Welcome to all parents who have found a way to this meditation.
I am so happy you are here.
The fact that you have found your way to this meditation means that you are ready to think about your role as a parent.
Are you ready to become a more conscious parent?
Have you realized that parenting is a serious task that does not actually come to us naturally,
But it needs reflection and daily learning?
Maybe you are struggling with one or several aspects of your parenting and are looking for some help and advice?
Our children are fascinating little humans with a very special,
Unique soul,
Each individual in their being,
Their talents and their life purpose.
As a parent,
It is our task to guide them in the best possible way on their life's journey.
Parts of this journey are challenging for us parents as well as for our children.
This is where meditation and mindfulness can come as an invaluable tool.
It can give us the strength and the wisdom to deal with challenging situations.
Oftentimes,
Our reaction to our children is based on fear,
Anxiety or anger,
Which again is usually caused by an underlying fear,
Causing conflict and disconnection from our children.
We can learn a few tools through meditation that will teach us to stop and to pause,
To return to the present moment and to connect to the actual feelings that are lying underneath the fear or the anger.
This then allows us to create better,
Deeper connections to our children and to become better parents.
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But for now,
Let's focus on a meditation that will help us connect to our children.
In this meditation,
We will learn to pause.
Pausing before reaction.
Pausing while your child is reacting.
Pausing to analyze feelings and emotion.
Pausing to allow those feelings to appear,
To grow,
To peak and then to subside before we actually react,
Can bring us huge benefits in life and especially in our relationships.
Before you react,
Try to go within and to pause.
Take a few deep breaths and connect with your underlying feelings.
You will eventually be able to react with more compassion and empathy if you allow yourself that pause.
Let's begin.
Find your own safe meditation spot.
It does not matter where,
As long as it is a quiet place where you can feel safe and won't be disturbed for the next 10 minutes or so.
Make yourself comfortable.
You can be sitting,
Lying down or standing,
Whatever feels more comfortable to you.
Uncross your legs and arms,
Your spine is tall and your head and neck are straight.
Either focus your eyes on a spot or object in front of you or you can close your eyes.
Whatever is best for you today.
Go within.
Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth.
In and out.
In and out.
Very good.
Try to breathe all the way deep into your belly and out with an audible sigh.
One more time.
In and out.
I would like you to now go back in your mind to a situation you have had with your child or children that caused you to have a strong emotion.
Remember the beginning of the situation.
What happened that triggered your emotion?
Was it a look?
A word that was said?
A reaction to something you did or said?
What triggered the emotion and which emotion did it trigger?
Did it make you angry?
Fearful?
Worried?
Frustrated?
Go back to that emotion for a moment.
Now go one level deeper and see if there was another emotion underlying that first emotion.
Many emotions are actually triggered by underlying fear.
What was the original deep emotion that was triggered?
Now I invite you to allow that emotion.
See it.
Feel it.
Allow it.
Accept it.
Just watch it.
Try to stay detached from it.
As if you were watching it from the outside.
Watch it with love and maybe even with a little amusement.
Breathe.
When your breathing is calm and your chest is light,
Try to let that emotion go.
Release it into the air.
Let it float away like a cloud in the sky or wave in the ocean.
Watch it as it floats or flows away and bless it on its journey.
Take another deep breath.
In and out.
Now go back to the initial situation with your child or children and take another look at it.
How are you feeling now?
Are you still overwhelmed by emotions or are you now able to stay calm and detached?
Imagine your reaction from this calm,
Slightly detached or maybe even amused state of mind.
What would you say?
How would you react?
What would you do?
Would you be able to react with love and compassion now?
See yourself in that state of love and compassion,
Reacting calmly,
Talking with empathy and kind sincerity.
Breathe.
You're feeling calm and relaxed,
Refreshed and positive.
Slowly start bringing your attention back to your surroundings.
You can hear the sounds around you again.
You become aware of where you are.
You are safe.
You're a good parent.
Smile.
And when you're ready,
Slowly and mindfully open your eyes.
Wow.
Well done.
How was that?
You can use this technique anytime you feel your emotions or reactions overwhelming you,
Threatening you to respond in a way that you might regret afterwards.
Take a few moments.
If you need to,
Remove yourself from the situation for a few minutes.
Go into the bathroom or into your bedroom,
For example.
Do this little routine of just observing and allowing your emotions.
And then you can go back into the situation and react calmly and lovingly.
Thank you for meditating with me today.
I'm Sita and I'm sending you much love and laughter.
You're welcome.
