Hello,
I am Gabriella and this is another talk as part of the relationship series on Insight Timer.
This particular topic today is about attachment and safety.
Diving into the nervous system of love.
Welcome.
I'm so glad you're here for this exploration of attachment,
Safety and the nervous system of love.
Wherever you are,
Take a moment to settle comfortably.
Let your body find a position that feels supported,
Either sitting or lying down.
Allow your eyes to soften or gently close.
Let's begin with a single,
Easeful breath.
Inhale through the nose and slowly release through the mouth.
Let the exhale be a small letting go.
Before we go into practice,
Let's frame why this matters.
Every relationship we've ever had with parents,
Partners,
Friends,
Leaves imprints on our nervous system.
These imprints shape how safe or unsafe connection feels.
They influence how quickly we trust,
How deeply we soften,
How much of ourselves we allow to be seen.
Our attachment patterns aren't flaws.
They're adaptive responses formed in moments when our nervous system was doing its best to protect us.
And the beautiful thing is the nervous system can learn,
It can update and it can heal.
Safety in love isn't just a concept,
It's a felt experience created moment by moment through breath,
Body and awareness.
We're going to do a practice together.
Very gently let the head and neck turn to one side then the other.
No forcing,
Just looking around the room in slow motion as you safely and gently turn your head and neck from one side to the other.
Let your eyes land on a few things that feel neutral or pleasant.
This simple act orienting signals to the nervous system,
Right now in this moment I am safe.
Take a breath here.
Let your belly relax a little more on the exhale.
Embracing the start of practice two,
Placing one hand on the centre of your chest and the other on the side of your ribs.
On your next inhale imagine expanding into both hands,
Front and side.
And as you exhale let the shoulders drop slightly,
The mouth soften.
Continue breathing like this,
Soft,
Spacious,
Unhurried.
This particular breath pattern calms the protective layers around the heart and invites the body into a state of openness,
A place where connection feels possible.
Now bring your attention to the point where your body meets the surface beneath you,
Your seat,
Your sitting bones,
Your back,
Your feet.
Feel that support holding you.
On your inhale silently say to yourself,
Yes.
A yes to your experience,
A yes to being here.
On your exhale silently say,
I'm here.
Yes,
I'm here.
This simple phrase anchors you into secure presence,
The foundation of safe relating with yourself and others.
In relationships safety isn't about perfection,
It's about repair,
Attunement and returning to presence.
When your system feels safe,
Your breath loosens,
Your chest opens,
Your voice softens and you become more available to give and receive love.
And when you feel activated or shut down that's not failure,
It's simply your body asking for attention,
Asking for care,
Asking to come home.
Practices like the ones we have tried really help with that return.
Taking one more gentle breath in and a long,
Slow,
Soft breath out.
Noticing how your body feels now,
Notice what has shifted even if slightly.
You carry within you the wisdom to create safety,
Not by suppressing your reactions but by tending to your nervous system with presence,
Compassion and the breath.
This is the nervous system of love,
Not dramatic,
Not forced but steady,
Responsive and alive.
Thank you for taking this time to reconnect.
And when you're ready,
Slowly blink your eyes open,
Bringing this sense of grounded presence with you into your relationships and into your day.
