What Other People Think Of You (1 Of 5)

Welcome to this day number one of five with the topic what other people think of you.

I am sitting in front of my laptop now and there's one minute and 30 seconds till we start.

I'm very auditive and I love revisiting audio files so I'm recording this and it's going to be on Insight Timer where you're probably listening to it right now.

So I started with this like three weeks ago.

The live events.

I've had a lifelong struggle with spending too much time on what other people think of me.

And this is just an ongoing process.

Doing stuff like this on Insight Timer is definitely also something that makes my heart beat and my thoughts,

You know,

Arise in regards to what will they think or.

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But it's a part of the process working with this stuff.

Realizing what is true and what is not true.

And then taking it from there.

40 seconds.

So I'm just going to close my eyes and remind myself why I'm doing this.

So I'm doing this to be able to help people,

Help myself create a significant change in my life and theirs.

And for me to live in peace and help other people to do the same.

And to pass this on for generations to come.

That is why I'm doing this.

Ten,

Nine,

Eight,

Six,

Five,

Four,

Three,

Two,

One.

And we are live.

Good morning,

Good morning everybody or good evening depending on where you are in the world.

So let's just wait a couple of.

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Not minutes.

Hello Lorraine!

Good evening from Alabama.

What time is it?

Is it plus six hours or minus six hours,

Right?

So it's what?

You're up late.

Hello Wendy.

So could you let me know if the sound is fine?

And also if the image is getting too clear?

Chicago,

11.

30 pm.

You're up too late Michelle.

Hello from Melbourne.

Awesome.

Great,

Good sound.

And the image I guess it's good as well,

Right?

No lacking?

Vancouver Island.

Alright.

Woohoo Germany!

Hello Sandra,

Good to see you again.

London as well,

Lorraine.

So listen,

I'm really happy that you want to spend this time with me.

It's 6.

30 in the morning here in Denmark.

I'm in southern Denmark as you can see from outside it's still very dark.

I live in the southern part so we actually have the sea right here,

Two minutes' walk from here.

And we made these decisions,

I mean getting away.

We have our house in Copenhagen still.

I have my clinic in Copenhagen as well.

But we decided to move down here with like three years,

Four years ago.

Wanting to get out of all the stress and the noise and me being with a sensitive nervous system.

My kids being,

I have two kids,

11 and 13.

So moving out of the city has definitely been one of the best decisions that we have made.

Why that is,

That I share this,

I will let you know later on in this meditation today.

I say meditation is,

I do my sets of talking,

Meditation,

Talking,

Meditation.

And if there's time,

Talking and meditation.

I'm very very focused on practical meditation.

I want to take whatever I can learn from the meditation room,

Whatever I can learn from the teachers,

The masters,

Everybody else here as well.

And take that and put it into my day-to-day experiences in the here and now.

So what I will be passing on to you today,

It's quite a lot that I want to cover.

What I will be passing on,

I do have an,

I'm expecting something of you.

My expectation is that you take this stuff and practice every day.

And that you're doing these five days,

See if it makes a change for you.

If it does make a change for you,

Continue doing it.

So repetition is the mother skill,

Including in this area,

Which is invisible.

I mean,

These thoughts that we have about what other people think of us,

They are invisible.

We create something inside of us that usually doesn't feel good.

Because the thoughts that we have on other people's behalf are not necessarily positive.

Agree?

So I have some different things here I'm just going to share with you right now.

And one thing before I continue,

I'm recording this also in a high quality sound file,

Which I am going to put on Inside Timer.

I'm very auditive myself,

So I love revisiting audio files and listening to them again and again.

So it's more if there's stuff that you heard that you didn't quite remember.

Like in a week's time you'll be able to listen to it on Inside Timer.

I do look at the common fields,

But I'm practicing actually looking more at the camera and then going back here.

So when I go here,

Please,

If you have any questions,

I'm going to look at whether there is something that I can help you guys with or come with input to.

And then we'll take it from there.

But please do use the common field.

What will we be covering?

I made this yesterday.

And all of this is something that we're going to touch on for the next five days.

All of this,

There's a story connected to it and I'm very visual also.

So for me to do this,

It was a really good process.

I am in the process of writing a book and it's going to be a book which is going to be something that will be usable for kids,

For teens,

For adults.

And all of these different models,

You will be able to have as different references to talk if you do have kids or work with kids.

Me working as a psychotherapist,

I work with really small kids also,

Like from six years old.

And I work with couples and I work with families and I work with teams and companies and so on and so forth.

So I am going to take a picture of this and I am going to see how to get this to you.

So as I mentioned,

There's a whole lot of things to cover and all of this has to do with my own journey on dealing with what other people think of me.

And it's been a long life struggle because of,

Well,

We all have a lifespan,

Right?

We all had,

From the time we were conceived,

The nine months in the belly of our mother.

And then from there,

All the experiences that we've had,

All of this has formed us and created a story about us,

An identity,

A personality.

And some of us struggle a lot with it and some of us don't.

And some of us are in the middle.

Sometimes yes,

Sometimes no.

And I've definitely,

Since I was 30 years old,

That's been where I broke down,

Where I had become such a person that I couldn't recognize.

And me being over here,

Like the real me,

This was all about what other people thought of me and I developed such a pleasing role,

Such a hero role,

Wanting to make everybody happy.

But the gap was getting bigger and bigger in regards to myself and where I was.

So that was where everything changed for me.

And for the past 17 years,

I've worked a lot with this.

I've become a certified psychotherapist and been working with this every day with people.

So it still is difficult,

But the intensity of the emotion inside has become a lot more stable.

So I used to say that I had this free pass for the roller coaster,

The emotional roller coaster,

But I don't have that pass anymore.

It does arise,

But this is where meditation comes in.

So these things that we're going to be going through,

Some of it might work for you,

Some of it might not.

But what we need to do,

All of us that want to work with this stuff is to practice every day.

And it is really a daily practice,

Whether it's the meditation,

Whether it's a primary focus on this theme that we're having these five days.

Practice,

Practice,

Practice.

And especially when we can turn our practice into something where we use that emotional pain.

That's where this rocket comes in.

This rocket.

It's about,

You know,

Using the emotional pain in order to get to where we want to go.

Not just have pain and feel bad about our low self-esteem or low so forth,

Whatever label we will put on it.

But use it as fuel in order to get to where we want to go,

To achieve our dreams.

So,

But let's,

You know,

Take these words and now we're going to do a short meditation,

Just intro meditation.

We have 30 minutes and wow,

It's almost nine minutes now passed.

So let's just get settled and we'll do this every morning where when we start up,

Have this intention meditation.

So just close your eyes or keep your eyes open,

Depending on what feels the best for you.

I'm actually going to do my open eye meditation practice that today.

So just notice your in-breath filling up your lungs,

Feeling your heartbeat,

Exhale,

Feeling those shoulders relaxing.

And you know,

You're completely safe where you are right now.

There's no danger,

No expectations.

The eyes are not on you right now.

We're just here to learn,

All of us.

Together.

So now ask yourself,

What is my intention with this half an hour today?

And if I continue for the next four days,

Also,

What is my intention?

What would I love to bring with me?

Really be open to having big dreams also,

Not just small dreams,

But really being a bit greedy is fine.

Being a bit ambitious is fine as well.

So what's your intention?

And you can put that into a phrase,

Just a single word or an emotion.

Just connect with it.

And then just show slowly,

Open your eyes again,

And if you could help me out with writing that word or that sentence in the comment field so I can tune into what it is that you would love to bring with you with these sessions on what other people think of you.

Confidence.

Thanks,

Kate.

Good morning,

Mari and Jutta.

Clear.

So confidence.

What else,

Guys?

What is it that you want to bring with you from these sessions?

Because full trust in myself,

Inner strength,

Self-esteem.

Hello,

Rosanna.

Good to see you again.

Learn to hear the emotions.

Yes,

Yes,

Yes.

And do share.

The thing is that when we put things out here,

Even though it's in a comment field,

That's quite anonymous.

Trust,

Authenticity,

Self-love.

All right.

Good things.

When we put things out here,

We manifest them.

And when we manifest things,

It's like,

You know,

You already pushed the button in order to,

You know,

Go somewhere.

So peace,

Acceptance,

Heart,

Action,

Focus and action.

Awesome.

Just just keep writing.

OK.

Exactly.

The expectations.

Yes.

Confidence,

Peace,

Resilience,

Self-esteem,

Belief in self.

It's so important that we put things out there.

If you if you if you tend to not being good at writing stuff,

Journaling is awesome.

I really recommend that I journal physically on a pen on my notebook.

I do audio files and I do video.

So so I do all this to keep on,

You know,

Reminding myself what is it that's going on,

Listening to those emotions.

Intuition,

And such among to create self-worth,

Filter emptiness,

Follow flow,

Just be.

OK,

So just as if you just arrived to this session,

This is what we're going to be going to be covering the next five days.

I do recommend you to have pen and paper.

Putting things down in writing is just important.

Getting it out.

All of this were my thoughts,

Like on these five days.

What is it that I want to share with you guys?

Why is this important for me?

So let's start with something which is actually quite important.

We are the ones creating everything.

So what I mean by that is that we are creators of constructions.

Whatever we've experienced through our life,

We've learned how to experience life in certain manners,

Depending on what feelings we were experiencing in this situation,

In this situation and in this one.

And all of that accumulated gives us either a good feeling when we're doing stuff or a not so good feeling or extremely bad feeling.

If you've had traumatizing experiences,

That was what happened to you.

And the trauma is what happened to you inside of you.

So sometimes trauma is not necessarily what happened.

It's more also what didn't happen.

Were the eyes on you loving and caring?

Was there enough attention?

How did you cope with that?

Were you too alone with the emotions?

So I'm using the word trauma in the sense of something that has created a significant change inside of you.

And we're going to be using this stuff as fuel,

As I mentioned,

In order to start challenging these things.

Because I could put on,

You know,

Orange clothing and a batik and I could have a different background.

And you would be thinking stuff about me right away,

Right?

Whatever you would be thinking of me is based on the experiences that you have had in your life.

Just as when you think something of somebody else or have thoughts on their behalf,

It's all based on what we think,

Not what they think.

So let me just also get a sense of how many of you out there are struggling with this theme of what other people think of you.

Let me just know whether yes or no.

Because there are people that actually don't struggle with this.

It's not an issue.

I mean,

What other people think of me,

It's their thing.

And what I think of me,

It's just more important.

And that's a lovely thing.

And I wish that I had that earlier in life.

But it's,

Yeah,

And this stuff,

I mean,

So there's a lot of yeses.

There's a lot of not much from Jada.

So the thing is that we become good at what we practice,

Right?

So when we practice being good at having thoughts of what other people think of us,

We become really good at it.

And what is actually even worse is that it's all magical thinking.

It's stuff that we learned from when we were kids.

You know,

We could imagine all kinds of different things.

Now we grew up and we're still doing the same.

We're having magical thoughts about what other people are thinking about us.

And it's crazy.

And I really love to use humor into this because often it can be very,

You know,

The density of the thoughts.

And it's also tough and hard.

And let's use the humor of also to lift it up.

So what I'm saying here is that we use magical thinking as we did when we were kids.

Now,

When we are adults and we actually think that we can have thoughts on other people's behalf,

Send them back to us,

Feel like crap or feel something which is not nice.

And then we believe it.

Isn't that crazy?

I mean,

It's,

It's,

It's,

Um,

We,

We,

We don't even question it.

I mean,

We,

We're just so accustomed to having thoughts on other people's behalf that we just feel that it's true.

I am not intelligent.

I am too fat.

I am ugly.

Everybody's noticing,

You know,

My nose or everybody's.

We're having all of these thoughts.

So what's important for me in these days is to meditate on it.

So already now I'll give you,

I'll repeat this when we finish this Simon for today.

The homework,

If you want to do it,

Is to write down all the thoughts that you think other people have about you.

Just,

You know,

Go crazy,

Write everything,

Everything,

Just continue either on a pen and paper or on your phone.

Just be writing all the thoughts that you think that other people have about you.

And it might for some of you feel very uncomfortable.

Doing stuff like this,

You know,

Starting to look at you,

Write it down,

All these things that,

That you think that other people think about you.

But let's go back to it's you creating those thoughts.

Unless you've gone over to people and asked them,

Sorry,

I just want to,

I mean,

I'm having these thought about you thinking that I'm not really that attractive.

Is that true?

But none of us do that stuff because it's too scary because what will they think of us?

So it's just a loop.

OK,

So so writing down,

You know,

On your phone or you could be in the,

You know,

Out walking or you could probably have already now meditation.

We can probably actually we can do that meditation where we can reflect on what is it that other people think of us.

OK,

So what I want you to notice when we do this meditation is are you contracting in your nervous system or are you expanding in your nervous system?

Contraction in this,

You know,

Setting it's meditation time because there's few contraction is like the energy pulling together.

There's something that we tell ourselves is dangerous and we need to protect ourselves.

But but my experience is that we misinterpreted.

Contraction means important.

Contraction means time to meditate.

Contraction means this is important to work with so you can liberate yourself.

Not so you can feel smaller,

So you can feel bigger.

So I want to I want to take everything and just turn it upside down.

Because what we think.

Is I mean,

Whether we think that they are thinking something negative about us is just as real as if we are thinking that they are thinking positive of us,

But we don't do that.

We mainly think negative thoughts out of 50000 thoughts in a day.

40000 of them are negative.

By default,

Because our brain has one focus,

Keep us alive physically and psychologically,

Like socially.

It's so important we have two nervous systems.

One is the physical,

One is the emotional.

So it's important that we think of what other people think of us because we need to fit in.

But there's a crazy imbalance in many of us.

So we need to work that in order to like Jada said,

Not that much so so we can regulate that.

So we become a lot more nuanced in our experience of what other people think of us because it is important.

It is important,

But we just need to balance that.

So it doesn't,

You know,

Accumulate a self feeling that's just so bad all the time because as I mentioned,

My travel has been to do that so much that I lost myself.

I didn't know who I was.

I had become somebody who was just pleasing,

Pleasing,

Pleasing all the time,

Smiling all the time,

Giving,

Giving,

Going home.

And there was also a comment about wanting to,

You know,

Get out of that loneliness.

That was me completely empty inside because it was just giving,

Giving,

Giving.

So time is running,

Guys.

I love being here with you.

So let's take the next next meditation and we're going to be rounding off.

OK,

I am going to see if I can maybe step it up to 45 minutes from tomorrow.

But let's see how we can do this.

OK,

Meditation time.

So let's get comfortable remembering that we are here to practice.

We are here to learn.

We are here to get insights and inspire each other,

Inspire ourselves.

I'm going to be practicing open eye meditation,

But please do go ahead and close your eyes if you're most comfortable with that.

Small smile.

And just notice your in-breath.

Noticing that heartbeat.

Our loyal friend,

The heart.

Noticing those relaxed shoulders and body.

And if there is tension,

Just do what you can to let it go in the out-breath.

It can help to take in a couple of deep breaths.

So what I would like for you to do right now is when you choose something for the next thing that I'm going to ask you to do is don't choose anything too heavy.

We're just practicing here,

Taking a small bite of the elephant,

Right?

So what I would like for you to do is to either take an experience that hasn't happened that long ago or something which is further back.

And just it can be in a situation where you had thoughts about what other people thought about you.

It can be certain persons maybe in your family that you contract around that you feel not that good around.

But just continue having that slow,

Calm breathing.

Slowly breathing in.

Slowly breathing out.

A small smile on your lips.

And when looking at this,

You know,

This visualization,

It can be either with work colleagues or somebody who you know will create a contraction in your nervous system.

You having thoughts about what they might be thinking.

Just continue that slow breathing.

Continue those relaxed shoulders,

Relaxed belly.

Small smile on your lips,

Relaxed eyes.

And now just being aware of this contraction that may arise if it's a person that is creating this kind of uncomfortable feeling inside of you.

Just notice what is it that you're telling yourself right now about this person.

What is this person thinking about you?

But just notice what the words are.

Don't go into whether it's true or not.

Calm in breath.

Calm out breath.

Relax shoulders,

Small smile.

And just look at this person.

And accept the contraction,

Accept that there is a part of you that creates thoughts on other people's behalf.

And you will learn more about why you're doing this and what you can do.

But for now,

Just accept that this is what it is.

This is how you are right now.

This is what you do right now.

Don't change that person in front of you.

Don't change their motion.

Just notice it.

Just be with it.

Now just slowly get ready to finish this short meditation practice.

Maybe move those shoulders or stretch if you need to.

So before I say anything,

Just notice what happens when you clench your fists.

If you can just clench your fists.

And then notice what happens with your breathing.

It stops,

Right?

So when we go below the line,

Below the line means that we go into drama.

We go into either victim,

Villain or hero.

I'll get more into this in the next couple of days.

So when we go below the line,

We contract in our nervous system.

We go into victim often when we have this kind of,

You know,

Behavior that we have thoughts on what other people think of us.

We go into the victim part because we fear what the villain,

We make other people villains.

So we fear what they might be thinking of us.

So we create a victim role,

A contraction.

We fear that they will blame us,

That they will try to be right and,

You know,

Put us down.

And we then often either paralyze,

Down here we paralyze,

And up here in the hero role we hero.

So usually when we have a lot of thoughts about what other people think of us,

We place ourselves below them.

We place ourselves down here.

So we are still more animal than homo sapiens because when we feel fear,

Everything is hierarchy.

It can be intellectual hierarchy,

It can be spiritual hierarchy,

It can be physical hierarchy.

So everything is about hierarchy.

So you probably don't have that many thoughts about what children think of you,

Like infants.

And that is because we tend to,

You know,

We tend to mirror ourselves all the time in other people.

And as I mentioned,

It is important that we think about what other people think of us,

But it's the balance,

Right?

So what often happens is that we start feeling as frightened animals that contract.

And then because there's no cognitive,

You know,

We don't know what they might think.

So we create all kinds of thoughts about what they might be thinking because we need to know what to do.

Should we smile?

Should we sit down?

Should we be quiet?

Should we be loud?

What should we do?

Because it all goes back to our emotional age.

So one thing is that for tomorrow,

I'm challenging you for today to do the list of what other people are thinking of me.

Just make that long list and just continue writing either in hand or on your iPad or whatever on your laptop.

That long list of what other people think of me,

Because that is the that is the illusion that we create in order to feel more safe,

In order to have some kind of a control into something that feels uncomfortable.

The other thing that I would love for you to practice is just noticing what happens when you have those thoughts and you continuously have a calm inhalation,

Calm exhalation.

Just notice what happens.

So we have a contraction below the line,

And when we realize that we have a contraction,

We can become aware of what is the story I'm telling myself right now.

What am I telling myself that they are thinking?

Write that down.

Continue the breathing and notice whether you can go above the line where you start becoming more of a creator,

Moving from victim to creator,

Moving from the inner critic to more of a challenger and moving from this pleasing hero into a more coach role.

So those two things for today,

Write down all the stuff that you think that other people might be thinking of you and notice the breathing again and again.

And again,

When you do contract.

So if you're struggling a lot with this,

You probably do it,

You know,

Just whenever you post something.

What will people think if you post a picture or write something?

No,

I can't do that because I'm being visible.

Somebody might write something that will feel uncomfortable and I will feel excluded.

So let me just also warn you in a humoristic sense.

I am going to be challenging you for the next couple of days.

I had this this this client many years ago and she was so afraid to do stuff like anything.

I mean,

And I gave her an exercise which she never accomplished,

But it was enough to think about it when she helped the banana because I challenged her to eat the banana and take the peel and just throw it backwards out on the street.

You can imagine what kind of contraction that would,

You know,

Create inside of you or her,

Right?

And me for that matter as well.

So so but but she realized that she was the one creating all these stories.

Most people don't have any thoughts about you.

I mean,

And if they had,

Then we could only find out by asking them.

So we're going to be working with that brave muscle being brave enough that if we really want to do something about it,

This will need to start regulating finding out what is false and what is true.

Then we can do stuff about it.

Then we can change things.

But I bet you that that one of the things that is the most challenging is for you to show your light.

To be big.

It's like this this speech that Nelson Mandela made.

It's long.

But what really stuck with me is that we're not afraid of our dark.

We are afraid of our light.

We are afraid of doing stuff like this where I'm looking into a camera and knowing that I'm connecting with you.

And I've come you know,

It's been a long road,

But my heart was beating when I had to sit down and do this.

It was beating,

But I've chosen to change it because I have something that I want to share.

My belief is that whatever I can share with can create a positive change in the people in the life of all the people that I meet.

And they they have children.

Many of you have children.

And I also work with children because I know that if what I do now will will create a change in seven generations.

Just like going backwards with our ancestors.

We are,

You know,

In that timeline part of that story.

But what if with this stuff we can change it and we can,

You know,

Create something right now that will have a significance seven generations forward.

That would make me exhale proudly when I die with a big smile on my lips,

Knowing that you guys sitting here were helping me on this path and hopefully me helping you.

So it's not about me.

It's not about you.

It's about the kids that will be here in seven generations.

It's like here we need to put in the work.

Not for us,

But for them.

If you do have kids,

You know,

It's difficult.

You know,

I mean,

When we contract,

We go below the line and our emotional age is young.

It's difficult,

But we have because we haven't practiced everything that we've learned in school is primarily left brain,

Right?

How many of us have learned something about relationships and and emotions and our brain in school?

None of us.

It's crazy.

The systems that we have and what's the most important relationships?

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I do still have,

Let's say,

10 minutes.

If you guys have some questions.

Let me just know if you have some specific questions,

If something was maybe not that clear or you wanted to have,

You know,

Some something else.

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Thank you,

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Let me just know if any of you have any questions.

Please do feel free to ask.

Let me just see.

Eram,

Did you mean this chart,

This one with the drama triangle or then you mean the one with all the different ones?

So let me just know if this was the one that you meant.

Yeah,

The drama triangle.

I'm going to do it in a short version.

I think that we're going to have,

Let's say that tomorrow we'll go more into this one.

So just right now,

What I mentioned that you could practice for tomorrow is that when we go below the line,

We actually we tend to,

Especially if we have many thoughts on what other people think of us,

We tend to go into a victim role.

Victim means that we create,

We're victimized by the circumstances,

Either the inner circumstances or the external circumstances.

So inner could be my own emotion,

Thoughts,

The way of me feeling up or down and our circumstances could be the weather.

It could be my boss.

It could be the coronavirus.

It could be many things.

So we tend to in a victim role to feel exhausted,

Not being able to change anything.

Then usually when we are in a victim role,

We tend to go to the hero role because God forbid that we would stand up and start yelling because what what will people think or be demanding?

So when we do think a lot about what other people think of us,

We tend to go to the hero role and we smile and we help and we say,

Just call me.

I'll be there any time you need help moving.

I'll be there.

But then when we get back home,

We tend to,

You know,

There's nobody there.

It's empty.

And we then hero ourselves so we can hero outwards to other people in order to make us feel good.

But that will only last for minutes,

Maybe an hour.

And then that will be gone because we go down to the victim role again.

And then we will start heroing ourselves.

My primary way of hearing is through sugar candy.

Still working with that food.

Others can be,

You know,

Working or buying stuff or whatever will release that stress for a short period of time.

The villain here is where we then criticize ourselves.

I'm not good enough.

I should have done better.

Why am I not this?

Why am I not that?

All the time that knocking ourselves in the head from other people.

It will be us having thoughts about what they think of us.

And it's not positive thoughts.

It's just us,

You know,

Validating whatever negative thoughts we have about ourselves.

So,

So what I'm asking for you for tomorrow is to write that those things down that might be coming from other villains or not,

Not other villains.

Sorry,

But from people outside of you that you think are having thoughts about you.

Write that down and then also notice when do you contract?

When does the contraction appear and be be very ready to meditate because we're going to be changing this stuff from below the line into something good.

Below the line is not bad.

It's just what it is.

But let's use it in order to create this positive energy,

This positive fuel.

So we can start moving above the line from the victim to the creator,

From the hero to the coach and the villain to the challenger.

So for tomorrow,

Let's meditate more on this stuff.

And as I mentioned,

I mean,

If we want to change something,

We need to do something.

And you're doing something right now.

I just love putting things into action and doing it later today also.

So before this week is over,

I am going to be asking you to go out to one person and to validate whether that thought that you're having on their behalf is true or not.

Is it going to be scary?

Probably.

Is it going to help you?

A bunch.

So listen,

We need to finish off now.

Yeah,

It is very scary.

But listen,

Thanks a lot for being here now.

I'm having these five days on this topic.

It's something that's been very much on my heart all these years understanding what's going on.

I have a bunch of stuff that I want to share with you.

I am recording this also on a separate sound file,

Which is going to go on Inside Timer as well.

If you do have any questions,

Just write me on Inside Timer.

Here to share as much as possible,

But also be inspired by you,

Just like I did on the last live event with a book called How Emotions Are Created.

Really good book.

How Emotions Are Created.

I can remember.

Let me just check what the author was.

I'm just going to find this for you because,

You know,

Working with stuff like this,

It's important that we all the time get inspired and by inspiring ourselves with stuff that can help us on our path.

See if you can see this one.

It's called How Emotions Are Made.

And the author is Lisa Feldman Barrett.

I'm 40 minutes into the book,

But already now it's,

I mean,

Well,

So much good stuff.

So let's also,

Yeah,

Exactly.

I think it was you,

Leslie,

That mentioned this book.

I'm not quite sure.

But what I'm getting at here is please do share and comment field with whatever you think would be inspiring for us.

So I got this from the last live event.

I didn't know about this book.

So thanks a bunch.

So thank you so much and see you guys tomorrow.

And have a great day.

Write down all the thoughts that you think that other people are having about you.

Notice contraction.

Noticing,

Noticing whether the breathing helps you or not.

I bet it does.

Thanks,

Joanna.

Go ahead and do that.

And I'll see you guys tomorrow.

Hope to see as many of you as possible.

Yeah.

Thank you.

Bye bye.

Thanks,

Sandra,

Muri.

Thank you,

Everybody.

Thanks a lot for those donations as well.

And see you guys tomorrow.

Ciao.

So I forgot that was still recording.

That was the end of first day,

Day one.

So many things to share.

So little time.

Or is there?

Because actually I can do this every day,

Right?

So I gained so much from it.

I know from where I come.

It's like I can't really feel it as much as before.

That pain,

That complete believing in low self-esteem and self-confidence.

I can't really feel it that much anymore.

And that's that's the crazy process of this is that I've walked the talk.

I know what is possible.

And I want to share that because I'm afraid that what we will pass on to our kids.

And there's no need to do that.

We can we can work with this,

Create somewhat of a liberation in our lifetime.

But we can definitely do so much that will help them not struggle as much as we have.

So thanks a lot for for being here.

Thanks a lot for participating and practicing with me.

Thank you so much.

Bye bye.