's even,

I'll give you an example.

I was working out in the gym today,

Right?

And this guy,

I was working in this area,

And I started lifting weights again after a long time.

I was working in the weights area,

And this guy was like,

I was in this area,

I'm trying to describe this in a simple way,

And he was like,

Can I put the barbell there?

Can I put the bar there?

And I said,

No,

I'm using this space.

You can put it over there.

And then he said,

Oh,

Sorry,

Man,

This is my first day in the gym.

I don't really know where things go.

I just felt this incredible,

Like,

I just felt so bad,

Just for telling him,

Like,

Don't put this thing here,

Because he doesn't know what he's doing.

He's this first time in the gym.

I just felt bad,

Instantly bad,

Really,

Really bad.

And I said to him,

Sorry,

Yeah,

Let me help you out.

Like,

Do you want me to show you around?

All this stuff,

Because it just hit me so hard.

So any time I feel now,

Like,

I might get angry at someone or I might get into an argument,

I can't.

Because it hurts.

Because I know this is just ridiculous.

It's my mind working.

This is not me.

So that's a practice I suggest to you guys.

And I say practice again because it's,

Yeah,

Just something you practice each day.

I hope that was helpful.

And I'm going to go to the next question.

So let's see.

I'll come back up.

Hope that was helpful,

KS.

Let me know.

And here's the thing.

Everyone here,

Send me a private message.

Connect with me if you want to talk more.

Because a lot of people do that,

Actually.

People send me private messages and ask me questions,

Tell me what their challenges are.

Here's my invitation to do it.

I always invite people to just connect with me one to one.

And on Instagram at the moment,

I am running a 30-day story,

Which is just I'm just walking around on the streets and filming myself speaking about the ego.

I'm speaking every day about the ego,

The analytical mind,

The fears.

And it's like a one-minute video.

Every day I post something.

So check me out on Instagram.

My name is Raj Gorsea.

You can just Google me or you can just look up on Instagram.

Just my name,

Raj Gorsea.

Connect.

Send me a message.

I want to speak to you guys.

I want to see if I can help you out.

There's a bunch of resources I've got that I share with people.

Just send me a message and we'll chat.

And I want to hear your kind of stories and what are things that you're challenged by.

I'm sure there's something I can send you to help you.

Okay,

Let's go back to questions.

I think some of the chat has gone,

Actually.

That's unfortunate because I'm trying to scroll up to the top.

But I think I've got most of them.

So I'm going to come back to the next one.

Okay,

What do I do when my anxiety is so severe and I try to drop it?

I feel it in my body,

Allow the pain to be there but it doesn't pass.

I'm stuck between listening,

Trusting my gut.

That tells me my thoughts are maybe not the.

.

.

My chiroes are maybe not the best treatment for me.

And fear of not knowing who else to turn to.

I've been in the stuck place on this for a while.

Anxiety about money,

Time limitations,

Uncertainty about what to do for my health.

My brain is injured and I'm using the brain to sort out and it's hard.

I'm trying to drop into my heart more but that is a full-time job and I'm scared I won't be able to work.

Yeah,

Thanks for sharing that.

I've lost who that was from.

I think that might be from Lorena.

That's a really interesting observation.

And here's what I got from that.

There's a lot of trying,

There's a lot of fear and figuring things out.

Trying to figure things out.

Here's the thing,

We bounce back.

When you let go,

And I know you said you've tried to let go.

But if you make this a real hard and fast rule,

Sometimes I say to people I'm working with,

Let's make this a challenge for the next seven days.

Anytime you have a temptation to try and figure things out or to try and do something about the situation that you're challenged by,

How about just for seven days you decide,

You choose,

That whenever you have these feelings you're just going to do nothing.

You don't need to figure it out.

That's your challenge.

And that might sound easy,

Sorry not easy,

That might not sound easy.

But I did this myself once actually,

That's what I'm telling you guys.

I did this challenge for a month actually,

Where it was so difficult,

My entire body and my mind were telling me to do things.

And I had to even do this talk.

And I decided to myself,

I was like,

Okay I'm not going to prepare,

This feels horrendous,

I'm so scared.

I'm not going to prepare,

I'm not going to prepare,

I'm not going to think about it,

I'm just going to let it all go and just trust that everything's going to work out okay.

It was the most amazing month ever,

I was so relaxed.

It was a world that I never understood,

I never seen the world like this.

So I want to challenge you to that for the next seven days.

Anyone who's on this call,

Anytime you feel thoughts or anything coming,

Just say that you've decided to take a challenge.

You are doing this challenge for seven days,

Where you don't do anything based on your thinking,

No matter what.

It's going to be hard,

But play,

It's a game.

Challenges are games.

If you don't think of it as a game,

If you take it too seriously,

Then it's going to turn back into the challenge that it already was,

You see.

It's going to turn back into thinking and stress.

Whereas if it's a game,

I'm going to play the game,

Okay,

I'm going to play a game.

Play the game.

That's my challenge to you.

I know this might sound like you might be thinking,

Oh,

You're being very insensitive to my challenges.

Well,

I'm not.

I'm helping you to see beyond that mode that you might be looking at things at.

And the only way for you to do that is to try things that feel different and uncomfortable.

So that's my answer.

And I know that might not be the answer that you want or you might not expect it.

I don't know.

Maybe you did.

That's what I've got to say for now.

Let me let me scroll up and see what other questions there are.

There's a lot of good questions today,

Guys.

I might only be able to take one more.

The body keeps the score.

Great book.

And if everyone likes books on my Instagram page,

I've got this book highlight,

Which I review books.

I put like a mini like a few sentences on books that I recommend everyone should read.

I update that every so often.

There's at least 100.

I don't know.

I'm guessing there's at least 100 books on there of books.

I have chosen that to review.

I think will be helpful for people.

So check that out.

And if you want me to recommend you a book,

I do this a lot,

Actually,

For people.

People tell me the challenge they're having.

I will either have a conversation with them or send them some resources that I've made.

Or I'll say,

Hey,

Here's a book.

Read this and then tell me how I went.

So if you want that,

Just connect with me.

So.

OK,

I'm going to keep looking to see what else we have.

Looking for questions.

All right.

Apologies,

I'm not going to read out all these comments,

But I am reading them,

By the way,

And I'm thankful for all of them.

But I'm going to read out questions.

So any guidance on how to be vocal about one's needs politely but assertively?

My voice flickers and I fumble often when I'm underconfident.

I love that.

I used to have the flickering voice as well.

I actually I used to stutter and my whole body would sweat,

Actually.

So I couldn't even hide that one.

My whole body was soaked in sweat.

My face would go red any time I felt like anyone that was a little bit powerful or in my mind powerful.

I would be so scared to talk to them.

If anyone could relate,

Then drop me a yes in the comments,

Because I know this is quite common.

I didn't think it was common.

But anyway,

Back to your question.

Any guidance on how to be vocal about one's needs politely but assertively?

Yeah,

I think the key there is needs.

The key there is needs.

And the other key is having a communication with the person rather than it turning into like aggressive or me against you kind of thing.

Yes,

I've had to like master communications actually for the past.

Well,

I don't know.

I don't even think I've tried.

It's just happened somehow.

But just understanding like how how do we connect as humans?

Well,

If you if you're in a relationship and it turns into an argument,

It's because there's not a good connection going on.

It's usually somebody trying to overpower someone or someone thinking that they are they're under threat,

You know.

So if your voice flickers and you fumble often,

I think the key is like really saying what's going on for you,

Being completely honest.

I think that's always helped being so honest,

Just saying,

You know what,

This is how I'm feeling.

And this is what I need.

What do you think about that?

And making it like collaborative conversation,

You know,

Like asking somebody what they think when you tell them that your needs instead of just like a statement or a demand or a command.

Nobody likes commands,

Right?

You need to do this.

Yeah,

What's going to happen then?

It doesn't ever work.

You need to do this.

No one likes a command.

But when it's a conversation that you are being your truest self,

Just letting out what you're feeling.

And the other person will get you then because you're human to human now.

So that's all I'd say.

If that's useful,

Ashwaraya.

And yeah,

Send me a message if you want and we can connect.

I've got a video about communicating.

And yeah,

I think it's been useful for quite a few people I've sent it to you.

OK,

Let's see,

One more question.

I'm going to look through if I can find the question.

Hasse says fresh shaved and yes,

I've shaved trimmed my beard.

Thank you.

I look like 10 years younger.

OK.

Someone said Kelly said I get confused on my intuition and my thoughts.

OK,

I want to come back to that.

Let me see if anyone else has put in the thing.

OK,

That's going to be the last question.

OK,

That's a great question to end on.

Yeah,

So communication,

Sorry,

Intuition,

Intuition and your thoughts.

Intuition feels like a cooling and soothing voice,

Which is always supportive,

Always.

It feels cool and calming and it feels like smooth,

You know,

Smooth,

Feels nice.

Whereas thoughts are like a hammer and they feel harsh and rigid and judging most of the time.

Because they're coming from the psychological part.

The beliefs,

The analysis.

Not always,

By the way,

But in this context,

Based on what I think you're saying,

The thoughts often are just occurring and they're louder.

Whereas the intuition is usually like a soft,

It's kind of like you can't even hear it.

It's a very soft voice.

Wisdom,

Really,

Like it's wisdom.

It's coming naturally.

That's the only way I can describe it.

And when you're acting from that place,

All of this stuff about full expression,

Which is what today is about,

Like expressing yourself,

It just feels soothing.

Like an artist who's like getting their paint brushes out and they're expressing themselves.

That's the best way I can describe it.

Like when you are really expressing through your voice,

That's how I speak.

There's no thinking involved.

It's like an artist is just painting and it's smooth.

It's just coming through.

It's coming out.

An artist can never explain where this came from.

They don't know.

It's just coming somehow.

An artist of every form,

Like singers,

Dancers,

Whatever.

It's like an expression.

So if you think of expression in that way and tap into that artistry,

You become the artist of your life.

And that might sound like this airy fairy stuff,

But it's important.

It's important to live that way.

Not just for relaxing,

Not just for peace,

But actually for living and growing and becoming better and for everything.

If you want to grow in your financial world,

If you want to grow a business,

Literally this is useful for everything.

Productivity.

That's why I like to help people operate in this way because it's not just,

I'm not here to help people relax.

Yeah,

You get that as a bonus,

I'm sure.

You feel calmer.

Great.

But that's not what I'm doing.

I'm here to help people become,

Tap into that best life.

And if you start tapping into this part of yourself,

Which is like creating creative self.

Yeah,

Then you're out of thoughts.

And then using the logic as a tool to help you create those things.

That's when now the thinking can be useful.

Now you can pick up the hammer when you want to.

I'm not saying remove the hammer.

I'm saying you become the owner of the hammer and so the hammer owns you.

So I'm going to leave it as that guys.

And.