Free Tears & Fears & Clear the Mind (Meditational Talk)

We will start very soon.

Just making sure that you're ready for the transmission,

Letting go of any thoughts or any feelings or any worries or any sort of thoughts that may distract you from being present to this moment.

And today I thought to share with you this meditation that helps you to get unstuck.

It's a meditation that helps you to focus your creative energy where it counts,

Rather than being lost in mind thoughts or mind stories.

This meditation will help you focus and it uses,

This meditation uses many of the latest neuroscientific ways of helping focus to remain focused.

Helping your focus to be strong and helping your focus to be more present to this moment rather than what is normal for most people,

Especially when stressed or anxious,

To get caught in the flow of thinking.

And the thoughts that come and go,

The reactive thoughts,

The thoughts,

Upset thoughts or angry thoughts or irritated thoughts that then create a whole new scenario.

So this meditation is to help get unstuck from those scenarios.

And how we start with this meditation is very important.

So we start by creating a focus on what you sense as the problem,

What you imagine or what you believe to be the problem.

It's important to relax the body so that there is no other focus.

It's just this.

So you're not focused upon the stress or the constriction or the tension that may be in the body.

You're not focused on the constriction or the tension or the upsetness that may be in the emotional body,

But rather you are allowing this problem to help you create a sense of the situation.

And you can place this understanding or this awareness in a part of your body and hold it there and know it there.

When you do this,

What you're doing is actually allowing yourself to discover valuable information about what is really going on.

What is really the want?

What is really the need?

What is really the energy that sustains this perspective of a problem?

So it's important that if you begin to do this,

That you realize if there is any discomfort or if there is any tension,

Mental,

Emotional or physical tension,

That you take a few moments to settle and comfortably relax into a space that is more receptive and more open.

You can keep coming back to this place inside of yourself,

In this part of your body,

And you can ask yourself,

What is happening right now in this moment?

So you're questioning the feeling or you're questioning the perspective that you now have identified as belonging to a part of your body.

So maybe your heart,

Maybe your solar plexus,

Maybe your throat area,

Some part that gives you information,

More deep and profound information about the sense that you connect to that problem,

The problem that doesn't make sense to you sometimes.

So you're not looking for an intense emotion or you're not looking for that reactive,

Intense type of emotion that very often takes us away from sensing or being aware of what is going on.

Rather we're just checking in to see where in the body and what in the body is communicating to us.

You might not feel quite right or you might find that going to that part of your body is difficult because you can't really stay there,

You keep getting caught in intense emotions or sometimes subtle and elusive emotions.

So like the thought,

The story that's in your mind that keeps repeating a certain theme deep inside.

For example the theme I'm not good enough or everything out there is the problem and this is why I'm a victim.

The theme can be subtle and elusive so it doesn't mean that we understand it,

Oh I'm doing this again,

I understand totally what's happening,

But rather it's in the background feeding this space.

So it's very important to keep coming back to the body because you're not really trying to connect to that feeling or any feeling,

You're trying to connect to body knowing,

The body knowing.

So it's a wisdom and that requires focus rather than moving from one thing to another and that's what a mind does when reacting to different situations and putting everything in a box that is influenced by a feeling or influenced by a tension in the body or influenced by a mental landscape that then is either negative or very lost in situations that don't make sense and that's how we then perceive the feeling.

We're not doing this,

We're coming back to the body.

So be open to whatever comes up and then when it comes up,

The information,

The wisdom,

Set it aside and ask the question again,

Ask the question does this make true sense or is it just a reaction?

Is this a feeling,

An intense feeling or is it a heartfelt connection to the situation?

Is this really how I feel?

Not quite right maybe or stressed or anxious or angry or irritated or is this feeling just covering up another more profound aspect that doesn't make sense to me so it's easier to connect to the reactive feeling on the surface?

Because very often those feelings that we have don't really speak our truth,

Those feelings are just feelings in reaction to situations.

So go a little bit deeper,

The body wisdom allows you to do this.

Set aside things for a moment so that you really give yourself this space to look at whatever the situation is from a neutral perspective.

There are a few things you can do in this meditation that will help this happen more easily.

First step is to breathe in and to make sure that the breath connects you to your body.

So this means rather than shallow breathing,

You're breathing deep down into the abdomen,

Deep down into the diaphragm.

You're breathing into the body so that the body connects to you in a more profound and more meaningful way.

And as you do this,

It's natural to relax,

It's natural to open up and it's natural to set aside any thoughts,

An analysis that happens because of those thoughts when we're trying to make sense of the thoughts that you may have in this moment or that you may have had in the past that may make you understand the situation or sense the situation as one thing,

But maybe it's totally entirely different.

So set aside the thoughts and the analysis of those thoughts and just go inside a little bit deeper.

This is the first step,

To go inside a little bit deeper.

After you breathe in that deep and profound way,

Your awareness and your mindfulness moves from the surface,

From the volatile emotional surface that very often is projected onto the outside and you move deeper inside.

So you allow basically,

In an esoteric way,

You allow some space around that disharmony that may be difficult to comprehend.

So you're not feeding the emotions or feeding the reactions to those emotions or the thoughts or the reactions to those thoughts,

But rather you're going deeper inside and you're creating space around whatever it is that's creating disturbance,

Whatever it is that's creating the wound,

Whatever it is that is creating the pain or the suffering.

You're giving space so you're not reacting to it,

But rather you're detaching from it.

So giving space doesn't mean that you ignore it,

But you just allow for the wisdom of your body to communicate to you in a different language than thoughts and feelings,

Negative thoughts or volatile feelings.

It's very powerful when you comprehend how to do this and it's quite easy when you get back in touch with your body.

So do make sure that you're in touch with your body.

And then as you breathe deeply and as you create space around the pain or the suffering,

Then it's very natural to ask yourself not to jump to conclusions because this is what the mind wants to do.

Very often because of the volatile emotional understanding of the situation or because of the negative thoughts around the situation,

Our conclusion is far removed from reality,

Far removed.

So we ask ourselves from deep within this wisdom,

The body connection that you are now embracing as you breathe more deeply and as we give more space,

Inner space to whatever it is that's creating confusion or pain or suffering,

Then we can ask ourselves not to jump to any conclusions.

And the way we do this is to allow the silence to emerge within that space,

Allow the stillness to emerge within that space.

So rather than the mind story or the mind noise,

Mind chatter that happens when we're caught in a volatile emotional state or caught in a negative mental state,

We're doing the opposite.

We're allowing for silence to embrace the spaciousness,

The spaciousness that now you're focusing upon rather than being caught by whatever it is that seems to be causing unhappiness.

So you might find that when you do this,

You get different information,

Even different information from your mind and from your feelings than that which you expected.

And you will know that your body is communicating through your mind or through your feelings,

But in essence it's your body allowing for this communication to happen because the silence won't be disturbed,

The stillness won't be disturbed.

There will be no volatility,

There will be no tension,

There will be no reaction to anything,

But there will be just confidence,

A sense of awareness that grows out of this still space.

And it will almost be like the information that you connect to,

That information will be very different than the usual information which is projecting your pain and suffering onto the outer circumstances of your life.

So people or situations or pain or suffering because of people and situations,

You will actually come back to the wisdom within yourself rather than get caught in those projections.

That is what silence does.

Silence allows for the body to speak.

So then this leads to the next very important stage of your meditation,

Which is that you're not trying to understand anything.

See,

When the mind is caught in a volatile mental state or an emotional state and trying to understand that emotional state,

Then you try to understand everything in you.

A lot of your statements and your belief systems then help you to sort of fall into that trap where you're trying to understand everything.

Why me?

Why am I like this?

Why is the world like whatever?

And we try to understand it.

Rather than understanding,

We come back to a sort of awareness that connects to a gentle curiosity.

An awareness,

Because we are present to the moment rather than hopping into the future or falling back into the past.

We are in the present moment.

And in the present moment,

There is simply awareness.

And the gentle curiosity is that focus that begins to manifest as a positive trait within your thinking,

Within your feeling.

Curiosity is a very important aspect of transformation.

So it's almost as if that curiosity is not coming to conclusions,

Ah,

That's the reason or oh,

That's the problem,

But rather waiting for a deeper knowing to reveal itself.

So you're not trying to understand anything.

You're simply allowing the sense,

This space that within your body that you're connecting to that you began visualizing as the space where the problem connects to,

That space is now spacious.

But from that sense,

From that spaciousness,

You will find that certain images and sometimes words and feelings emerge from it that create an awareness of the situation that expands beyond projection or blaming or feeling sorry or feeling like a victim about the situation.

So it's important maybe at this point to write down the words or the feelings and connect to with this felt sense in your body and ask,

Is this right or do I need to just create more silence so that I can go deeper?

Does it really fit into the situation?

Does it really make sense in this situation?

And you don't need to ask yourself in a mental way about these things.

You simply just write them down.

You write them down and this is the point at which you later on after the meditation you begin to look at this.

Can I go deeper?

Relaxing inside.

If you notice that you're relaxing inside in an automatic way as you breathe in and that you're sort of sighing,

There is a sigh of relief as you let go or warmth or a tingling sensation then this is a felt sense.

This is a sense that your body is communicating to you and wait within that space because that is what feels right.

Wait within that space and ask your body,

Not your mind,

Not your feelings,

But your body for more information.

That intention,

That positive intention,

The curiosity that I spoke of a little earlier,

That will allow for that information to slowly,

Slowly communicate to you from within the body sense.

It's a wonderful thing because then what you're doing is that you're open and receptive and that is what meditation is all about,

Being open and receptive.

So rather than reacting or coming to conclusions,

You're allowing yourself to receive an answer that feels,

Is,

Your senses understand that it is right.

And it comes within a space of silence.

This information comes for a few moments sometimes and your body responds to this information as if,

Ah,

I understand.

There is a sigh of relief,

There is a relaxation.

You shift.

You shift from this reactive space to this wonderfully receptive space.

You may even experience a release of energy or some noticeable change in your body,

Maybe a warmth or a tingling or a sensation that just speaks from within your body,

Speaks in a language that you sense.

You know,

Like when you breathe out,

You just sense,

Ah,

That's nice,

I've let that go.

That sort of intelligence,

Body intelligence,

Which the mind finds very difficult to understand will begin to communicate to you more strongly.

So all this has to do with focusing and as you focus and you stop obsessing or being very intensely attached or caught by the mind or by the feelings,

Then what you're doing is playing with the situation.

You're enjoying the situation.

This is what allows for curiosity to open the mind to a resolution because what you look at is learning from the situation rather than reacting and coming to a conclusion about the situation.

You're open to learning.

That is another vital aspect of meditation,

Curiosity and learning,

Honoring the learning.

So if you decide to set your thoughts or your feelings or whatever reactions aside and pay attention to your inner felt sense,

Then this learning is very easy.

This learning is just a natural space that happens.

You don't need to say,

I need to learn about this pain,

I need to learn about this suffering.

It just happens because the body speaks to you through the body.

When you're turned inward,

It speaks to you also through your heart.

So learning is a heartfelt experience.

It's not a mental experience.

So many people today speak about meditation and speak about spirituality and positivity but really are not connected to their hearts.

They are totally lost.

So it's very important to feel the sense,

This body sense localized within your heart and that your heart is speaking your truth.

It's speaking in a tone of voice that is full of love,

Full of silence,

Full of stillness,

Full of this awareness that allows you to expand into this felt sense,

This body sense where you realize that really in the end the problem is not a major problem.

The problem has just been triggered because of specific feelings perhaps or specific thoughts.

So when we begin to learn more about ourselves and our feelings and thoughts,

This allows for self growth.

What a wonderful thing to be open from a heartfelt space to the inner growth that is part of humanity's privilege to now in today's world especially to embrace from a real truthful space.

So it's not about doing anything.

It's not about getting caught up in anything.

It's about not doing.

It's about being detached so that what you really love,

What is really important inside brings you this awareness that you are part of life.

You are part of something greater and this realization allows you to shift and release whatever doesn't allow you to be in alignment with this wonderful space of connection.

Sometimes there are tears,

Sometimes tears of recognition,

Sometimes tears of letting go,

Sometimes there is sadness,

Sometimes there is sadness of just being aware that this is how things are.

You can work with all aspects of your mind in a positive way.

Inner work is not about pushing yourself or getting caught in whatever the mind background noise is all about but it's about connecting the mind to a positive within you.

The positive is this wisdom that you can embrace from within this heartfelt space.

So that in the end the problem is actually just a gift.

When we embrace the gift from this positive perspective then everything is much easier and we just find ourselves naturally unstuck.

So as you breathe in and breathe out and let go of the tension,

Let go of those thoughts that may be holding you back or those feelings that may be holding you back,

Just come back to the stillness.

Allow for the breath to flow,

Allow for the breath to flow in such a way that you are connected to an inner movement that is not rigid,

It's not angry,

It's not distorted by thoughts or feelings but just a natural rhythm like your breath that connects you to life.

Deep breath.

Breathing in and breathing out.

Breathing in,

Deeply and breathing out.

And you may wish to continue meditation in stillness for a few more moments.

Thank you.