Hello,
Hello,
Beloved friend,
And welcome to this Real Talk meditation on heartache and grief.
Let me begin by saying I am so sorry that you had to click on this meditation,
But I am also very grateful that you're here.
I'd like you to begin seated or laying down comfortably and just allowing your body to relax,
To soften.
Grief can be caused by many things.
It can be a heartache from heartbreak,
The end of a relationship,
The passing of a loved one,
From moving into a new phase of life.
It could even be from moving along further on your spiritual development journey.
There are so many ways that we can end up with this feeling of grief and heartache,
And it is my belief that a core way that we can move through this grief is through connection.
Yes,
Connection with others is so important,
And I really want to encourage you,
Maybe after this meditation,
To reach out to your support team.
Maybe let them know what's going on,
Or even if you don't want to share what's happening,
Just let them know that you need support and what kind of support would be good for you.
It's also important to connect to yourself,
So that's what we're going to focus on today.
So let's center ourselves.
We're going to take three deep breaths.
We'll inhale through the nose,
Sending this fresh breath down into the belly,
And let's let it out with a big sigh,
Coming into the body.
Second breath,
Into the nose,
Down into the belly,
Maybe a little bit deeper,
Allowing mental tension to be released,
And on our third breath,
Deep inhale,
Nice and slow,
Bringing yourself fully into the present moment,
Feeling the support below you,
Be it a chair,
The floor,
The earth,
Rising up to support you,
And allowing yourself to feel this support,
Allowing the muscles in your body,
Allowing the mental chatter in your mind to slowly fade away,
And I'll invite you to place your hand,
Or both hands,
On your heart.
Continue slow,
Deep breathing,
And if it feels good,
Turn inward to face this grief.
You can keep your hands on top of your heart,
Or maybe wrap them around yourself in a big hug,
Because this probably really sucks.
This feeling is not great,
But it's here,
And even if there is an amazing life lesson out of this,
Wow,
It can be really painful.
Exhale out the mouth.
Let that go.
Feelings are coming up.
Let them come up.
Crying is totally okay.
I highly encourage it.
So when these feelings come up,
Don't try to push them down.
Don't say,
No,
No,
I have to be strong,
Say,
You know what,
Yeah,
This is so hard,
And I need a release,
Or maybe it's in your throat.
Maybe you need a good scream.
That may or may not be appropriate for your situation right now,
Depending on your environment.
So please,
Let yourself feel the freedom,
Wherever it is in your body.
If you are not really feeling anything,
You just have this deep ache in your heart,
Pain,
Sadness,
And as you search around into your body,
Into what feels good,
You're not really finding anything else.
That's okay.
Sometimes we numb out certain parts of ourselves for protection.
I'm going to invite you to just sit,
Holding yourself,
And maybe as we look into this grief,
We can say,
I see you,
I face you,
And I accept you,
And this isn't easy.
In fact,
It feels really hard,
But I know that there are smiles in my future.
I know that I will have deep belly laughs again.
I know that it is possible for this pain to heal,
To heal,
For my heart to feel love again,
To feel joy,
To feel connected to myself,
Mind,
Body,
And spirit,
And to others,
That my relationships,
My environment can be beautiful and healthy and supportive and safe,
And I am worthy of all those things.
I am deserving,
No matter what anyone else says,
Even those little voices that really have no business being in your head because you know what,
They were probably planted there by someone else.
I am amazing,
And my heart is strong and resilient,
And what I'm going through right now isn't easy,
So I'm going to breathe,
And you can come back to your breath any time this pain comes up,
Whether or not there's tears or screaming,
Or if there's just this empty ache,
Come back to the breath.
Notice where it is in your body,
If it's shallow,
If it's in the chest,
The belly,
And then breathe intentionally,
Inhaling through the nose,
Letting it out the mouth,
Ah,
Big sigh out,
Trying to fill your whole body with your inhale so that your breath extends all the way down to the tips of your fingers and toes,
The top of your head,
And when you feel your muscles beginning to relax,
When you feel the mind become just a little bit calmer,
Bring your breath into your heart space,
Whether it's in that big hug,
Or your hands on top of your heart,
Breathe into that heart space,
Breathe into the pain,
Breathe out the pain,
Breathe out from the heart space.
Whatever you're going through,
Whatever this feeling is,
Will pass,
And I'm not saying it'll happen quickly,
Or it'll be easy,
And I'm not even going to say that it's going to get better soon,
But it will pass.
Your heart has the complete ability to heal,
And you can have a beautiful life full of joy,
And when you're feeling that,
Your joy can expand and touch others,
But that might be a little hard to imagine right now,
So I'd like for you to stay with your breath,
So I'd like for you to stay with your breath,
Stay holding yourself,
Stay connected to your heart,
As long as feels good to you,
And know that you can always come back to the breath,
You can always come back to give yourself a nice embrace,
Even if it's not with your arms,
You can mentally just imagine yourself being held.
Deep exhale out.
Again,
I want to encourage you to reach out,
Express your feelings to someone,
Let them know what you need.
Maybe it's just someone to sit with you,
Maybe it's,
I'm going to go on a walk,
This is where I'm going,
Just so someone knows where you are,
And that you're safe.
I love you,
And you are so worthy,
And whatever's going on,
I hope it passes soon,
And I hope that this pain fades away,
And heals over,
So you can return to your beautiful self that is radiant,
And this will be another piece of your story,
And an amazing life that you lead.
You are amazing,
Just the way you are.
Grief and all.
May you be ever so gentle with yourself during this period.
Thank you for joining me.
Have a wonderful day.
