Welcome to being your true authentic self.
Take a moment to find a space where you can make yourself comfortable.
Perhaps lying on your back in Shavasana or in a comfortable seated position with the small of your back supported.
There has been a lot of talk around the growth mindset and positive thinking in recent years.
This has been a beautiful thing to see,
However this should come with a huge caution sign.
There is a deep danger within fake positivity,
The positivity where we mask our true emotions and put on a facade.
Let's unpack that a little further.
In the yogic world,
This is referred to as spiritual bypassing.
It is the action of suppressing what we truly feel in order to pretend that all is well.
Positive mindsets can only truly be cultivated when we have dug deep into our own subconscious mind,
Scooped up all that we have suppressed and start to face it.
Telling someone to just change your thinking can be destructive.
When we suppress what we are truly feeling,
Not only are we invalidating our true emotions,
We are also allowing them to become triggers for us in our relationships with others and in our relationship with ourself.
They become our judgments,
Our insecurities,
Our expectations and our suffering.
Whether we are consciously aware of it or not.
Healing isn't a linear practice.
It's not always pretty.
Healing is confronting and it can get ugly,
Dark,
Can be scary.
But that's the point of it all.
If we suppress these parts of ourselves,
How on earth are we going to learn and grow from these experiences?
The same lessons will keep reoccurring because we are not learning.
We will be faced with similar experiences because we are not learning.
We will fall into that habit of asking,
Why me?
Not this again.
By not facing these emotions that we feel and masking them with things like just be positive,
We become emotionally stunted,
Disconnected and add to that bag of suppressed emotions,
Experiences,
Fears,
Feelings and traumas we are carrying around.
The positive vibes agenda can work,
But it can only work if you are true to what you are really feeling and experiencing.
Once you face whatever it is you are suppressing,
Sit with it,
Unpack it,
Learn from it and then be grateful for it through the positives that have come from the lesson that the darkness has taught you.
Next time you feel uncomfortable or unpleasant,
Next time these emotions arise,
Sit with them,
Don't mask them.
Let it surface and take notice of how your body is responding,
How your heart changes pace,
The thoughts that come along with it.
When you recognise these feelings that arise,
You connect with the most important person in your life,
You.
The process of feeling isn't easy,
But it is rewarding in a sense of being true to you,
To your growth and your journey.
Just like everything in life,
It has a beginning and an ending.
No one believe that it will pass,
Nothing is permanent.
Own your power through owning your feelings.
No body can make you feel a certain way.
What happens is we get triggered by other people's actions and words because it brings up discomfort within us,
But we ourselves are the source of that discomfort,
Not others.
Blaming someone else is like sitting in the victim chair so we don't have to face that we ourselves have control and power over how we feel.
The blame game is one of self-destruction.
There are so many published authors,
Inspirational speakers and the like out there who push the positive vibes tribe,
Who only post what they want you to see,
Who only show you the parts of their life that they want to share.
But if we took a deeper look within,
We would find that they too have demons that they're battling with and many of them aren't happy at all.
It's easy to put on a facade,
Much easier than being true to you,
But in the long run it will leave you living in a life that's not yours,
A life that's not authentic and a life that's filled with the war with yourself.
Facing yourself truly is the first step to your growth and we're going to do that right now.
Take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale out of the mouth.
Close down your eyes.
Gently bring your left hand to your heart space,
Your right hand on your belly.
Begin to notice the breath and how the breath feels for you with every inhale and every exhale.
Inhale,
Exhale,
Inhale,
Exhale,
Inhale and hold your breath.
Exhale,
Exhale,
Exhale,
Release.
Bring your awareness to your heart space.
Notice what you're feeling.
Notice what comes up for you.
Whatever it is,
Just sit with that emotion.
Allow yourself to truly feel whatever it is that you feel without judgment,
Anger,
Joy,
Happiness,
Excitement,
Pain,
Whatever it is that you are feeling.
Explore that feeling.
Start to notice how your body is responding to this feeling,
How your heart is changing its pace,
The thoughts that tie into this feeling and your breath,
Is it shallow or is it deep?
Recognize how this feeling comes up in physical form for your body.
Acknowledge it,
Acknowledge its presence.
As you take a deep breath in through your nose,
Filling up the belly,
Exhale out of the mouth,
Release completely.
Take a moment now to contemplate how can this feeling be a positive driving force for you in your life.
Wherever this feeling has stemmed from,
What is the lesson connected to this feeling?
How can you create passion from this feeling,
Passion for change,
For development,
For moving forward?
Very gently start to reconnect with your breath,
Becoming aware of the inhale and the exhale.
And become aware of your body wriggling your fingers and your toes.
Gently opening your eyes and becoming aware of your surroundings,
The space around you.
Bringing yourself back to the lesson from your true feelings and carrying that with you for the rest of your day,
Your month,
Your life.
Until next time,
Namaste.
