Asking For Help

Hello and welcome to the session.

I invite you to take a seat,

Lay down and get yourself comfortable.

Close down the eyes if you wish and take three deep slow breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth.

And while you're taking those breaths,

Just invite your body to completely and totally relax,

To unclench your jaw,

To drop your shoulders,

To let go of any tension you're holding in your back,

Your belly,

In your legs,

In your head.

Just invite your body to let go,

To open up,

To be free.

I just want you to draw your attention to the feelings you can feel.

Maybe you can feel the ground underneath your feet,

Your back,

The sensation of the clothes upon your skin.

Notice the temperature of the room.

Just become aware of the sounds you can hear and the colors you can see behind your closed eyes or in the room.

Take another deep slow breath in through the nose and out through the mouth.

And just begin the process of opening yourself up to the question,

To the wisdom of the past,

Of your ancestors,

Of your intuition,

Of God,

The Muse of universal energy,

Of whatever higher or deeper force you believe in.

For the next few minutes,

Sit in a space of open acceptance,

Welcoming in possibility and potential,

Being open to considering something new,

To change,

Adopting a optimistic,

Positive and contemplative outlook.

Soon I'll repeat a question two times and we're just going to sit with that question and let it unfold in our mind and observe those unfoldings with a curiosity and openness to potential,

To possibility,

To growth.

Am I able to ask for and accept the help I need?

Am I able to ask for and accept the help I need?

This question immediately brings us to the concept of self-awareness and ego.

So we're going to talk about those in turn.

It may be hard for us to even know what help we need,

Because to know what help we need,

We have to know where we're going,

What we want from life,

From the moment,

Where we're struggling,

Where we could improve.

Now we may be immediately aware of the answers to some of those questions,

But I would hazard a guess that there is always more to uncover.

Am I able to ask for and accept the help I need?

Now that question is asking me,

Well do I know what I need?

What do I need from life?

Because need versus want is an interesting concept.

I need food and water and oxygen.

I need shelter.

I need connection.

I need to feel like I have a purpose in life.

I need to have a goal,

A destiny.

These are the things that are arising inside my mind and wants are arising in my mind,

But those wants are typically things.

You know,

It could be a car,

A house,

Clothes,

Some piece of tech.

But really are those things needs?

They're more wants.

Now there is a base level of things we all need to survive,

But beyond that we rarely need much else.

This question makes me consider the possibility that I've been putting my wants or I've been labeling what I think I want into something that I think I need,

And the inability to fulfill those false needs is causing me duress.

Because the thing is,

There's an infinite number of things I want.

If I were to get myself a new car,

Pretty quickly I'd want something different,

Something more,

Something newer.

And the same thing is true for almost every purchase.

So as long as I can provide the things that I actually need in life,

And can recategorize those needs into wants,

That's a positive thing.

This question is also making me consider what I truly value in life.

Everyone values different things,

And there are things that I value over other things.

And if I can determine what those things that I value are,

I can head towards them,

Not accidentally head away from them.

Because were I to do or act or purchase down one path,

The opportunity cost is blocked down other paths.

And wouldn't it be a shame to block off things that I truly value,

For things that I merely want.

Now let's address the other part of this question,

The ego part of this question.

Can I ask for and accept the help I need?

If I know what I need,

What I truly need from this world,

Then asking for what I need and accepting that help becomes far easier.

Because it is a true need,

It is something that I need from this world.

It becomes far easier to ask for,

Because not only is there less in terms of volume,

But there's also feels more acceptable to ask for those things.

Because I should be able to have my needs for life met.

And there's this little sort of niggling feeling that when I'm asking for something that's a want,

It sort of highlights the selfishness or the,

The word,

I don't like the word,

But the word patheticness is coming to my mind because I'm feeling like I don't truly need it.

Part of me knows that by asking for this thing that I merely want,

I'm pushing away from what I truly need and to ask for it,

To impose upon someone else with that ask for something I merely want.

Doesn't feel a hundred percent quite right to my values.

But then I dig deeper.

I should be able to ask for what I want,

If what I'm asking for,

If those wants are good.

You know,

I want to be able to project my message to the world.

I want to bring peace.

I want to bring love.

I want to bring joy.

I want to help people.

And I also want to just enjoy my life.

And being able to ask for that doesn't seem like too much.

But can I ask for what I want?

There's an embarrassment there.

There's an ego cut there.

There's something there that's sort of highlighting the agency that I feel like I should have.

I should be able to attain the things I want.

But if I put the shoe on the other foot and look at when people ask me for things,

For what they need or what they want,

A lot of the time if I can help them,

Well I aim to help them,

Don't I?

And it brings joy to my life,

Helping those people.

And in fact,

If people spoke up and asked me for what they want,

For what they need more often,

It would make that relationship deeper and stronger.

If they were to accept that help,

Now we're working together towards a goal.

So part of me wonders,

If I can ask for,

Accept the help I need,

Or even just the help I want,

Would that bring me closer to other people?

Provided I'm asking from a place of positivity and purpose and drive and the things I'm aiming towards getting are good,

There only seems to be upside here.

So I guess I just need to take a breath,

Swallow my pride a little bit and ask.

So,

Am I able to ask for and accept the help I need?

Am I able to ask for and accept the help I need?

Well done.

This brings us to the end of our session.

At the bottom of your screen,

You'll see an option to view the classroom or to ask a question.

Before moving on,

I invite you to take a moment to click through and share your insights,

To read the answers from other students and to hear my replies.

Remember to start your responses with Session 3 or to restate the question,

So we know which one you're referring to.

This is an opportunity for deep learning,

Further introspection and insight,

So please don't miss out.

I look forward to seeing you in the next session.

This track was taken from the course Discover Your Divine Purpose.

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