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Turning Tenderly Toward Grief In The Wake Of Violence

by Barbara Gibson

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guided
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Meditation
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Slow down and take time to bring gentle awareness to the heaviness you are carrying - grief, sorrow, anger, confusion, overwhelm...This is your time to care for and be with whatever is arising. Know that all your feelings belong and deserve your care. Know too that you are not alone. Your grief makes sense and there are caring people in our community who share your grief as well as the desire that all people be safe and free from suffering. May it be so. May you have deep peace and ease.

GriefSelf CompassionRelaxationBreathingNervous SystemCommunity SupportSelf TrustBody AwarenessBody Check InBody PositionShoulder RelaxationJaw RelaxationChest OpeningExtended ExhaleNervous System SoothingGrief AcknowledgmentHand Over HeartCommunity Support VisualizationCourage InhalationGrief Releasing ExhalationBreath CountingGrief Placement Visualization

Transcript

Welcome to your practice.

As we begin,

I invite you to settle.

Really check in with your body,

Asking your body what it needs in this moment.

Give yourself permission to move and settle into whatever position feels right and comfortable in your body today.

And yes,

It is okay to slow down and to invite your body to soften,

To let go and surrender,

Even just for a few moments.

Yes,

It's okay to give yourself this time.

And it's also okay if you aren't ready yet,

But know the invitation to loosen your shoulders,

Your brow,

Your belly is there for you whenever you are ready.

And maybe then you can give your weight over to the bed,

The chair or the floor,

Just letting go of all that you're holding,

Putting it down for just a moment.

And if it feels right,

Go ahead and close your eyes or maybe just soften your gaze.

You can also keep your eyes open because this is your time and your practice.

You get to choose.

By letting the attention come back to the body,

Maybe let your attention rest on your breath.

See if you can slow and deepen your pace,

Maybe even extend your exhale,

Letting each one be longer than your inhale.

And this is important because extending the exhale can calm and soothe your nervous system,

Giving you a few moments of much needed ease,

A moment to settle.

Take slow,

Deep breaths in through your nose and exhale completely through your mouth,

Maybe even letting a sigh escape your lips.

Let your breath fall into a steady,

Natural rhythm,

No rush or hurry,

Just finding what feels right for you today.

And now grounding into the body,

I invite you to notice the weight of your body by whatever surface is supporting you.

So maybe you're seated or you're lying down,

You're on the floor,

Maybe you're in your car,

But notice that you are being supported.

You don't have to hold your body up.

Feel the support beneath you and allow yourself to be held by this moment,

Knowing that you do not have to carry everything right now,

You can let go.

With each breath,

Imagine tension leaving your body,

Shoulder softening,

Jaw loosening,

The tightness in your chest opening,

Spaciousness.

And maybe grief is coming up,

It's okay to acknowledge it.

Bring gentle awareness to the heaviness you're carrying,

The grief,

Sorrow,

Anger,

Overwhelm,

Fatigue,

Whatever you're holding.

Know that these feelings are not signs of weakness,

They're normal human experiences.

We all feel that way sometimes.

And your feelings are signs that you care deeply,

That the work you do matters.

And as you breathe,

Silently say to yourself,

It is human to grieve,

It is human to feel.

My feelings are human and they deserve to be acknowledged and cared for.

And I know how to show up for myself and all of my feelings.

I'm here for you.

And you're here for me.

Let this truth settle in your heart.

Maybe even placing a hand over your heart or your belly,

Wherever you feel the weight most strongly.

And with each inhale,

Imagine drawing in calm,

Steady strength.

Because it's in you.

Call it forth.

And with each exhale,

Release just a little bit of the heaviness you're carrying.

You don't need to let it all go,

Not all at once.

Just as you're ready.

Remembering to be gentle and patient with yourself.

And if images or names or moments come to mind,

Bad memories,

Acknowledge it with compassion,

This is hard.

Maybe even saying I'm having a hard time right now,

This is painful.

And offer a silent blessing.

May I be at peace.

Letting yourself return to the breath.

And as we move toward closing,

I invite you to picture yourself surrounded by a circle of light,

Or maybe by your community of colleagues,

People who understand and share your journey.

Letting yourself feel their support.

Remembering you are not alone in this work,

Even when it feels overwhelming.

You belong to a community of people who care and who,

Like you,

Want all people to be happy and free from the suffering of violence.

The work we are doing matters,

And you matter.

With each breath,

Allow this circle of strength to steady you.

Maybe as you inhale,

Think courage.

We are stronger together.

And as you exhale,

Think releasing grief.

We are holding it together.

And if it feels right,

I invite you to take three slow,

Deep breaths.

Letting the belly rise.

And letting the belly fall as you inhale.

Exhaling completely.

And do that two more times,

Maybe even inhaling for the count of four and exhaling for the count of eight.

Your count,

Your pace.

Noticing if there are any shifts or changes in the body as you tend to the experience of breathing.

And on the final exhale,

Imagine placing your grief gently on the ground.

Not discarding it.

Grief makes sense here.

But just setting it down for a while.

Laying down a burden.

And when you're ready,

Wiggle your fingers and toes.

If your eyes were closed,

Gently open them or lift your gaze.

And carry this with you.

You are allowed to rest.

You are allowed to feel all your feelings,

Even the ones that hurt.

They need your attention and care.

And you can trust yourself to care for all your feelings,

To show up for yourself in all that arises.

And you can also trust others who understand to hold your grief with you.

You are not alone.

May you be happy.

May you be healthy.

May you be safe and free from harm.

And may you have deep peace and ease.

Meet your Teacher

Barbara GibsonDecatur, GA

5.0 (41)

Recent Reviews

Kathy

September 23, 2025

Beautiful calm slow meditation… fed me deeply… thank you🙏

Robert

September 21, 2025

Thank you so much Barbara. Ive been having struggles with complicated grief over time and am in therapy. I find this beautiful tract to be so calming and extremely poignant for where I am today. Your voice is very soothing as is the breathing and and bringing to our awareness of our feelings and embracing them and letting them exist rather than suppress or deny them. This is just what I needed today and so complements my journey of awakening. God bless you!💛🙏

Diane

September 16, 2025

This was such a meaningful practice for those of us living in such perilous times. Thank you for providing a safe space to acknowledge and express our feelings. Your voice has always been soothing and I appreciate you so much.

Peggy

September 11, 2025

So timely and POWERFUL!! Thank you for this incredible acknowledgement of our grief and HOPE! 🇺🇸✊🏽

Hope

September 10, 2025

Thank you your gentle guidance Barbara Sometimes grief can be quietly hidden deep within and this meditation offers the stones and space for it to emerge and be seen Love and blessings to you

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