I'm noticing I'm feeling sad.
And the interesting thing about sadness is,
Well,
Like a lot of emotions,
Particularly the big three,
Fear,
Anger,
And sadness,
We're raised to think that we're not supposed to feel that way.
And so I think the first thing when I feel sad is I I think I notice the resistance that I have to being sad,
To feeling sad,
Noticing sadness in the body.
So I notice myself letting go,
Letting go of that resistance.
And when I let go of that resistance,
I actually get some distance from it,
Some distance from the sadness,
Almost like I'm zooming out to really get all the dimensions of it,
All the sides of it,
I guess you could say,
To really feel it for what it is,
Almost like I could hold it in my hand and examine it from the different sides.
And I'm not examining with my mind,
I'm feeling it,
You know,
The different aspects of it.
And the hands that hold,
You know,
The sadness or hold whatever emotion you might be feeling,
When you hold them genuinely,
Those hands are loving hands,
You know,
And I like to think that that's who we really are.
It's not the emotion,
It's the hands that hold them,
Loving hands,
Sacred hands.
And so for me,
I notice sadness kind of in my chest,
Like a tingling feeling,
Maybe a sadness in the face,
Feeling on the face.
Initially there isn't anything to think about,
You know,
What am I sad about or what's going on,
But just to breathe and kind of like a child coming up to you,
You don't talk right away,
You let the child kind of come in and sit first and know that the space is comfortable,
Is sacred,
Safe in a way,
And then there's something to say.
And sadness is the emotion of letting go.
Oftentimes the things that are,
We're letting go of things that we've been holding onto,
And oftentimes the things that we hold on most tightly to are our opinions,
Our ideas,
The things that we think we are or we aren't,
And sadness is the emotion of letting them go.
So that whatever life is wanting to offer to you can fill,
Fill that space that's made.
And I think that these loving hands that hold the emotion,
For me it looks like breathing,
It looks like releasing the emotions,
It looks like letting go of the emotions,
For me it looks like breathing,
It looks like releasing my hold and trying to change it or resist the sadness,
And just to notice it.
And then eventually I can start to examine,
Look at what are the thoughts I'm letting go of.
It's actually a healing emotion,
It's a healing sensation,
Like still waters that soothe,
That heal.
So when you notice sadness,
It's healthy to take some time and be alone with it and make it sacred,
Not making it significant because like weather,
Our emotions come and go,
But it's taking time to honor them as they come through,
Hear their messages,
Know that I am not my sadness,
But sadness is there.
And you can actually fully feel it when you do that,
Not just letting it consume you.
The loving hands that hold it,
The sacred hands that hold it they pour love into you,
They pour sacredness into you,
And you become filled and reintegrated instead of the disintegration that you might have felt when we were resisting sadness.
I think oftentimes when we're feeling something,
Like feeling sad,
We're not even feeling the sadness,
We're more feeling our resistance to it.
We're feeling that I shouldn't be sad,
That's kind of what we're feeling.
It's a healing taking place in the body,
And the body knows,
It knows how to heal.
What there is to do is to relax and let the healing happen.
