You recognize this is a tough moment.
Give yourself some spaciousness and pause.
Just pause where you are.
Try to be with what is in this moment without wishing it different than what the reality of this moment is.
Take a long full breath in and exhale slowly.
Feel the breath that as arises and falls away.
Do this once or twice more or as many times as you need.
Connect with your body.
Feel the ground,
The floor beneath your feet.
Next,
Place one or both hands at your heart center or a place where you need a tender touch or compassion.
If you were in a positive state,
If you were in a public place and don't feel comfortable adding the soothing touch,
Send the breath to this space or spaces.
Feel the light pressure of your hand offering you both comfort and keeping you present in this moment.
Feel the breath.
Send it to where you are feeling any tension.
You may feel like you want to scream,
Yell,
Or react briskly to make things different.
Instead,
Try being with this moment.
Let's face it,
How we react will shape our child's future behavior and raising your voice may escalate the situation.
You can continue in this way feeling the breath along with the soothing touch.
You can also add a phrase or phrases to the practice.
Your hand can remain where it is or you can release it.
Shift your awareness from feeling the breath to silently reciting the phrases to extend kindness and compassion to yourself and your child or children.
You can repeat just one phrase or try two.
You might like one of these phrases.
May I accept things just as they are.
Another phrase is,
May I accept myself just as I am.
Another choice could be,
May I be kind to myself in this moment.
And lastly,
May I remain peaceful and let go of expectations.
Feel the meaning behind each phrase.
This can create even more spaciousness.
You may find that with connecting to the breath,
Adding the soothing touch and silently repeating one or more phrases that you may be able to be steady and ready in this moment instead of pushing it away.
Allowing ease and groundedness to arise.
Thank you for your practice.
